Tuesday, April 30, 2013

If food were hungry, here is a thought

"I want you to be yourself. You know, I'll tell you, boy. Guilt - it's like a bag of fuckin' bricks. All you gotta do is set it down....Who are you carrying all those bricks for anyway? God? Is that it? God? Well, I tell ya, let me give you a little inside information about God. God likes to watch. He's a prankster. Think about it. He gives man instincts. He gives you this extraordinary gift, and then what does He do? I swear, for His own amusement, His own private cosmic gag reel, He sets the rules in opposition. It's the goof of all time. Look, but don't touch. Touch, but don't taste. Taste, don't swallow. Aha ha ha. And while you're jumpin' from one foot to the next, what is He doin'? He's laughin' His sick, fuckin' ass off. He's a tight-ass. He's a sadist. He's an absentee landlord. Worship that? Never!

Kevin Lomax: "Better to reign in Hell, than to serve in Heaven," is that it?
John Milton: Why not? I'm here on the ground with my nose in it since the whole thing began! I've nurtured every sensation man has been inspired to have! I cared about what he wanted and I never judged him. Why? Because I never rejected him, in spite of all his imperfections! I'm a fan of man! I'm a humanist. Maybe the last humanist. Who, in their right mind, Kevin, could possibly deny the 20th century was entirely mine? All of it, Kevin! All of it! Mine! I'm peaking, Kevin. It's my time now. It's our time."

I got 2 grams for forty bucks

http://www.mandatory.com/2013/04/25/hilarious-parent-reactions-to-a-cruel-texting-prank-from-their-k/12

Monday, April 29, 2013

Vitamin C deficiencies


The essential vitamin known as vitamin C is one of the most important elements in an individual’s daily diet. We need Vitamin C to help contribute to good cellular growth, promote function of the circulatory system, and generally help our bodies to develop and maintain themselves. A vitamin C deficiency is a serious issue, and should be caught early and treated with natural foods or dietary supplements that contain plenty of this critical ingredient.
Lots of medical experts agree that a vitamin C deficiency is fairly uncommon in most modern societies. Infant formulas and other food sources are fortified with vitamin C in order to prevent some forms of deficiency of this essential nutrient.

Symptoms of a Vitamin C Deficiency

A variety of symptoms will show that an individual is suffering from a vitamin C deficiency. Here are some of the top signs of this kind of shortage in the system.
  1. Fatigue – Early on, someone with a vitamin C deficiency will tend to get tired easily and experience reduced energy. Because chronic fatigue is a symptom of so many illnesses, it can be hard to catch a specific condition based on this symptom.
  2. Mood Changes – Individuals with a vitamin C deficiency may become irritable or short tempered.
  3. Weight Loss – As with other “wasting conditions” someone with a vitamin C deficiency may experience sudden weight loss.
  4. Joint and Muscle Aches – Chronic pain in the limbs or joints can be a symptom of a vitamin deficiency.
  5. Bruising – Individuals with a vitamin C deficiency will tend to bruise easily. Excessive bruising is a sign that the body’s chemistry needs to be improved.
  6. Dental Conditions – Just as a healthy daily dose of vitamin C contributes to healthy teeth and gums, a deficiency can cause deterioration of the gums. Periodontal problems are a symptom of a vitamin C deficiency that has been allowed to develop to a hazardous level. This kind of deficiency was classically called "scurvy" when it happened to mariners who had no access to nutrients (or sometimes even fresh water) on long trips at sea. In today’s world, it is a rare but frightening condition.
  7. Dry Hair and Skin – A change in hair and skin conditions can also signal that the body is not getting enough of vitamin C and other essential vitamins and minerals.
  8. Infections – When an individual does not have enough vitamin C over time, this can have a negative impact on general healing of wounds and the fighting of infections. Generally, the body’s immune system will be compromised.

Vitamin Deficiency Treatments

A shortage of vitamin C in the system can be treated with dietary supplements. However, it’s important to seek professional medical help, rather than self-medicating with natural medicine.Vitamin C supplements are generally not known to have side effects, although at extremely high levels, they can cause nausea or indigestion. Those who experience any of the above negative symptoms should see qualified family practice doctors to talk about what may be the issue and whether a dietary deficiency may be the root cause.

Chapter 1

Everyone's life is inevitably driven by Fate.  In this journey, down these distinctly finicky and individual paths...are personalized lessons and tasks emerging from shadows, as much as, light.
Some roads sail smoothe, while others bifurcate into many dead ends, never ending loops, nondescript detours and ill advised directions.  Other destinations come with dangerous and narrow curves...rarely lethal, but always drastic and dramatic.  Sometimes, more times than not, it's worth the effort to weather all our obstacles...necessary or not...And in the end, we look back and wonder...
"Is this it?  Is this what it's all about?"
Then we close our eyes, and start the dream all over again...like a clean slate....


The night was stormy, an Mary Kay was late for her midnight shift.  The stale indiginous smell mixed with the freshly coated Clorox which only created an extra amount of angst for Jane...who so patiently awaited for her relief.  The ongoing outdoor chaos added a certain level of homely comfort, so the wait was not as intolerable.  Opposite of her nursing station, the door to Room 17 lay adjar no more than four inches.  Beyond those four inches stood an empty darkness of cold stagnant air that hurdled a void that has stood still for what seemed decades.  In its background, the wind danced a ferocious tango...pushing aside tree limbs, and all it's tenants.  The rustling of the leaves, coupled with the striking drops of rain...were the only life emerging from the darkness.

