To Live Without Regrets?

Regrets are mostly for cowards, fools and the inexperienced
Regrets have stories
Regrets were situations
Regrets had conditions
Regrets become significant 
Regrets can also become forgotten with growth and success
Regrets multiply with age and diminish with accomplishments
Regrets are the equations in all our calculations

But those without regrets, are those who know No Risks and experienced no adventures

How boring of a life to not harbor any regrets....

LUV ME, Love You

love

D

O

E

S

not

k
e
e
p

A Record of what is Wright and what went Rong....

Love forgives
Love justifies
Love unities
Love embraces
Love accepts
Love encompasses
Love is Tragic

with Love
we grow
we learn
we e v o l v e

Love has no walls...no boundaries
No punishment
Only Convictions

Live.Learn.Love.

Yourself
and
Each Other

He had to Decide

Of where to live, and where I had to die
He forgot his loyalty, he lost our trust...
On this glistening globe, meant for our skies
It's there, where his treasures shine
His heart, golden with ashes
Floating high and far
Above the heavens, beyond our stars
Driven by desire, motivated by an unrelenting oath
Let me be his bearer, 
And reside amongst a coven of thieves and gods
Bowing to mercy, bound with honor
Live, experience...die
I once spoke, I once walked
Now my bones lay secret in a ground
That forgot it's morals
Registered it criminals
and
Betrayed our trust
Dishonored our ancestors 
and
Stole our Souls
H
O
W
dare the Devil
In that disguise
Come, run and hide
Behind a wall of dishonest lies....
Hath No Vice, like my grip around the throat of this fate
L
I
E
to me,
Seduce my mind
Make, my life
The dream we once had
and let us die together tonight
Hold my Hand
As we bathe our spirits in faith's flight
S
L
E
E
P
pretty baby, let me never wake...
For your lies have held me steady in a comfort of our heaven
That I always wanted...

I, demand it All
and want nothing less...
How Dare you...

BREAKING NEWS:

The Pity Train
has JUST derailed at the Intersection of
Suck it Up
&
Move On
and Crashed into
We ALL have Problems....
before coming to a screeching stop at
Get the Fuck Over It!

All Complaints about
How I Operate
Should be Shared at:
One-Eight Hundred-Waa-Whaa
Hello Everyone, I'm Dr. Sniffles
and I am reporting LIVE from
Quitchur Fussin.

If you don't like what you Read....
Here, there...or anywhere
Boo Whoo to you!
Suck it up like a cupcake,
Life does NOT revolve
Around
YOU!
Got It?
Good!
Now keep it,
Thank you for reading and being so understanding.

Rich and Nasty Or Poor and Commendable?

What's the Point
Of being Rich

IF

The heart is Selfish?

Why corrupt the soul
With the irrelevance of Materialism?
Why Taint Love
or
Bribe the Heart?

Why can't life be the way it once was

Simple and Animalistic

W
H
Y
?

Would this be such a chore
and why would I ignore
My heart, my love and my soul?

How Far would you go?

Bad luck...
Getting hit in the balls

Stupidity...
Letting someone hit you in the balls

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=S8lAH9l8h44

"Sleeping with Friends"

by
Neon Tree

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=BB7R0ZY9w94&feature=kp

Beware of the Quiet Ones?

"It's the quiet ones you gotta watch; 

this sounds to me like a very dangerous assumption...

I will bet you anything that

while you're watching a quiet one...

a noisy one will fucking kill you! 

Suppose you're in a

bar and one guy's sitting over on a side

reading a book, not bothering anybody and

another guys standing at the front with a

machete banging on the bar saying I'll kill

the next motherfucker who comes in here!

Who're you gunna watch?"





- The Genius George Carlin

A Babe and Her Two Beaus...

The Travesty, Comedy and Tragedy in the Science of Relationships...
Relationships are finicky, since our heart often betrays our minds.

So...here is the scoop:
Ok....so,
She has a child
and a Boyfriend
and an Ex that she never formally broken off a relationship with (perhaps a judge did that for her)
She loves both Men
Both Men want to get married to her
Both men are here in her picture....
What Should She Do?


