Friday, August 31, 2012

I am Most Unique when the Blue Moon Rises...

I am the stars above the heavens, the soil beneath your feet...
I swim in your oceans, and fly through your skies...
I am a son, a brother and father...
A cousin, a neighbore, a friend...
My blood boils with fire, brimstone and passion...
My temper calmly wades in cool gentle waters...
My tears rain freedom...and my sighs breathe relief...
I help the daughters, sisters and mothers that cross my journey...
I fulfilled every which wish that graces my tables...
and every desire that coins its stack in my pockets...
I roam like a panther in a lawless jungle...
I stalk like a hawk, the prey that lose their course...
The herds in the fields are free of my presence,
The fences shield them from my shadows...

I refuse to be captured...I refuse to be contained
I am the light, I am the dark...
I am the good, I hold the bad...it's my decision
What to do...and where to go...

Pray we all find our road, and we see our path
Clear of obstacles...free of turmoil

I am no one, and I am everyone...
I am the poet, who scribes the world
From the eyes I see...

Thursday, August 23, 2012

It's hard to Believe

If your voice gets lost and goes unheard...

If your thoughts never get shared...or your dreams never felt

When your prayers fall on deaf ears,
and your hopes get washed aside....

It breeds a lonesome feeling,
Where justice does not exist...

It makes you trust in the corrupt and unjust...
But, if indeed you shout loud enough...just maybe, you get heard.

Monday, August 20, 2012

Joyce McFadden writes

15 Questions About Human Sexuality you should discuss with your Daughters.
In her article "Why 6-Year-Old Girls Want to be Sexy,"Jennifer Abbasi writes, "Most girls as young as 6 are already beginning to think of themselves as sex objects, according to a new study of elementary school-age kids in the Midwest."
The academic study she refers to, published in the behavioral science journal Sex Roles, examines the media's emphasis on the sexualization of girls and women. It also finds that a mother's instruction and perspective can either interrupt or exacerbate our daughters' succumbing to it.
The good news? Here again we see the power mothers have to raise grounded, self-assured girls who can grow into grounded, self-assured women -- girls who become women comfortable in their bodies and able to experience desire without shame or comparison to Victoria's Secret models.
The bad news? We're not maximizing that power. According to what daughters have to say, we still don't talk to them about sexuality in ways that help them revere their bodies and human sexuality. We're not seizing the opportunity to replace all that objectified, performance-based, airbrushed, competitive sexuality (that I like to refer to as Sex from a Can) with information on what sexuality is like in real life.
If we want to dilute social pressures on our girls to be sexy, we have to offer them an alternative: Our validation of their true sexuality as they'll grow into it and experience it over their lifetimes. And we'll get an amazing bonus out of it: Our daughters will learn to trust and respect themselves, and -- judging by what daughters in my research say -- they'll also trust and respect us, which in turn makes them feel closer to us throughout their lives.
Young daughters want to look up to their mothers as role models for what it means to be female. They want us to be confident enough to show them the ropes. This doesn't mean they want to hear the specifics of our sex lives. It means they want us to teach them to respect the female body we share. When they're little they want to know about their anatomy; later they want to know about menstruation and then ultimately about all of the complexities of desire's influence over the quality of the adult sexual relationships they'll encounter. They want to be supported in being true to themselves, not to the misrepresentations of sexuality they see all around them.
If we want to be there for our daughters and teach them about their bodies, sexuality and desire, we need to have an understanding of our own erotic life and its highly personal meaning to us. And we need to consider not just where we are now, but also how we got there from girlhood and what we hope for ourselves in the future.
If we're skittish talking about sexuality with them, one of the easiest ways to be less afraid is to tap into our own experiences and use them to connect with what our daughters need. Here are some questions to get us thinking about our own mothers' sexuality; how our sexual sense of self might have been shaped by them; how we then come to see our own sexuality and finally, how we might consider our influence on our daughters'.
WHEN WE THINK OF OUR MOTHERS
Questions a Mother Can Ask Herself as She Considers Her Mother's Sexuality
  • Do I know what my mother's sexual existence is/was like? How do I know this?
  • Do I want to have a sense of what my mother's sexual sense of herself is/was? Why or why not? What would it mean to me?
  • Do I hope that at some point in my mother's life she felt sexually swept away? Why or why not?What would it mean to me and what would it say about her?
  • What do I hope she experiences/experienced in her sexuality and desire throughout her life? Why is that what I would wish for her?
WHEN WE THINK OF OURSELVES
Questions a Mother Can Ask Herself as She Considers Her Own Sexuality
  • When I was a girl, did I ever feel confused, frightened, alone, naughty or dirty with regard to my sexuality? Am I positioning my daughter to feel any of those things?
  • How did my mother come through for me in helping learn about my sexuality?
  • How did my mother disappoint me in not helping me learn about my sexuality?
  • Do I have memories of being disconnected from my body, or being unable to get turned on because I was focusing more on what my partner was feeling? If so, what worry caused the disconnection?
  • How often do I undermine my own arousal by getting preoccupied with what I see as my physical flaws? Have I ever let my focus on my flaws get in the way of hearing how my partner desires me?
WHEN WE THINK OF OUR DAUGHTERS
Questions a Mother Can Ask Herself as She Considers Her Daughter's Sexuality
  • How might my daughter interpret my silence or reluctance to talk to her about her body and her sexuality? Will she think I believe it's wrong? Abnormal? Perverted? Not worth my time?
  • If my young daughter has a question about her sexuality, do I want her to think I don't want her to come to me? How do I expect her to know otherwise?
  • Do I want her to feel she can come to me throughout her life with sexual questions if she has them? How have I conveyed this to her?
  • When she's a woman, do I want her to be able to feel alive and connected not only to her lovers but to herself when she acts on her desire? How have I actively supported this grounding in herself?
  • Do I critique her body or my own in front of her? How do I imagine this will affect her confidence and how she expresses herself with her body in and out of bed?
  • Do I want her to be able to know and ask for what arouses her? How do I expect her to come by that confidence?
If our daughters feel safe talking about sexuality with us, then they won't be as inclined to look elsewhere for answers.
 