Jane's computer abruptly crashes.  The lights cooperate with their subsequent flickering, yet remain on at their end of their threat.  Nonetheless, there goes Jane's thirty eighth game of solitaire.  Which only reminds her of 'when will Mary Kay get here?'  The rebooting computer revs up it's voice as it attempts it's own resurrection.  Just above sits a small desk top clock displaying in a predictable and methodical flashing sequence
12:00 12:00 12:00 12:00 12:01
It dawns on Jane how much easier it is to correct the clock, then wait for a temperamental computer to regain command.  She lifts the archaic piece of assembled plastic and closely examines all the small switches and buttons that decorate its superior and lateral surface.  If she were at home, she would leave the task up to her husband...being that she's not, she attempts to play with the buttons. Randomly pressing them in hopes of some feedback.

"I could never be loved by anyone sweeter than you
and I could never belong to anyone
{sweeter than you}"

What a pity to catch a familiar song as it ends, Jane loves Ricky Nelson.  The volume was on low, she finds the dial and twists it to the right.  The sound, now amplified, starts with a long forgotten beat...


"Now and then there's a fool such as I)
Pardon me, if I’m sentimental
When we say goodbye
Don't be angry with me should I cry
When you're gone, yet I’ll dream
A little dream as years go by
Now and then there's a fool such as I

Now and then there's a fool such as I am over you
You taught me how to love
And now you say that we are through
I'm a fool, but I’ll love you dear
Until the day I die
Now and then there's a fool such as I

Now and then there's a fool such as I am over you
You taught me how to love
And now you say that we are through
I'm a fool, but I’ll love you dear
Until the day I die
Now and then there's a fool such as I
Now and then there's a fool such as I
Now and then there's a fool such as I "


The King, no matter how removed or lost in time, never loses that emotional push of complete youthful reckless excitement.
Following the King, a pioneer in his own right...Johnny Mathis starts his strum.


"Some folks like to get away,
Take a holiday from the neighborhood.
Hop a flight to Miami Beach or to Hollywood.
But I'm takin' a Greyhound on the Hudson River line.
I'm in a New York state of mind.

I've seen all the movie stars in their fancy cars and their limousines.
Been high in the Rockies under the evergreens.
I know what I'm needin', and I don't wanna waste more time.
I'm in a New York state of mind.

It was so easy livin' day by day
Out of touch with the rhythm and blues
But now I need a little give and take
The New York Times, the Daily News.

It comes down to reality, and it's fine with me cause I've let it slide.
I don't care if it's Chinatown or on Riverside.
I don't have any reasons.
I left them all behind.
I'm in a New York state of mind...."

(Instrumental)

A gentle echo timidly encroaches beyond Room 17.  Tickled by the faint elderly voice, Jane stands up and stares in the direction of its darkness.  The sound, of the song, being sung continues.  In her best robber impersonation, she peacefully slides her desk chair to her right and emerges from behind her desk.  Six steps later, she's breathing face to face with the Number 17.  Her ear, like an antenna, is immersed within the suddenly awaken room.  

"It was so easy living day by day by day
Out of touch with the rhythm and blues
But now I need a little give and take
The New York Times, the Daily News.

It comes down to reality, and it's fine with me cause I've let it slide.
I don't care if it's Chinatown or on Riverside.
I don't have any reasons.
I left them all behind. I'm in a New York state of mind.

I don't have any reasons.
I left them all behind. I'm in a New York state of mind."

Stunned by the delicate clarity of the song, she pushes the door open.

Thursday, April 25, 2013

Not to judge...but,

People can and will do and say (even write) some very dumb things....

Don't
Ever
Just
Take
My Word for It

Look for yourself

http://www.bytesized.me/hilarious-exam-answers/2/

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Freshmen Year? Tough?

Hell yeah, it's tough...


In life,
You
Are 
Given
Obstacles...

It is your character that gets shaped from those challenges...that defines you throughout life.
What you do, and how you handle things...will be etched into the minds of your peers.

So,
Take no prisoners...
Hold no punches back.
So...you might get knocked down!

Well, get back up...and push right back!

You
Will
Be
SURPRISED
By the Fact
Of how many people will not push back after that.

And if they do...
Who cares...
You can keep this up all day

All
DAY

if you must.


How do I know this?
I lived it, I survived...I beat that system...
And people still remember
My Character

Good Luck
and
Godspeed

Problems with Motivation


How to motivate and inspire your people in difficult times
Article by
Chris Witt  

These days, if you’re a leader of any type, you can’t simply order people around and expect them to do what you want. They may follow your directions, if you are watching, but once they’re left on their own they’ll go back to doing what they think is important.

Leaders today, more than ever before, have to win people’s cooperation. And there are two main ways of doing so: motivation and inspiration. Although the two words are often used interchangeably, they actually mean quite different things – depending on what you want to achieve.

Motivation is about moving people to act in a way that achieves a specific and immediate goal. When you’re motivating people to do something they may not necessarily want to do, you have to offer them something they want in return.

When coaches give their teams a pep talk during halftime, they are using motivation. They want their players to charge back onto the field or the court with renewed energy and focus, even though they may be too tired or disheartened to try. Their reward? Victory.

To motivate your people:

Tell people exactly what you want them to do. Motivation is all about getting people to take action, so don’t be vague. Avoid generalities like, “I want everyone to do their best.” Say, instead, “I need you to come in over the weekend so we can get this project done on time.”

Limit the amount of time or effort that you’re asking for. It’s easier to ask people to work late work one night or even every night for a week than to expect them to work late indefinitely. Set an end date.

Share in the sacrifice. Leaders don’t ask people to do what they themselves aren’t willing to do. Don’t tell your people to work over the weekend if you’ve got plans for a spa day. Roll up your sleeves and share the load.