First off, I can't be the one deciding your direction.  I can only simply point you in a way...And Then...you make Your decision.
You can't possibly even think of getting engaged until you sort this out.  You have a few options:

Option A You decide to close the door on your Ex, and move onward and forward with your present boyfriend.

Option B break it off with your current beau and get back together with your Ex.

Option C Break it off with your boyfriend, yet continue to date him and your Ex until you decide which of the two suits you best.  This is the riskiest option because they may then decide that you are playing them...And they may not want to stick this through with you.

These are your three basic options, and the decision MUST come from your heart. (In all actuality it should not matter what anyone else says or thinks).  After all you do have a child to consider for in this equation.
Good Luck in what you decide

I Never Worry, neither SHOULD You

Worry is, sadly, an inevitability of life. Bad things are bound to happen, and the natural human reaction is to think about the negative consequences that could potentially arise.

However, worry is rarely productive -- "it's something we do over and over again, without much resolution, and it's typically of the worst-case scenario of the future," explains Jason Moser, Ph.D., an assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Michigan State University, who has conducted studies on worry.

"There’s always an element of uncertainty, always an element of catastrophe," he tells HuffPost. Unlike fear, which has a more pin-pointable source (like a spider on the wall), people worry over "an amorphous, future uncertain threat -- something bad that might happen."

While the research isn't clear on the extent to which people are predisposed to worry, it is clear that there are some personality types that are more linked to worrying than others. Neuroticism seems to be tied to worrying, for instance, as is general intolerance of uncertainty, Moser says. And while everyone worries from time to time, it is possible to worry so much that it starts to have a noticeable impact on your daily life.

But even if you are a worrier, you're not doomed -- there are a number of effective strategies that worriers can use to stop the cycle. Moser and Christine Purdon, Ph.D., a licensed psychologist, professor and executive director of the Centre for Mental Health Research at the University of Waterloo, shared some of the most effective habits and strategies for squelching worry, as well as some common traits shared by people who aren't bogged down by it:

They focus on the present.

Perhaps one of the biggest differences between worriers and non-worriers is the ability to stay in the present, and not get bogged down by things that have yet to happen. Purdon calls it a "worry chain" -- the idea that one worry will spur a "what if," which spurs another worry and another "what if," and so on. Non-worriers are able to look at a problem and recognize what solution needs to be implemented, "but a worrier isn't able to get that kind of distance," she explains. "The mind goes a lot faster."

For instance, say your son comes home with a bad grade. If you're a worrier, you might then worry that this will cause your son to fail the class, which will then impair him from getting into college. However, if you're a non-worrier, you'll realize that the immediate issue at hand is just that your son needs to study harder in this particular class -- and that's that. "I'm able to say, 'He usually does really well, he's smart, he’s dedicated, he’ll be fine; this is a blip, not a pattern,'" Purdon says. Whereas when worriers become anxious, their "intentional focus narrows to threat cues. They can get themselves very anxious very quickly."

They practice mindfulness.
(Although Worry Worts accuse me of being unmindful)
Bologna!
It's what I Say!

Because staying in the present is so fundamental to squashing worry, practicing mindfulness can help you to steer focus away from a hypothetical issue that could develop down the road. "It keeps you in the here and now and it helps you be more aware of your thoughts," Purdon says.

And therapy, such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and acceptance and commitment therapy, can also help worriers stop the negative cycle, since they focus "on the idea of not wrestling and disconfirming the worries, but getting people to focus on their life and values and focus on the present moment so they can make decisions," Moser adds.

Their brains actually function differently in a worry-inducing event.

Moser recently had a study come out in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology, showing that the brains of worriers and non-worriers actually work differently in a stressful event. For the study, Moser and his colleagues had 71 female study participants answer surveys that indicated whether they were generally positive thinkers or negative thinkers/worriers. Then, the participants looked at negative images -- such as a woman having a knife held to her throat by a masked man -- as their brain activity was monitored and recorded.

