My First Meet and Greet

Over 17,000 readers in Over 70 countries.
I am most certain most will be unavailable to attend
But for the few that can,
Come on down!

Tonight, in Manhattan
At The Latitude Club
Between 47th and 48th street
On 8th Avenue
Starting at 6 p.m.

See you all there!

What's on Craig's List?

Craig's "List" really does have "everything" on it?! The atrocities of humanity that I perpetually avoid through my inordinate amount of positive fortunes!
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Chose your fate
Before you lose your faith

What is the purpose of my Life?

To Discover My natural gift(s).

What is the meaning of my life?
To share that (those) discovered natural gift(s)!

According to A Sophisticated Ladee that I Know

She has Identified a List of "Male Rules" based on her experiences with the Male Species.
Welcome her MAN RULES!!!
Each and Every One of these Rules Holds Mighty Significance to keeping the Peace
Between The Male and The Female species

1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up; you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Even Strong hints will not work!
Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become null and void after7 days.
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap Opera Guys
I Repeat...
1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap Opera Guys.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don 't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways
and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done.
Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
1. Nomadic tribes did not need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color.
Pumpkin is also a fruit.
We have no idea what mauve is?
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine...Really.
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round is a shape.
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know,
I have to sleep on the couch tonight; but did you know men really don't mind that?
It's like camping.

I am ISTP

What exactly do I mean?
Well the I denotes Introverted
The S stands for Sensing
The T indicates Thinking
and the P is for Perception

This is my personality type...one of Six16teen types (Extroverted, Inuitive, Feeling and Judging are the other possible traits, these Eight traits combine for the 16 personality types).

ISTP's excel at:
Situational analysis, which nets an identification of the "situation" or problem
in turn, creating and implimenting a functional solution.
A trouble shooter and problem solver!
We are quiet folk, and very interested in how systems operate...we like to understand our environment, with a focus on the effiency of the system as well as its structure.
We fully study our environment...to the smallest detail.  I can all but tell you when your last hair cut was...perhaps even what your previous nail color was.
We are always open to new ideas, information, techniques and approaches...I call myself progressive in this sense.
We may come across as detached, but I ASSURE you I am capable of accurately observing my environment...with Insight and Humour may I add...
One of our dirtiest little secrets...we have daring hearts, a thrill for speed and high adventure...You think you can hang with me?

At times, we seem to Act Without Regard for
Procedures (I find too many procedures Lead to too many Faults)
Directions (I hate follwoing directions and recipes)
Protocol (I have my own set of protocols)
and even in Safety (I will always be safe!)
As Haphazard as it may seem...its still all fact based on my broad spectrum of acquired knowledge and experience...developed over time through Action and Observation.
Put that in your Pipe and Smoke it!
You Smoke?  Quit!

I can and will solve any and all problems that grace my Path, as do all ISTP's

I will let anyone live their life as they wish too....just as long as you let ME live my life the way I want.  Yes?  Are we in accord?
We can endure reasonable impositions without complaint...but step on my toes and I will bite your foot!

We may be Introverts, but we are very Authoritative in our actions with Others...and we are very forceful at influencing others (very Atypical for general introverts).  We are driven to finish our tasks...but we do need our seclusion in order to master our tricks of our trade.  Effiecent and Virtuous.

We will detect the smallest amount of deviation in order to define the essence of things...then we analyze and classify.  We Exam all sides to an issue...perhaps even exhausting all angles in this process.  We use Logic to drive our Decisions.

We can be Curious of our world, yet still ground by our principles and ideals.  We can, and we will respond to the explicit/implicit wants of others...which can create conflict for our needs/desires, in order to meet the needs of others.

But
Best of all,
The More Complicated the System
The More Interest it draws from us...

Does Luck Exist?

Luck is random...probabilities
Luck is chance...randomness
Luck holds no favors, nor bestows any inconveniences
Good or bad
By some random chance, what will your probability be that you will be inconvenienced as opposed to reaping a favored reward...?

I do believe in creating your Own destiny, but I also know that it's not a bad thing to be in the right place at the right time...