Appeal to their emotions. Fear focuses people’s attention and can be an effective motivator. (“If we don’t get this done right now, we’ll all lose our jobs.”) But if you keep resorting to fear, you’ll end up de-motivating people. People are also motivated by-and prefer to be motivated by-positive emotions like excitement, pride, a sense of belonging, and the thrill of achievement.

Give people multiple reasons for doing what you want them to do. You can give your own reason or the organization’s reason for requesting the action. “If we don’t get this project completed on schedule, we’ll lose the contract.” But the best reason of all is always personal. It would be nice if you could give your people extra days off or even a bonus. Or, you may talk about something as intangible as the camaraderie that comes from having achieved something important together. But things being what they are these days, the best you may be able to offer is the hope that no one will lose a job.

Inspiration, on the other hand, involves changing the way people think and feel about themselves so that they want to take positive actions. It taps into people’s values and desires.

Commencement speakers – the best ones, at least – inspire their audiences. They talk about the challenges the graduates will face, either personally or collectively, and the possibilities of making a difference. Inspiration appeals to the best aspirations of people, and its underlying, often unspoken message is “You can become what you want to be.” No reward is promised, other than the reward that comes from within: the sense of personal satisfaction.

As a leader, anytime you talk about values, about identity (either the corporate identity or each person’s identity), and about long-term goals, your intent – whether you know it or not – is to inspire.

To inspire your people:

Be the change you want to inspire. Your reputation, your character, your behavior will inspire people more than anything else. The only way to call the best out of others is to expect the best from yourself.

Tell a story. Stories don’t tell people what to do. They engage people’s imaginations and emotions. They show people what they’re capable of becoming or of doing.

Appeal to people’s value system. Ask them to act in a way that is consistent with the values they themselves profess.

Trust people. When you’re inspiring people, you’re not telling them exactly what to do or giving them precise directions. You’re empowering them to be their best, trusting that they will then do the right thing. And the right thing they do may not be what you were expecting; it may be something beyond your wildest expectations.

Challenge them. People aren’t inspired by doing the ordinary or by meeting expectations. They’re inspired by the exertion, creativity, and sacrifice needed to exceed what they themselves thought possible.

Motivation and inspiration are not the sole province of professional speakers and preachers. They’re tools leaders use all the time – in one-on-one conversations, in meetings and in formal presentations – to bring out the best in their people. It’s just a matter of knowing the right time and the right situation.

When there’s an immediate, short-term and specific goal that you want your people to achieve, you need to motivate them. When you want to shape people’s identity and their long-term aspirations and commitments, you need to inspire them.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry, the French aviator and author of “The Little Prince”, wrote, “If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea.” Sometimes you need to do both. You need to enlist and organize people to do a specific task-to build a ship according to specs, on time and on budget-and sometimes you need to activate people’s desires and stand aside. Who knows, you may be surprised by what they do.

Monday, April 22, 2013

Etiquette with an Ex


Staying Friends With Your Exes: The 10 Commandments
by Jo Piazza on April 16, 2013

I call my friend Ashley the “Ex-Boyfriend Whisperer.” I call her this because no matter how bad any of her breakups have been, four months after the split, Ashley and her former beau have moved safely into the friend zone.

This hasn’t just happened once or twice. A few fluke friendships can happen to anyone. I recently asked Ashley how many serious (more than three months was the cut off) boyfriends she had, and how many of them she remained friends (in regular contact) with.

It took her a minute, a pad and a pen and access to Facebook before she responded, “Fifteen for fifteen.”

Then she proceeded to tell me she couldn’t hang out the following weekend because she had to go to a baptism for her college boyfriend’s baby. Seriously.

Ashley is rare, but she isn’t some kind of relationship unicorn. There are some men and women whose super powers include maintaining beyond-cordial associations with everyone they’ve ever seriously dated.

So what’s the secret?

I asked ten of these savants to share their Ten Commandments for Staying Friends With an Ex. Some of the rules are rational, but difficult for those of us who relish the irrational after a breakup. Others might seem outside the box, but I’ve been promised they get the job done.

1. Thou shalt give it time.
“Breakups happen for a reason. Let something be broke, allow it to heal, and then work on establishing a friendship,” explained Alex R., a 24 year old medical student in Philadelphia. How long to wait? A minimum of half the time you dated.

2. Thou shalt never be alone together.
“I know it sounds harsh and I guess you could break the rule after like a decade or so, but the key to staying platonic with my exes is limiting our hangouts to group activities,” said Adam M., a 33 year old lawyer in Chicago.

3. Though shalt befriend the new mate.
Four years after their breakup, Alana, 31, was a bridesmaid in her ex-boyfriend’s wedding. “I made sure to let his new girlfriend know that I wanted her in my life too, and our friendship grew from there,” she said. “Of course it helped that she didn’t suck.”

4. Thou shalt have a safe word?
“My ex and I decided one of us would officially call things if one of us ever started having feelings again,” said Mark, 27. “It’s been three years, and we have yet to say ‘Ross Perot.’ I think we both like knowing we have a way out.”

5. Thou shalt not reminisce.
“Live for the now man, the happy memories will make you miss what you had and the bad memories will just piss you off. Live for the now,” said Jack, 28.

6. Thou shalt not flirt.
“I am really good at just turning it off,” said Amanda, a 24 year old stockbroker from Brooklyn. “I become completely non-sexual with my exes. No touching, no cutesy emails. I am like a dude.”