Sunday, August 19, 2012

My Masterful Grasp....

Teasing the mind has no limits,
No restrictions...
No Boundries...
better yet,
No inhibitions...

It's a landscape decorated by the own Artist,
Whom choose guests, with brushes...
and allows for an abstract collection
Of Desires
Of Wants
Of Wishes
and
Adventures

Anything goes here
Creativity is within the minds eye of the beholder...

I hoist the Olympic torch...
High in the Air
From the heavens
The Gods and Goddess see

The legends we crave...
Breathing heavy...
The complusive appetites we die for
Eager, impatient...impulsive
Lustful!!!  Sinful!!!
Satisfy the urge...

Melting in my puddles
From sweat and tears
where
Cries of pain mingle with moans of desire....

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

What would a Seventh Grader ask you?

A bunch of seventh graders were given an opportunity to anonymously write down questions about human reproduction.  Here are some of their Curiousities about human sexuality and procreation...

A) What is a Scrotum?
B) Is Trojan the Best for Protection?
C) Are there others ways to make a baby, but without having sex?
D) I heard that guys can have sex up until they die, is this True?
E) What are the different types of sexes?
F) Are there condoms for girls?  If so,  how do you put them on?
G) Why do we Have to learn about the reproductive system when boys are so immature?
H) How do sperm move? Can the Eggs break?

Friday, August 10, 2012

Article by Dan Fastenburg

Sometimes the job search pushes you to the edge. Take, for instance, the situation of Taylor Grey Meyer, a 31-year-old resident of Coronado, Calif., who is a published writer, a licensed pilot, and has completed a master's degree in sports commerce as well as coursework at the California Western School of Law. So after being rejected for 31 positions with the San Diego Padres baseball team, including a minimum-wage job selling tickets, she lost it when she received an invite to meet a group of hiring managers at the team's Petco Park -- at an admission price of $495. She dashed off a response.

"After careful review I must decline. I realize I may be burning a bridge here, but in the spirit of reciprocity, I would like to extend you a counter-offer to suck my d***," she replied in a faux-serious letter to the Padres obtained by Deadspin.com.