Difference between Oooohhhh and Aaaaahhh

Let me share my insight on this matter. The hotter the foreplay, the steamier the session. Foreplay is the preheat phase in baking....nothing bakes well without preheating the oven.
You excite your partner by teasing all five senses...it's how you get to the mind, the "operator" of perception.
And I just love watching her skin brighten red and moisten with salty sweat as her heat uncontrolably rises. The rythmic movements of her desirous body language...the tugging, the pulling, the pushing...not a word is needed to know what's next
Her cougar-like low level growls...
By this point my faintest touch feels like the harshest grab. She'll shutter like an earthquake!
This not only can, but will make your partner melt and beg....
When she is extra-sensitive, I feed off of her energy....almost immortalizing my force and stamina.

Sex, is beyond hotness...It is about a connection (whether it's for one night, or an entire lifetime)
...it takes two to tango.
And dance I can, even with some of the most beautiful women you will ever see.

Are You Real?

Reality.
A byproduct of perception.
I think therefor I am...
I see and read you...so you become my reality.
But, do you actually exist???
To what my senses perceive. To what my mind deduces. I connect the dots of sorts...and create a world real to me, and me only.
My reality may very well, not be your reality. To each their own!

The spectrum of our two emotions

I like what you wrote...because it has truth from substance.

I never thought about it before as love, but to some degree it's exactly what it is. Rarely, will I meet someone and dislike them...to dislike would mean to not love. You, this blog spot, made me realize how much love I have for everyone...
As to what sort of love, that is a whole different discussion.

I can also honestly declare, that I lack fear. Even if I don't want to do something, I find the strength, courage and conviction to do as I must! Fear is never an option for me not to try...and if I happen to fail, I learn my lesson and improve my strategy...never would I let fear dictate my direction!

Meaning of the Color of Auras

Meaning of Clean Colors of the Aura
(colors of the rainbow, bright, shiny, monochromatic colors):

Purple: indicates spiritual thoughts. Purple is never a strong point in the Aura. It appears only as temporary "clouds" and "flames", indicating truly spiritual thoughts.

Blue: Balanced existence, sustaining life, eased nerve system, transmitting forces and energy. People with blue strong point in their Aura are relaxed, balanced and feel ready to live in a cave and survive. They are born survivors. Blue thought is a thought about relaxing the nerve system to achieve the balance of the mind or a thought about surviving. Electric blue can override any other color in the Aura, when the person is receiving and/or transmitting information in a telepathic communication. For example Michel Desmarquet, author of "Thiaoouba Prophecy", frequently glows with the electric blue during his lectures, especially when he answers questions from the public.

Turquoise: indicates dynamic quality of being, highly energized personality, capable of projection, influencing other people. People with turquoise strong point in their Aura can do many things simultaneously and are good organizers. They feel bored when forced to concentrate on one thing. People love bosses with turquoise Auras, because such bosses explain their goals and influence their team rather than demand executing their commands. Turquoise thought is a thought about organizing and influencing others.

Green: restful, modifying energy, natural healing ability. All natural healers should have it. People with a green strong point in their Auras are natural healers. The stronger the green Aura, the better the healer. They also love gardening and usually have a "green hand" - anything grows for them. Being in a presence of a person with a strong and green Aura is a very peaceful and restful experience. Green thought indicates a restful state and healing.

Yellow: joy, freedom, non-attachment, freeing or releasing vital forces. People who glow yellow are full of inner joy, very generous and not attached to anything. Yellow halo around the head: high spiritual development. A signature of a spiritual teacher. Do not accept spiritual teachings from anyone who does not have such a yellow halo. Buddha and Christ had yellow halos extending to their arms. Today it is rare on Earth to find a person with a halo larger than 1 inch. Yellow halo appears as a result of a highly active brow chakra (which can be seen glowing with violet by many people at my workshops). Highly spiritual people stimulate the brow chakra continuously for many years, because they always have intensive spiritual thoughts in their minds. When this chakra is observed when highly active, a yellow (Auric pair) halo appears around it, surrounding the entire head. Yellow thought indicates a moment of joy and contentment.