7. Thou shalt avoid social media.
“I don’t unfriend my exes, but I keep them off my feed,” said Matt, 32, a lawyer in Washington D.C. “It creates just the right amount of distance and it gives you non-relationship things to talk about when you see each other, since you don’t see their every waking minute online.”

8. Thou shalt put in the effort.
It isn’t all about NOT doing things — maintaining a friendship with an ex is just like maintaining any other friendship. Ashley, the Ex-Boyfriend Whisperer, told me her secret is putting in the time. “I remember birthdays, I check in, I always ask about their parents. I chose to date these people because I really liked and cared about them. That didn’t change just because we stopped hooking up,” Ashley told me.

9. Thou shalt be picky.
Michael, 43 years old has a .275 batting average with exes, but the ones he stayed friends with, he talks to at least once a week. “I got rid of the people I just wouldn’t want to be friends with. If I fought with someone while we were dating, why would I want to be friends with them?” he said. “I never try too hard to make everything work out.”

10. Thou shalt not judge.
Keep your nose out of their new relationships. “Even when I can’t stand my exes’ new girlfriends, I shut my mouth. I talk to them about just about everything else except whether or not I like their new chicks,” said Nisha, a 33 year old executive from New Jersey.

Saturday, April 20, 2013

A Burning World Only Yields char, ash and smoke

My Mortal flesh...feeds life from a bright, seemingly everlasting warming light...
Binding an immortal spirit...onto an unexplored delinquent domain...
Relegated by
Fear
Greed
Lust
and
Desire
...

Sheltered by a biased society
Shielded by customs
Secured within a code of ethics, rules, morals and values

Decisions determined by an ancestry
An ancestry that thrived on a desire
a lust
For survival AND dominance
S U P E R I O R I T Y

Correctness is a perception
Perception is individual
Individuals learn

Then teach
Correctness
Then teach
Enlightenment

The Key had always been education!

Friday, April 19, 2013

If your Wine Glass were representative of your Relationship...How Filled would it be?


Answer?
Five Ounces!
Why only Five?
5 ounces is the recommended amount...as for this reason. 
Too much, and you are taken for granted. 
Not enough, and you lose the connection. 
Five ounces, keeps you connected...and keeps the other person interested and thirsty!

I, am a Dying Poet, in a bland and close minded society


Groups. Poems. People. Posts....
My Mind feels dried from an unfocused sight,
My body, muscular...chiseled...defined...
Steers with a bruised frame, sitting on worn out tires
Verging with all surrounding stagnant traffic
Standstill
Further frustrating a decrepit, yet Ever so, immaculate mind...
Power by brute strength,
Feared by rivals
Revered by those who aspire
A true inspiration
They're everywhere
Stop
Go
Away
please, please, please
Go the fck away...
Your austerity confuses me,
Your enthusiasm is anything but profound...
Such Delinquent behavior
An undesired trend

I
Die
a
Hard
Deaths
only to resurrect into an undefined life
LIFT me HIGH
Lower me gently 
Speak softly...I am listening
Smile often...I am watching
Touch with your delicate stroke

I live today...
Since I died yesterday
I dream tomorrow...
For I am still asleep
S
L
E
E
P

In my dreams, it's where I am free
It's where I roam without restrictions

This world chains me to a harshness
Forever inhibiting the light I need to sprout from...
F
R
E
E
My dying Mind...
I want it, I NEED it...

Thursday, April 18, 2013

Why do People Cheat?

The Normal Bar
A survey of over 100,000 people
Which was published THIS year
Showed that
71% of unfaithful Men
and
49% of unfaithful Women
C H E A T E D
Because of
Sexual Boredom/not enough intimacy in their Relationships

Other common reasons cited
Need for thrill or excitement
Not comfortable sharing intimate desires/fantasies

Other Important Relationship Points....
Trust and lies were two big relationship issues in this survey as well.
White Lies, you can't fault them...they are meant to protect your partner's ego
"Honey, you were a champ last night!"
Yea right!  But no one gets hurt.
It's those other lies that hurt.
"Where were you?  I couldn't get a hold of you?"
"Oh yeah, my cell died...yada yada yada"

It's those lies, that slowly deteriorate TRUST!

Survey Fact
Half of the Men AND Women surveyed have snuck a peek at private emails/text messages....
That's a NO NO!  Not always...just only if you are there to snoop and find something...
A lot times, people will not log out...and by chance, you catch a glimpse of private info.
But,
When you deliberately conspire to find other private matters...well, that's being dishonest.
(It happened to me, not too Long Ago)
How did I respond?
I lost my trust for her.

http://articles.washingtonpost.com/2013-02-08/lifestyle/36980624_1_couples-relationship-survey-results

http://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2013/01/21/couples-love-sex-relationships/1851965/

http://www.aarp.org/relationships/love-sex/info-05-2011/normal-bar-sex-survey.html

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/09/sex-lies-the-normal-bar_n_2649606.html

http://www.rd.com/advice/relationships/are-you-normal-take-the-normal-bar-survey/

Here are ten signs that your relationship is a common relationship
http://www.yourtango.com/2013173053/10-signs-your-relationship-normal

And Without Much Ado
The Normal Bar website

http://www.thenormalbar.com/




Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Is Stretching Good For You?