Her graphic suggestion was followed by more venting. "Let's talk about why I wasn't a good fit with your organization.... Was it my past experience overseeing the execution of national and international events? Wait, I know, maybe it was my previous internship with Major League Soccer."

In an interview with AOL Jobs, Meyer said that the decision to write the letter came after years of "bad luck" in the job market. She dropped out of law school, she says, because of finances and has defaulted on some of her loans.

"I've been looking for a job for years," she said by telephone. "I was supposed to go into the Air Force. But I was turned down because of arthroscopic surgery from a gymnastic injury from when I was in high school. And that started a trend of bad luck for me."


So when she was contacted by the Padres four days ago, and realized it wasn't about a job offer, but rather an invitation to spend money to search for a job, she took 15 minutes to write her response.

"I've gotten all these terrible form-rejections. I've had to default on loans, and no one wanted to hire me because i've been in school. It's just too much. I just had it. That's all it is," she says, adding it would be "flattering" to be a spokesperson for "people in the same position."

For now, she says she spends her days at the local Starbucks searching for jobs online. She is also working on a memoir, and is applying for a visa to teach English abroad, possibly in South Korea.

Her letter to the Padres is already going viral (though she says she hasn't gotten any job offers as a result). According to Deadspin, her letter has been forwarded to the sales divisions at the following professional sports teams: the Cleveland Cavaliers, the Lake Erie Monsters, the Arizona Diamondbacks, the New York Yankees, the Houston Astros, the Houston Dynamo, the Miami Marlins, the Miami Dolphins, the Boston Red Sox, the Chicago Cubs, the New York Mets, FC Dallas, the Washington Nationals, the Baltimore Orioles, the Minnesota Vikings, the Cincinnati Bengals, the Cleveland Gladiators, the Dayton Dragons and the Kansas City Chiefs.

This piece of writing is a marked change in Meyer's career. Just two years ago she published a children's book, "A Wig for Ally," which according to a webpage of her alma mater, the Univesity of Southern Florida, "teaches positive visualization to children undergoing chemotherapy." The book grew from her experience volunteering at a children's cancer research hospital in Florida. She says she hopes any attention she gets from her letter to the Padres letter will lead to a publishing house picking up her book, which they passed on the first time, because, in her words, it wasn't "lucrative enough."

But her note to the Padres might make Meyer the Howard Beale of unemployed America. (The character from the movie "Network" goes on a famous rant after losing his job, urging his TV audience to join him in shouting "I'm as mad as Hell, and I'm not going to take this anymore.")

For her part, Meyer probably had little to lose in telling off the Padres. She'd initially hoped to work in the team's sales office, but when that didn't pan out, she applied in March to work for minimum wage, selling tickets. But she was rejected again. "We have filled the position with someone whose background and credentials we feel best meet our needs at this time," the team wrote her.


In other words, she was probably overqualified, the most frustrating of possible reasons when you don't get a job that you've chosen to apply for. But of course, her contact information was on file with the team, so she was included on an email blast sent Aug. 5 inviting recipients to attend the upcoming Sports Sales Combine. It said attendees could "have the opportunity to spend quality time with the hiring managers for multiple teams from different leagues across the country." But it wasn't a "job fair," the letter noted, before going on to ask for the admission price.

Meyer's rejection is being appreciated by some members of the Padres organization. In speaking to Deadspin, one Padres employee found Meyer's response downright amusing.

"Taylor's letter was too incredible for anyone to get offended," said the Padres worker, who didn't want to be named. "I'm more impressed than angry."

Who got Arrested for 'Hooliganism'?