Moser found that the brains of the positive thinkers were less active than those of the negative thinkers/worriers. In fact, "the worriers actually showed a paradoxical backfiring effect in their brains when asked to decrease their negative emotions,” he explained in a statement. “This suggests they have a really hard time putting a positive spin on difficult situations and actually make their negative emotions worse even when they are asked to think positively.”

They're more willing to take chances.

While worriers have a hard time making decisions -- they take a long time because they can become crippled by all the potential negative outcomes -- non-worriers are more willing to test out solutions to a problem even if a bad outcome is possible, Moser says. In that same vein, non-worriers are also more flexible in the way they think about things, so they don't get stuck in a negative thinking rut.

They have a sense of perspective.



Non-worriers are able to distance themselves from a situation in order to gain perspective. However, worriers can increase their perspective, Moser explains. One method for doing this is thinking of all the worst possible scenarios, and then evaluating how likely each of them is to really happen. For example: If a worrier is concerned about losing her job, she may jump to the worst-case scenario, which is that she will end up living under a bridge, homeless and alone. But Moser says that talking a worrier through a scenario like this helps her understand how unlikely that outcome is to happen.

Moser suggests another simple strategy to gain perspective: Using your own name instead of "I" when referring to your emotions. For instance, saying "I'm going to fail" is harsh and doesn't allow any distance between you and the thing you're worried about. But "if you talk about yourself in the third person, you can take better perspective," Moser says.

They get to the root of their worry.

The problem with worrying is that it can spin out of control until the thing you're worried about is 10 steps removed from your immediate issue. That's why it's so important to figure out what the real problem is in order to stop the worry cycle.

"When I work with worriers, I try to work on them with problem identification, and to help them be comfortable doing that," Purdon says. "Yes, there are some problems that could lead to something else, but [let's] not worry about that right now because it's not happening right now."

It's important to move from problem-generation, which is what worriers are prone to do, to problem-solving. "Worriers think what they're doing is constructive -- that by anticipating [the future problems], it's helpful in some way," Purdon says. "It's reasonable, to some extent, to do that, but they can't stop themselves once they get started."

They don't stop worrying -- they just designate time for it.



"One of the reasons why people engage their worry is they think, 'This is an issue I must sort out now, I have to anticipate and plan against these outcomes.' It grabs attention off what they need to be attending to, whether it be job, spouse, kids, whatever," Purdon explains. So, she recommends using a strategy called the "worry chair." It works like this -- reserve a 15-minute time during the day where you can just think and ponder over your worries on your own. Don't worry outside those 15 minutes, and make sure that you're spending your worry session in the same spot (hence the term "worry chair"!) each day.

"What that means is when you're worried during the day, you can say, 'I'll think about that later. I can switch my attention off that and go on to other things,'" Purdon says. "And what they find is, 'I'm not even worried about that anymore.' But giving them permission to worry about it, but later, allows them to switch the attention away from the thought."

They have confidence they can handle whatever comes at them.

"People with high worry not only generate ideas about what could go wrong, they also lack confidence in their ability to cope with what could go wrong," Purdon explains, adding that this is ironic considering worriers actually perform quite well in a crisis since they've spent so much time thinking about the worst-case scenarios and have normal coping abilities. Non-worriers, on the other hand, possess the confidence that if something were to happen, they'll just ... handle it.

They have the ability to see positive outcomes in seemingly bleak situations.

Take the graphic image Moser used in his Journal of Abnormal Psychology study, described earlier. If you were to look at an image of a woman being held at knifepoint by a masked man, what do you think the next immediate outcome would be? A worrier would likely only think of the worst-case scenario, while a non-worrier would have the capacity to think, "That woman is in distress, but maybe she breaks away from her assailant and runs to safety," Moser explains. Non-worriers are able to see that there could be a positive outcome to a negative event.

They ask themselves the right questions.



Worriers who are trying to tamp down on their worrying tendencies could find it useful to ask themselves a series of questions when they're going down a negative path. "Ask, 'Is it my problem?" And secondly, 'Do I have any control over it?'" Purdon says. "Thirdly, the next question people can ask themselves is, 'Have I already done everything about it that I can? And is it imminent?' If it's not imminent, then there's no reason to worry about it now."