Stretching: The Truth

By GRETCHEN REYNOLDS

Published: October 31, 2008

WHEN DUANE KNUDSON, a professor of kinesiology at California State University, Chico, looks around campus at athletes warming up before practice, he sees one dangerous mistake after another. “They’re stretching, touching their toes. . . . ” He sighs. “It’s discouraging.”
Horacio Salinas

Play

The New York Times 
Sports Magazine
Illustration by Emily Cooper
STRAIGHT-LEG MARCH (for the hamstrings and gluteus muscles)Kick one leg straight out in front of you, with your toes flexed toward the sky. Reach your opposite arm to the upturned toes. Drop the leg and repeat with the opposite limbs. Continue the sequence for at least six or seven repetitions.
Illustration by Emily Cooper
SCORPION (for the lower back, hip flexors and gluteus muscles) Lie on your stomach, with your arms outstretched and your feet flexed so that only your toes are touching the ground. Kick your right foot toward your left arm, then kick your left foot toward your right arm. Since this is an advanced exercise, begin slowly, and repeat up to 12 times.
Illustration by Emily Cooper
HANDWALKS (for the shoulders, core muscles and hamstrings) Stand straight, with your legs together. Bend over until both hands are flat on the ground. ‘‘Walk’’ your hands forward until your back is almost extended. Keeping your legs straight, inch your feet toward your hands, then walk your hands forward again. Repeat five or six times.
If you’re like most of us, you were taught the importance of warm-up exercises back in grade school, and you’ve likely continued with pretty much the same routine ever since. Science, however, has moved on. Researchers now believe that some of the more entrenched elements of many athletes’ warm-up regimens are not only a waste of time but actually bad for you. The old presumption that holding a stretch for 20 to 30 seconds — known as static stretching — primes muscles for a workout is dead wrong. It actually weakens them. In a recent study conducted at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, athletes generated less force from their leg muscles after static stretching than they did after not stretching at all. Other studies have found that this stretching decreases muscle strength by as much as 30 percent. Also, stretching one leg’s muscles can reduce strength in the other leg as well, probably because the central nervous system rebels against the movements.
“There is a neuromuscular inhibitory response to static stretching,” says Malachy McHugh, the director of research at the Nicholas Institute of Sports Medicine and Athletic Trauma at Lenox Hill Hospital in New York City. The straining muscle becomes less responsive and stays weakened for up to 30 minutes after stretching, which is not how an athlete wants to begin a workout.
THE RIGHT WARM-UP should do two things: loosen muscles and tendons to increase the range of motion of various joints, and literally warm up the body. When you’re at rest, there’s less blood flow to muscles and tendons, and they stiffen. “You need to make tissues and tendons compliant before beginning exercise,” Knudson says.
A well-designed warm-up starts by increasing body heat and blood flow. Warm muscles and dilated blood vessels pull oxygen from the bloodstream more efficiently and use stored muscle fuel more effectively. They also withstand loads better. One significant if gruesome study found that the leg-muscle tissue of laboratory rabbits could be stretched farther before ripping if it had been electronically stimulated — that is, warmed up.
To raise the body’s temperature, a warm-up must begin with aerobic activity, usually light jogging. Most coaches and athletes have known this for years. That’s why tennis players run around the court four or five times before a match and marathoners stride in front of the starting line. But many athletes do this portion of their warm-up too intensely or too early. A 2002 study of collegiate volleyball players found that those who’d warmed up and then sat on the bench for 30 minutes had lower backs that were stiffer than they had been before the warm-up. And a number of recent studies have demonstrated that an overly vigorous aerobic warm-up simply makes you tired. Most experts advise starting your warm-up jog at about 40 percent of your maximum heart rate (a very easy pace) and progressing to about 60 percent. The aerobic warm-up should take only 5 to 10 minutes, with a 5-minute recovery. (Sprinters require longer warm-ups, because the loads exerted on their muscles are so extreme.) Then it’s time for the most important and unorthodox part of a proper warm-up regimen, the Spider-Man and its counterparts.
“TOWARDS THE end of my playing career, in about 2000, I started seeing some of the other guys out on the court doing these strange things before a match and thinking, What in the world is that?” says Mark Merklein, 36, once a highly ranked tennis player and now a national coach for the United States Tennis Association. The players were lunging, kicking and occasionally skittering, spider-like, along the sidelines. They were early adopters of a new approach to stretching.
While static stretching is still almost universally practiced among amateur athletes — watch your child’s soccer team next weekend — it doesn’t improve the muscles’ ability to perform with more power, physiologists now agree. “You may feel as if you’re able to stretch farther after holding a stretch for 30 seconds,” McHugh says, “so you think you’ve increased that muscle’s readiness.” But typically you’ve increased only your mental tolerance for the discomfort of the stretch. The muscle is actually weaker.
Stretching muscles while moving, on the other hand, a technique known as dynamic stretching or dynamic warm-ups, increases power, flexibility and range of motion. Muscles in motion don’t experience that insidious inhibitory response. They instead get what McHugh calls “an excitatory message” to perform.
Dynamic stretching is at its most effective when it’s relatively sports specific. “You need range-of-motion exercises that activate all of the joints and connective tissue that will be needed for the task ahead,” says Terrence Mahon, a coach with Team Running USA, home to the Olympic marathoners Ryan Hall and Deena Kastor. For runners, an ideal warm-up might include squats, lunges and “form drills” like kicking your buttocks with your heels. Athletes who need to move rapidly in different directions, like soccer, tennis or basketball players, should do dynamic stretches that involve many parts of the body. “Spider-Man” is a particularly good drill: drop onto all fours and crawl the width of the court, as if you were climbing a wall. (For other dynamic stretches, see the sidebar below.)
Even golfers, notoriously nonchalant about warming up (a recent survey of 304 recreational golfers found that two-thirds seldom or never bother), would benefit from exerting themselves a bit before teeing off. In one 2004 study, golfers who did dynamic warm- up exercises and practice swings increased their clubhead speed and were projected to have dropped their handicaps by seven strokes over seven weeks.
Controversy remains about the extent to which dynamic warm-ups prevent injury. But studies have been increasingly clear that static stretching alone before exercise does little or nothing to help. The largest study has been done on military recruits; results showed that an almost equal number of subjects developed lower-limb injuries (shin splints, stress fractures, etc.), regardless of whether they had performed static stretches before training sessions. A major study published earlier this year by the Centers for Disease Control, on the other hand, found that knee injuries were cut nearly in half among female collegiate soccer players who followed a warm-up program that included both dynamic warm-up exercises and static stretching. (For a sample routine, visitwww.aclprevent.com/pepprogram.htm.) And in golf, new research by Andrea Fradkin, an assistant professor of exercise science at Bloomsburg University of Pennsylvania, suggests that those who warm up are nine times less likely to be injured.
“It was eye-opening,” says Fradkin, formerly a feckless golfer herself. “I used to not really warm up. I do now.”
You’re Getting Warmer: The Best Dynamic Stretches
These exercises- as taught by the United States Tennis Association’s player-development program – are good for many athletes, even golfers. Do them immediately after your aerobic warm-up and as soon as possible before your workout.
STRAIGHT-LEG MARCH
(for the hamstrings and gluteus muscles)
Kick one leg straight out in front of you, with your toes flexed toward the sky. Reach your opposite arm to the upturned toes. Drop the leg and repeat with the opposite limbs. Continue the sequence for at least six or seven repetitions.
SCORPION
(for the lower back, hip flexors and gluteus muscles)
Lie on your stomach, with your arms outstretched and your feet flexed so that only your toes are touching the ground. Kick your right foot toward your left arm, then kick your leftfoot toward your right arm. Since this is an advanced exercise, begin slowly, and repeat up to 12 times.
HANDWALKS
(for the shoulders, core muscles, and hamstrings)
Stand straight, with your legs together. Bend over until both hands are flat on the ground. “Walk” with your hands forward until your back is almost extended. Keeping your legs straight, inch your feet toward your hands, then walk your hands forward again. Repeat five or six times. G.R.