A Russian feminist Punk-Rock collective that stages Politically Provocative impromptu Performances in Moscow on Russia's current Politcal Life.
The group is called...
Pussy Riot

and back in March during an improvised (yet un sanctioned show) three Band Members were arrested and charged with HOOLIGANISM.
The women are set to go on trial.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qEiB1RYuYXw&list=PL596119EEA8603CA5&index=2&feature=plpp_video

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Fidelity

My experiment was a simple one...Article by Angela Lutin
As a writer and advice columnist writing about sex and relationships, I have become a confessional of sorts for those wanting to tell me the inner workings of their romantic endeavors. I have spent hundreds of hours interviewing and listening to men and women in a quest to determine what makes one relationship fail while another flourishes.
Everyday we are bombarded with stories of spouses that look for sexual satisfaction elsewhere. In a world where instant gratification is the only thing we've become accustomed to having, it is easier than ever for married men looking to cheat to find a way to break the fidelity bonds. I've been told those stories. The businessman that keeps an apartment for his girlfriend, or the seemingly content spouse that uses anonymous websites to find strangers to meet for an afternoon hotel tryst, and the hard working executive family man letting off steam on a "guys" trip only to visit a hotel suite filled with young women who are half his unsuspecting wife's age. Those stories are commonplace.
But what about the lives of those who remain faithfully monogamous, where monogamy has become the exception rather than the rule? I wanted to hear how they make it work. And so I sat down with three married, monogamous men to find out how they have kept vows they made many years before and what makes them different. They have allowed me to share their stories.
Angela Lutin: Why do you think married men cheat on their spouses?
Married Man 1: It's a grass is greener thing. Sure, we all go through it sometimes thinking our lives are routine and maybe momentarily think "what if" but I've never once been tempted by something strong enough that would ever break my loyalty to my wife.
Married Man 2: It's not just to your wife, it's loyalty to my family. I look at my life like this: My kids come first, then my wife, and then me. If I do something to disrespect my kids and my wife, only to satisfy myself, then the order is wrong.
AL: So are you tempted by other women?
Married Man 3: Every single day. Who isn't? (MM1 & MM2 reluctantly nod in silence)
AL: Do you think monogamy goes against inherent male traits?
MM1: Yeah, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
AL: Do you think your wives get tempted as well?
MM2: I don't think my wife runs into situations like that.
MM3: My wife is hot. I'm sure guys hit on her all the time. I just don't want to know about it.
AL: Obviously, the role of making a home for the family is sometimes underrated. Do you think because your wives being content in this role has something to do with why your marriages are successful? 

MM2: I come from a very traditional background. My parents have been married over 40 years. I learned from them that the order of importance is: my kids, my wife, and then me. No matter what. That is really what makes my marriage successful. That loyalty to them comes above anything else.
MM3: I think I can speak for all of us and say that we give our wives a very long leash. They go out, they go away for girls' weekends and there is trust. They give us the same. I wouldn't want a relationship where my wife told me I couldn't play golf on a Sunday or play in a softball league every week. When you start putting too many restrictions on your partner, that's when someone looks for a way to rebel.
AL: What are the biggest misconception about men and marriage that you'd like to clear up?
MM3: It's much more important to me that she orgasms during sex. I think women believe all we care about is getting ourselves off, but in reality, I don't feel like a man unless I've satisfied my woman.
MM1: People who are having sex don't get divorced. It's that simple.
MM2: No marriage is perfect. It takes work. You don't give up on your family for sex. Ever.

Four Signs of Bi-Polar Disorder

Fewer than half of Americans with bipolar disorder are properly diagnosed and treated, recent research shows. Could you spot bipolar symptoms – in yourself or in someone close to you?


Many people with bipolar disorder don’t even know they have it.
Fewer than half of people in the United States who show classic signs of bipolar disorder actually get diagnosed and treated, says a recent Archives of General Psychiatry report on a survey of more than 61,000 adults in 11 countries — the United States, Mexico, China, Japan, Brazil, Colombia, India, Lebanon, Bulgaria, Romania, and New Zealand. Bipolar patients in lower-income nations get even less treatment — in some cases, as few as 25 percent receive help.
 
