What are the Telltale Signs of Emotionally Mature Men?

My blog has been read in over eighty countries, by somewhere in te neighborhood of a hundred thousand people world wide.  The most popular engine search that brings readers my way is the question:
When do men emotionally mature?
The answer to that question varies between individuals.  The mode (statistical value that occurs most frequently) answer unfortunately is 43 years old.  Sorry ladies.  On the flip side, the female mode value is 32 years old.  Theoretically, the ideal match would be a 43 year old male with a thirty two year old woman.  That would be the point in which their emotional maturities would coincide....but again, this is all individually based on other factors such as environment and genetic make up.  
Since I am not quite 43 years old....Theoretically, I am not fully emotionally mature based on this mode value.  Nonetheless, I feel that I met my emotional maturity quite some time ago when I started to refuse seeking to be enabled by others.
So, with that I present you an article and a seperate link to an second article on male maturity.
Read at ypur leisure.  Enjoy!



     Have you ever dated a great guy who seems like he’s got “it all together,” only to find out weeks or months later that he’s really more of a boy than a man? If so, you know trying to build a relationship with an emotionally immature guy is like trying to build a house out of cards. Having a fulfilling, honest, loving long-term relationship is hard enough with two grown-ups. If one partner isn’t capable of really showing up, it won’t work

Wouldn’t it be great if you could identify the guys who were mature enough to be a good partner before wasting a bunch of time and getting physically and emotionally involved? So let me ask you. Do you know what an emotionally mature man look like? How does he act? How does he respond to conflict?

Here are 5 telltale signs of an emotionally mature man.

1) He’s Decisive

Have you met guys who just can’t seem to make a decision? They waffle, they stress, they can’t seem to make up their minds. The emotionally mature guy has no problems making decisions about life, relationships and commitments without wavering or stressing out. He’s clear about wanting to be with you and he’s clear about what he wants with a woman and in a relationship. He doesn’t go “hot and cold.”

2) He Takes Responsibility

If you hear a man complaining about things in his life, blaming others and generally experiencing a lack of control, he’s not just unlucky, he’s lacking maturity. The mature man is nobody’s victim. He takes responsibility for his actions. You’ll rarely see him whine, and he doesn’t blame others when things go wrong. Instead he’s in service to making things right.

3) He Has a Higher Purpose

You know those guys who are absolutely passionate about their work or their cause? This is a sign that they’re more emotionally mature than the guys whose lives revolve 

solely around themselves. The mature man has a purpose in life greater than himself. If you see that a man is committed to a larger purpose, it’s a safe bet that he’s done “the work.”

4) He Has Close Relationships

The best true signal of how a man will handle his relationship with you is how he relates to others he’s closest to. Look at his relationships. What are his friendships like? Sure he has “buddies,” but does he have intimate friendships? The mature man is comfortable being truly close and open with others in his life.

5) He’s Capable of Expressing Himself 

A mature man doesn’t just stuff his feelings down inside. He doesn’t always come right out and say it, but he can explain his feelings, his choices, and his likes and dislikes. If he can’t express what he’s thinking, or gets frustrated, irritated, or mad at you for wanting to communicate and share feelings, then you’re dealing with an emotionally immature man.

The mature man can express what’s going on in his heart and mind without outbursts or withdrawal. If you seem to attract emotionally immature guys, pay attention to the signs of a mature man so you can avoid repeating the pattern.

When you get involved with an immature guy, and try to deal with and make things work with him, your life will get messy and you’ll start acting immature as well. Immaturity is contagious. If you pay attention, you will quickly and easily begin to see the signs of emotional maturity (and also the LACK of those signs) so you can make the best possible choice for yourself.

You deserve a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship with a man who’s ready and willing to do his part in creating a great relationship. He should be able to “show up” with you.

I’ve helped thousands of women – single and in relationships – understand how to identify the RIGHT man and grow a relationship into a loving and lasting love affair.

I’ll talk with you again soon, and Best of luck in Life and in Love.

Article by

Christian Carter 

Author of the Book

"Catch Him & Keep Him"

As an added bonus, here is a link to a similar article from the Male perspective on the same topic.
Please read, learn and enjoy!



https://www.majorleaguedating.com/ways-you-are-an-immature-guy-boy-and-not-a-real-man/

Seeing is Believing

We all have gifts.  Some more useful than others.

My gift is the ability to look into your soul and explain all the simple and intricate complexities that comprise of the whole.  Now, the matter of truths becomes the issue.  Most times, I feel that we are in denial.  Denial is the least complicated explanation of the question why (or what).  By denying, we lack ownerip of accountability...and life is all about accountability.



I once asked a blind man if they wished that they could see.
He told me that there is nothing worth seeing that can't be heard.  Plus, what's the sense of seeing if you don't understand what you see.

Ivanhoe and a Shake

This woman walks into a library and straight to the main desk.  

The librarian asks her: "yes, can I help you?"

The woman immediately replies:

  "I'll have one hamburger, medium fries and one small soda please."

The confused librarian tells this woman: "excuse me ms, but you've walked into a library."

The woman says, "oh I'm sorry", 

and whispers  "I'll have one hamburger, medium fries and one small soda please."

We All have Scars

Some scars are visible, yet most, unfortunately remain naked to the eye.  Leaving those around us susceptible to the unknown hazards of all invisible obstacles presented by the unpredictable consequences from our scarring safeguards.
Poor us.
Poor you.
Poor everyone.
So, unbeknownst to all those who get intertwined, be aware of what may lay ahead, or below...possibly above....maybe in between.
You just never know how to anticipate what unseen scars present.
Consider yourself warned, and not just on my end...but by all ends.

Now, on a more important note!
How to deal with these situational traps?
Learn the person and understand the situation.  Make the adjustments. Deal with those scars with a delicate and diplomatic, person appropriate approach.  Don't anticipate their response, as much as, accept and look to be sympathetic to their situation.
Remember my friends, it's better to be understanding than understood.

With that said...

Fool me once, your bad...
Fool me twice, I should have listened to those I chose not to hear.

Got it?
Good!
Keep it.
Otherwise, no one will bother to care beyond your scar.
If they even see one.
Otherwise, an unseen scar is just that...nothing....
Making you mostly misunderstood.

And trust me, I know how it feels to be misunderstood.
It sucks like sand in the desert.
Leading to...
Somehow you sprout a cactus, and then every wonders how you've come to sport a cactus.
By default,
Making you someone with a cactus.
And,
Who
would trust someone with a cactus?

Scars come in many forms.

For those who care too much

by Kevin Meaney


https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=PG-qCyYZRms