Conditioning the Mind


Article by Brendan Lawlor
The neuroscience of conditioning

Sometimes the best confirmations of the dhamma come from sources that have nothing to do with Buddhism. On Intelligence by Jeff Hawkins is just such a source. Hawkins is an electrical engineer and entrepreneur whose interest in Artificial Intelligence has convinced him that the key to developing AI lies in understanding the brain. If that sounds a little obvious, it’s necessary to say that much of AI research – even on neural networks – has ignored the biology of the brain. As the name of the book suggests, this is not about consciousness or experience at an abstract level. It’s about human intelligence and how that distinctly human (well, mammalian)  part of the brain – the neocortex – makes us as smart as we are. What I propose to do here is pick out some of the main points that Hawkins makes and show how they relate to the kind of things that we might notice in ourselves as we peer through the microscope of meditation. In particular, this book offers biological explanations for our ingrained habits – the conditioned responses that arise in us despite our best intellectual intentions and endeavours to behave otherwise. The closer we understand the nature of the mind, the better we can work with it.

The neocortex is structured in a uniform way in its entirety, regardless of function or location. That structure consists of 6 hierarchical layers, each as thick as a business card. Those 6 layers are further interconnected across sections of the neocortex to form hierarchies of hierarchies. Signals come in from the sensory neurons – like the nerves coming from your eyes or ears – in a rapidly changing fashion (both spatially and temporally) but as these chaotic signals filter up through the hierarchies, they stabilize and solidify. For example, input from the optic nerve (one million sensory neurons) is a firehose of light, colour and line shape changes due to the ever changing nature of the photons hitting the retina, and also the constant eye movements (saccades) we involuntarily make to scan our field of vision. By the time it filters through several layers of neocortex, this cacophony of electrical impulse has become something stable like, for example, a face.

It might even be your Aunt Susan’s face. If it is Aunt Susan, then effectively the memory of Aunt Susan’s face is encoded high up in the hierarchies of the cortex, and can be triggered by Aunt Susan no matter what the lighting conditions or angle of view are. The important thing to notice here is that the brain has an invariant representation for a vastly changeable (to all practical purposes infinitely changeable) set of input signals. But here’s where it starts to get really interesting. The flow of signal is not only upstream from the optic nerves to the memory of your aunt’s face. It’s also (perhaps even prevalently) back downstream. If higher layers are starting to see things that correspond to Aunt Susan, they feed this back down the line, and hone the incoming signal to check for Aunt Susan-ness. This is very efficient, as you can imagine, as it involves a narrowing of the search as early as possible. It’s a little like what happens when you type in a search term on Google and you are offered increasingly specific choice to select from. (For more details see the book’s wikipedia entry, or read the book!) This way of processing signals is elegant and much faster than a computational approach, but it comes at a price: At a very biological level, we decide what we perceive based on what we have already experienced. If that’s not an recipe for habitual reactive behaviour, I don’t know what is.

So if this is the way our brain works, how does it effect our everyday life, and how can we use this understanding to work better with our minds? On Intelligence has nothing to say about this, and what follows are my own – hopefully rational – extrapolations from Hawkins’ conclusions. His model of perception explains why changing habits through a conscious, intellectual application of will can be so frustratingly difficult. The processing described above takes place long before the filtered sensory signals reach our consciousness. The key interpretations of what we are experiencing are made long before they reach the ‘selfing’ processes of the brain, and so the the ego can really only dress things up as best it can – to claim ownership of that interpretation. But by that time, those interpretations have already begun to send signals to other centres of the cortex, including our motor neurons. In this way, habitually-wired reactive thoughts and actions are triggered. Our conscious ego, always behind the curve, tends to either justify the resulting behaviour in some way, or in general to tell some story about it. Brute force application of will is our favourite way to try to change those habitual thoughts and actions, but it can never reach into the depth of where those habits come from.