They know how to perceive their negative emotions. 
"The most severe chronic worriers [are] less accepting of their emotions, which means they're intolerant of uncertainty and also find negative emotions in particular to not be very acceptable," Moser explains. Meanwhile, people who have a healthier psychological outlook tend to look at negative emotions as a sign that whatever is causing those emotions -- whether it be relationships, or work, or bills -- needs attention. They use emotions to make informed decisions.



Article by
Amanda L Chan
"11 Habits of People Who NEVER Worry"

Is a cupcake unethical?

And impractical,
Also illogical...
A bit unpredictable!
Somewhat unusable,
Never infallible.

Unethical you ask?  
Why not just soak me in a drastic bucket of this world's cruel ways...how dare you bake me a cupcake!?

A Ten Word Story

Happy Endings...

Only Happen in 

Fairy Tales and 

massage parlors.

To an Old Friend

A true literary explorer into the ingenious experimentation in human conduct...

Hope all is going Well Mr Gwydion Frost

thirdworldnetwork.blogspot.com

Year of the Durian

How about some wine made from durian?

http://www.yearofthedurian.com/2013/08/durian-and-alcohol-deadly-mix.html#.U01_L5K9KK0

23

She's my star
So High, so far
Brimming with light
Ever so bright
Illuminating 
My earth, my seas...
my sky....my world
She's everywhere...
In my thoughts ,
rooted through my spirit
Feeding hope, nurturing this lost soul
She comforts me,
Like a blanket in the midst of a dreary winter
Protecting me from my forlorn solitude...
But, much Like a Thief,
Having run off with my heart
Dancing beyond my horizon...
Waiting, patiently...
Calmly, for
This Race to come to an end
F
O
R
W
A
R
D
Upward
and Onward
...
time, time will come
Time will come to pass
For these words to come to rest

Rien n'arrive par hassard

"Rien n'arrive par hasard" est un roman autobiographique racontant l'histoire hors du commun de Jin Xing, née en Chine en 1967 destinée à une carrière militaire, qui réussit à exaucer ses vœux les plus chers : voyager et danser sur les scènes du monde entier et retrouver sa vraie personnalité en devenant une femme.

A son entrée en classe préparatoire, Jin Xing a l'opportunité d'être engagée dans la troupe de danse de l'école militaire de Shenyang en Mandchourie. La discipline y est très stricte : levé à 5 h 30 et utilisation d'une poulie pour "aider" les enfants à hisser la jambe le plus haut possible. Elle y apprend le ballet russe, les acrobaties de l'opéra de Pékin (forme de danse folklorique traditionnelle) et le théâtre. A cela s'ajoutent les manœuvres afin d'apprendre à devenir un soldat.

Le premier ballet que Jin Xing danse est "Les Papillons aiment les fleurs" qui remporte un vif succès auprès du public. Il découvre également "le Lac des cygnes et tombe littéralement sous le charme de la danseuse étoile qui pour lui est l'incarnation de la grâce.

Jing Xing s'ennuie dans son école et voudrait bien voir d'autres horizons. Cette chance lui est offerte grâce à l'un de ses anciens professeurs qui lui propose de poursuivre ses études à l'institut des arts de l'Armée populaire de libération à Beijing. Même si la discipline y est beaucoup plus dure qu'à celle de Shenyang Jin Xing reçoit la satisfaction d'être reconnue pour ses talents de danseur, en particulier en danses folklorique et acrobatique.

A dix-sept ans, son certificat d'étude en poche Jin Xing rentre à Shenyang et décide de participer à un grand concours national : la Coupe des élèves devant se dérouler à Beijing. Elle y danse un solo de danses du Pamir dont la difficulté est grande puisque cela consiste à danser sur les pointes sans chaussons en suivant un rythme soutenu pendant six minutes.

Bien lui en a pris, car cela lui donne le passeport pour la France représenter sa délégation à la Fête de l'Humanité de 1985 à la Cité internationale. L'année suivante elle s'envole pour la Corée du Nord. Puis elle revient en Chine, plus précisément à Canton, pour y apprendre la danse moderne et tenter de décrocher une bourse pour étudier aux Etats-Unis.