Compared to the other 10 countries studied, the United States had the highest rate of bipolar disorder (4.4 percent of those surveyed fell somewhere on the bipolar spectrum). India had the lowest (0.1 percent). Overall, about 2.4 percent of those interviewed in the face-to-face survey could be classified as having bipolar disorder.
Bipolar Disorder’s Most Surprising Symptoms
It may be buzz-worthy these days, but many people don’t fully understand bipolar disorder and the symptoms that can lead to proper diagnosis and treatment. Bipolar, also sometimes called manic-depressive disorder, is characterized by shifts from extreme highs (known as mania) to emotional lows (depression), with “normal” moods in between.
It’s bipolar disorder’s manic phase that most sets it apart from other common mental health issues, such as depression and anxiety. While many people associate mania with high energy and exaggeratedly good moods, these other key symptoms are more subtle:
  • Reckless spending . If a friend is blowing her paycheck on shopping sprees she can’t afford, watch out. A person in a manic phase of bipolar disorder is more likely to take big risks, including spending splurges that can lead to mountains of unmanageable debt.
  • Super-charged sex drive . A sudden revving up of a person's sex drive, obsessively thinking or talking about sex, or engaging in sexual encounters he otherwise wouldn’t (like a one-night stand or sex with someone he doesn't know well) are all symptoms of hypersexuality, another less-obvious mania clue.
  • Alcohol or drug abuse. These often go hand-in-hand with manic episodes: As many as 60 percent of people with bipolar disorder have abused alcohol or drugs at some point in their lives. Depressants such as alcohol or pain pills can send a person with mania straight into depression, while stimulants like cocaine can have the opposite effect.
  • Skimping on shut-eye. Little need for sleep is another red flag that a person may be having a manic episode.
Read about other common bipolar symptoms, including those related to depressive episodes.

Related: What Not to Say to Someone With Bipolar Disorder


Keep in mind that bipolar disorder can vary greatly in severity, and not everyone experiences every symptom. In fact, some patients experience hypomania, a less mild form of mania. But even hypomania, if left untreated, could spin into depression or develop into full-blown mania.
One important takeaway from the Archives study is that across all countries, patients with bipolar disorder faced challenges in their daily lives and were at increased risk of such health problems as panic attacks, substance abuse, and suicide. Untreated bipolar disorder can also lead to troubled relationships with friends and family and problems at work. If you’re concerned about yourself or a friend or loved one, get more information here on the best treatments for bipolar disorder.


Article by
Katie Kerns

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Eyes

You are the Dream..in the light
The Sparkle in the Sky

You lull sailors,
and Soothe Volcanoes

You are the hopes
and all
The dreams

Monday, August 6, 2012

Where

I refuse to live anywhere other then New Yawk (as we say)!  I really can't see myself anywhere else.
There is this level of comfort that comes with being surrounded by such obnoxiousness...and there is this part of me, that loves to smack the sense back into the obnoxious.
Light the path, shall we say, for those lacking insight and depth?
Smoothing out the meaness..
Bridging the world of vanilla and prejudice...?
Wake the dead...
I say, spread the truth...and hold no Credibilities prisoner.  No facts unturned...
It said that
Ignorance is bliss...
I say it's the falsehood that lies create
And stagnancy thrives on...

Take a look!!

During the Night from August 12 to the 13,
People on Earth
Have the opportunity
To Witness
One of the Rarest
Meteor Showers seen through Human Eyes...
During the Night,
Thousands of these falling starts
Can be seen..all the way, up until August 23rd.
But...ideal visibility will be during the night of August 12th....
There is a predicted number of about 100 meteors an hour..

Friday, August 3, 2012

Mermaid or Whale?

Wednesday, August 1, 2012

Second Chances...

Five decades after they divorced, Lena Henderson and Roland Davis said "I do" again -- to each other.
The Seneca, New York pair married as teenagers and were together for 20 years before they divorced in 1964 after four children together. One of those children -- their oldest daughter, Johnnie Mae Funderbirk -- is a big reason they're back together, reports Buffalo News.
Funderbirk encouraged her father to move from Colorado back to New York after his second wife died a few months ago, where she hoped he would reconnect with her mother.
The couple never lost touch during their nearly 50 years apart, frequently talking on the phone (Henderson had even counseled Davis' then-new wife on how to deal with him). Davis popped the question -- again -- to Henderson over the phone after deciding to move back to New York. She said "yes," and he soon flew to Buffalo with the engagement ring pinned to his shirt out of fear of losing it during the flight.
Davis and Henderson will tie the knot again on Saturday August 4th at a church in Seneca. However, the jury is still out on whether or not remarrying an spouse is a good idea. Click through the slideshow below to see what the Twitterverse has to say about "I do" redos.