If this description invokes a certain hopelessness, and calls into question the notion of free will, then I think there’s no harm in that. I think it is probably hopeless and pointless to believe that we can impose our conscious will on activities that are upstream of the consciousness process. We can certainly modulate and moderate some of the grosser behaviours that we perceive to be in need of change. But we cannot by sheer intellectual will simply decide to be, say, more compassionate individuals from one day to the next. So what can be done?

Surrender. First and foremost to the nature of your own mind. You can’t work well with a system if you don’t have some understanding of how it operates, and the science is telling us in an ever-clearer way: we are not who we think we are. Our minds are not a centralized command-and-control system. Control is distributed across thousands of drivers (to borrow an image from Bodhipaksa), each struggling to grab the steering wheel. We are bags of competing habits, so let’s give up all hope and pretense of being in charge and let’s look instead to work with what we really have. Instead of trying to pull imagined levers and throw non-existent switches, we can plant seeds, in the form of new habits.

Incidentally, Buddhism has been saying the same thing for a very long time. The cognitive function of recognizing Aunt Susan’s face is called sañña in Pali, sometimes translated as perception. It is one of the Five Aggregates (khandhas) and is described by Bhikku Bodhi as follows:

The characteristic of perception is the perceiving of the qualities of the object. Its function is to make a sign as a condition for perceiving again that “this is the same,” or its function is recognizing what has been previously perceived. It becomes manifest as the interpreting of the object…by way of the features that had been apprehended.

The sign referred to by Bhikku Bodhi, corresponds to Hawkins’ invariant representation.

Once we surrender to this unintuitive and perhaps emotionally difficult way of understanding the brain, we can work with it instead of against it by gently initiating new regular habits – without any grand expectations – and see where it leads. This is where the blunt instrument of conscious intellectual will comes into play. The will is just another process struggling for control. It arises and falls away like everything else and we cannot expect it to change our habitual thinking and behaviour. But our will can help us to initiate new habits and support them in their infancy. In those moments when it is available, we can use its direction and energy to take the micro-actions that, in the long run, can rewire habits. We can decide to ‘feed the wolf of love‘ day in, day out as Rick Hanson suggests, and then let that work its own way through deeper and mostly unseen habits. And we can introduce meditation as a life habit. One of the most important habits that I’ve built up recently is the habit of daily meditation. Thanks to the 100 day challenge in the Wildmind Google+ community, I can say that the habit of sitting has become strong and has very little trouble grabbing the steering wheel at least once a day. I have found over the years that meditation itself has the effect of rooting out old useless or harmful habits. A few of them have just fallen away. Others put up a fight and fade in and out over time.

So what might be learned here? I have come for now to this conclusion: A better understanding of how our minds work tells us that there is no self there in control, but there are features to human intelligence that can be harnessed in order to favour certain drivers over others. The way to bring about positive change is to plant seeds, water them regularly and be patient. If that sounds a lot like love, I don’t think  it’s a coincidence.

Monday, April 15, 2013

People who take themselves Way Too Seriously


Wait.
Stop.

Here.
You Dropped this...

It's 
Your
Sense
of
Humor

You lost it when you picked up
That
GIANT
Bag of
'How Important YOUR Opinion must be'



Cheers to those who read and appreciate this...

Fck Being Sensitive


I
Used
To think
...Believe...
That I was overreacting.
Over-thinking.
Over-analyzing.

Now...I Realize
that

It
Was
Just a
NORMAL
Reaction
To this abnormal
Amount
of
B*llsh*t

But...hey...it's around us all...

Some just deal with it much better thank you...

Some of us even have to deal with it much more...thank god I don't...

How to Kill a Romantic Evening in bed...?


Use these lines during sex...and let me know what your outcome is...


1) Wait, Stop....I have to poop
2) you need to smile for the camera!
3) get off of me, I can do that MUCH better
4) is this your first time?
5) my ex does that a lot better...
6) is this suppose to feel good?
7) I thought that you had the keys to THESE handcuffs?
8) Mommy
9) I feel so horny tonight, I would even bag your ugly aunt Margaret.
10) Ssshhhh, my girlfriend is a light sleeper!
11) jimmy was right, you suck c*ck really good!
12) Oh my, maybe we should turn off the lights?
13) you looked better at the bar.
14) doesn't everyone look funny naked?
15) I have to pay for this?
16) honey, if you ride me...you will knock out my back!
17) your sister didn't complain when we did this.
18) Cindy? Cheryl?  Oh, Catie...I'm sorry, I got you confused.
19) can I watch TV instead?
20) you may talk more...but overall, you are so much nicer then my doll.
21) did the condom rip?

Does Penis SIZE Matter? YES!