Cette bourse lui est accordée sans difficulté et une fois sur place Jin Xing s'inscrit à de nombreux stages avec des chorégraphes de renom tels que Martha Graham, Balanchine, Alvin Ailey ou Paul Taylor qui apprécient fortement sa technique.

Mais c'est son travail avec Murray Louis qui lui ouvrira les portes de la gloire et l'adoration du public. En effet, elle reprend le deuxième mouvement de sa création "Déjà Vu" : Tremblement auquel elle apporte toute sa sensibilité.

Jin Xing poursuit son chemin en Caroline du Nord à l'American Dance Festival en 1989 où elle est invitée pour présenter une chorégraphie de danse moderne. S'ensuivent Rome, Bruxelles (elle danse avec Michel Vanuck qui faisait partie de la troupe de Maurice Béjart et prend des cours de danse au Conservatoire royal).

L'année de ses vingt-huit ans, Jin Xing prend la décision de retourner en Chine pour se faire opérer afin de changer de sexe. Malheureusement l'opération tourne mal et elle se voit handicapée d'une jambe écrasée dans un étrier. Mais Jin Xing rebondit comme elle a toujours su le faire et à force d'acharnement elle arrive à récupérer certaines facultés de sa jambe, bien qu'elle se déplace toujours avec sa canne, entame une carrière de chorégraphe et dirige sapropre compagnie de danse.

- See more at: http://www.danseraparis.fr/jin-xing-rien-n-arrive-par-hasard.php#sthash.5hrSuIMD.dpuf

The Great Land of Liars and Fakers

Yes...you know who you are...
A
N
D
one day...you'll know that...it's all for naught.

lie all you want, I don't care...
No, I won't...
Don't you dare...because it won't matter...not one little bit...Not A Single Care!
Lie to me? Lie to you? Lie to him...
a
l
l
you want.
But know this, I know.
I know who and what you've done.  Where you have been.
What's happened.
I know it all.
and ALL I have to say is....
You little liar!  You little faker!

A N D
To all those fakers out there...
Go
Fake
This!!!

For all you liars and fakers, here is a story...
Article by
Kathryn Doyle
http://in.reuters.com/article/2014/04/11/us-romantics-sexts-idINBREA3920F20140411

Grandma and Her Strippers

Photo: Ray, Mitev and Associates)

A nursing home is getting sued after the son of a resident discovered a photo of his 86-year-old mother with Apollo, a male stripper (the son's wife was also an active participant  within the group activity).

In the photo, Bernice Youngblood, a resident of East Neck Nursing and Rehabilitation Center in West Babylon, N.Y., is putting money in the man's underwear.

"She was told by the staff that she was to put her money in his pants," said John Ray, the lawyer representing Youngblood and her son, Franklin.

The elder Youngblood has dementia and was "humiliated and degraded" by the incident, Ray said in an interview with USA TODAY Network.

The nursing home's lawyer says it was the residents' idea to bring in the stripper. Lawyer Howard Fensterman, representing East Neck, said a 16-member panel of residents voted to have the stripper perform and pay him $250, reports WCBS-TV.

"There is nothing inappropriate about it. These are adults," Fensterman said, according to WCBS.

USA TODAY Network has requested comment from Fensterman. When reached by phone, a representative at the East Neck facility said "no comment."

Ray said the New York attorney general's office is now looking into the stripper incident at the nursing home. The attorney general's office declined to comment.

Bernice Youngblood has lived at East Neck for five years, and now her son is "taking steps to get her out of there," Ray said.

The Youngbloods are seeking $10 million in punitive damages and an unspecified amount for Bernice Young's emotional distress, Ray said.

Article by Jolie Lee from USA TODAY

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Foxy Goddess

You are what you are,
and that is in the who it is that you are...
A fox, a doll...a stunning goddess 
Standing tall, far on a horizon
Showing me a door
Down this road
Leading me to my paradise...
Far, far away
On the other side of the World
Golden,
Grand...
Fantastical
A World...meant
For the here and Now
Judge not the path...
But find the beauty in its purity...
C
O
M
E
find the home...
Half a lifetime, and a world apart...