"Women, We Should Maybe Be Nicer About Penises"

by  on April 10, 2013
stamp of approval - approved, rejectedThis week, a new study came out about penises. It concluded that size does matter, at least to the same extent that physical appearance matters, which is to say “sort of,” but also “ultimately not that much.” (The conclusions overall were pretty flimsy, as we discuss here.) Around 100 Australian women were asked to rate their level of attraction to computer-generated male figures, and for some, bigger penis size proved to be as important a factor as height. (Though not as important as shoulder to hip ratio.)
Ok so, when given the choice, it seems that women do prefer a bigger package. But, I mean, I’d also prefer a Gregory Peck lookalike with an encyclopedic knowledge of The West Wing. There’s a big difference between theoretical preference and what’s actually going to affect your dating life. Chances are, the size of someone’s flaccid penis isn’t going to have a noticeable impact on whether a woman gives him her number.
The only thing this and scores of other penis studies could affect (not in their findings, but in their widespread publication) is, honestly, male self-esteem. A study proclaiming that “MEN PREFER X SHAPE OF VAGINA” or “BIGGER BOOBS ARE BETTER, SAYS SCIENCE” is unthinkable. There would be indignation and outrage — and yet descriptions of penises (and the importance of their relative sizes) range from the derisive to the bemused. An NBC News article on the size study opens with the sentence: “The human male possesses the Italian designer faucet of penises.” Funny, but also telling: an article about the female body would never start by comparing it to a faucet, designer or not.
Too often, women are judgmental or dismissive of a penis, partly because it’s never really been drummed into us that a penis is anything to be effusive about.
We’re taught from an early age to see the female form as beautiful and desirable. As problematic as that may be in terms of body pressure, women KNOW without a doubt that men like seeing them naked. But can men feel as confident saying the reverse is true?
They wouldn’t, if they heard some women talk about penises behind closed doors. While most women appreciate the utilitarian function of the male sexual organ, its appearance is hardly praised in casual conversation. (“Fleshy”, “wobbly”, “vein-y”, and “purple” are all words that come up a lot.)
Of course, it’s not necessary, really, for women to be turned on by the mere sight of a male member. We have plenty of other assets available to turn us on. But too often, women are judgmental or dismissive of a penis, partly because it’s never really been drummed into us that a penis is anything to be effusive about. Oh sure, some women are, and sometimes it’s polite to be. But it isn’t rude to not say anything, it’s perfectly fine to just…put up with it.
No wonder guys feel insecure about their bodies. And no wonder the hopelessly tired “Does size matter??” debate never goes away.
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The Body Acceptance movement seems stronger than ever among women — we’re working hard to prove that our bodies (and breasts, and vaginas) are beautiful in any form, shape, or size. But while men certainly don’t face the amount of body pressure that women do (at least penises are hidden 99.9% of the time!), socially-condoned body negativity — of any type, any gender — is bad for everyone.

Child-Free Women


Not Every ‘Child-Free’ Woman Is Going to Change Her Mind

by  on April 11, 2013
Ever since I “came out of the closet” as a Woman Who Didn’t Want Children a few years ago, I’ve brought up the subject very early in my relationships. Though it may seem like a buzzkill to start talking about your womb with a guy you’ve been on three dates with, now that I’m dating in my 30s I think it’s better to be honest and upfront about non-negotiables.
There are a lot of misconceptions you have to deal with when you’re childfree by choice, but No. 1 is the notion that you’re going to change your mind. When I was 15 and said I didn’t want kids, people told me I’d change my mind by 18. When I was 18, they said 21. When I was 21, they said 25. I’m 30 now, and my mind’s still pretty damn made up. It’s fine for teenage girls to have babies on national television and be praised for making a ‘responsible’ choice (hey there, almost every episode of 16 and Pregnant), but a woman who realizes in her teens that motherhood isn’t for her will always be told to wait a couple of years and wait until she meets the right guy and her biological clock goes off.
The problem with the post “What Do Men Think When Women Say They Don’t Want Kids” is that both the women in the story did just that – they changed their minds. I believe strongly that every woman should make the reproductive choices that are right for her, but highlighting only women who eventually chose to have kids does a disservice to all the ones who have spent their whole lives not changing their minds. It also makes it sound like couples should put off serious conversations about goals and desires, which is not the best way to build a strong foundation.
The important thing is that, whether you’re male or female, childfree or child-wanting, you can communicate with your partner and be honest with him or her.
Both the women in Dodge’s post were simply waiting for something else to happen before deciding – becoming more financially secure, getting older, or meeting the right guy. But not every woman who says that she doesn’t want kids is going to change her mind on the subject, and advising men to wait around and stick with these women until they change their minds sets a lot of people up for unhappy relationships where there’s no compromise. Yes, some people change their minds. And some people don’t. There are plenty of things couples can compromise on – where to live, whether to get a cat or a dog, what to do when one of you wants to quit your job and go back to school – but kids isn’t one of them. If one partner wants kids and the other one doesn’t, it often spells breakup. There’s no half-kid. There’s no refund policy if you change your mind after giving birth or it gets too hard later on. It’s one thing to hurt another adult who went into a relationship willingly, but it’s not okay to put an innocent third party in a position to get hurt by being unwanted or unloved. I thought about that a lot when I saw this bittersweet-yet-surprisingly-catchy song by a musical couple who were breaking up because they didn’t agree about children.
So, what do men think when women say they don’t want to have kids? I asked the one sitting next to me for his take on the topic. “Ben” knew before even going on a date with me that I was childfree, thanks to a Today Show segment that comes up when you Google me. Instead of questioning my motives, Ben questioned his. “I always thought I’d have children,” he said, but he had to think more about whether it was because he wanted kids or because he thought society expected them.
Ultimately, some people want to have children, and some people don’t. The decision is up to the two people in the relationship. The important thing is that, whether you’re male or female, childfree or child-wanting, you can communicate with your partner and be honest with him or her. My last relationship ended in part because we disagreed about kids, and even though it was sad to split up we both knew that we had made the right decision regarding our futures. A strong relationship isn’t just based on wanting the same things – it relies on both parties being mature enough to talk about those things, even when they don’t necessarily agree. And acceptance that the other person may disagree on a dealbreaking issue — and that the only way to resolve that issue may be to go your separate ways.