Orange: uplifting and absorbing. Inspiring. A sign of power. Ability and/or desire to control people. When orange becomes a strong point, it usually contributes to a yellow halo, which then becomes gold, indicating not only a spiritual teacher, but a powerful spiritual teacher, someone capable of demonstrating his/her unique abilities. Orange thought is a thought about exercising power or a desire to control people.

Red: materialistic thoughts, thoughts about the physical body. Predominantly red Aura indicates materialistically oriented person.

Pink (=purple+red): love (in a spiritual sense). To obtain a clean pink, you need to mix the purple (the highest frequency we perceive) with red (the lowest frequency). Pink Aura indicates that the person achieved a perfect balance between spiritual awareness and the material existence. The most advanced people have not only a yellow halo around the head (a permanent strong point in the Aura) but also a large pink Aura extending further away. The pink color in the Aura is quite rare on Earth and appears only as a temporary thought, never as a strong point in the Aura.

Meaning of Dirty colors:
(colors appearing darker than background more like a smoke than a glow)

Brown: unsettling, distracting, materialistic, negating spirituality.

Gray: dark thoughts, depressing thoughts, unclear intentions, presence of a dark side of personality.

Sulfur (color of a mustard): pain or lack of ease, anger

White: serious disease, artificial stimulation (drugs). Why does the white color in the Aura indicate problems? White color is like a noise, rather than a set of harmonious tones (monochromatic colors). It is impossible to "tune" the noise to an orchestra playing harmonious music, hence the white Aura indicates a lack of harmony in the body and mind. Nature, which we are a part of, is harmonious. This harmony comes in discrete vibration "tones" or harmonics, partially described by the modern quantum physics.
Several hours before the death, the Aura becomes white, and greatly increases in intensity. For this reason in most cultures "death" is depicted in WHITE (not black), because in the past, people could actually see a white Aura before death. It seems that our ancestors knew much more than we are prepared to admit.

Guess what...

There was once a little un, sprout some fruit and grew a ton...with eyes of delight and A mind so bright...she shined her light and lit my path...I walked it true and through only to find...all roadside trolls throwing fodder with no kindle...I stopped, and looked...flipped a rock or too...beneath the rubble, I found no trouble...just a little un, shivering with confusion...I brushed her off, set her straight...she rooted five phathoms, and grew to the heavens...emitting....radiating...transcending
Into a force seen and felt, by all reaches
Heard with domination, understood without interruption
Within this domain, as well as the next...
and here I am
A lone standing philosopher
I question the who what where why and how
Or should be more of The How Come?
But much like my surf, I catch my wave at its crest...
Flying...gliding
By sheer desire
And before I crash the shore,,,I stop short...
Turn back out...for I know another wave will come
The horizon will shield one star...as a rock rises from afar
Glows pale yellow, almost white...Sometimes seen red with a tinge of orange
Amorphic clouds will come...blackening the light...
Yet I still read the words, hear the whisper of the fruit barer...
Logic
Honesty
...basic common sense
Wry witty and funny
A smirk chuckle or laugh
Dawn comes, new light...new era
My phantom shadow silently striding ever so quietly, right beside me
Holding my secrets, speaking my way with my pace
I look to the sky...and there I still find
The little un....folded
To a dimension of
Joie de Vivre

3 + 3 = Three Failed Hearts by One Hand with Two Minds

Being the Maestro that I am, I have seen situations like this before and they never seem to workout because the individuals who are tangled within them never address the true relationship dysfunction.
What are your relationship issues with this mate?
That's your first question. Then,
you need to determine if you are willing to work towards a resolution, as should your male/female interest. Both NEED to be on board in order to acheive a decision of resolution. If only one fights...well then, that's all that will continue to happen...Fights!
Why do you go back?
Well, I can't read your thoughts...something must stir your Eros.
Emotion is a funny thing.
It manipulates us.
It contorts reality.
It warps our ability to self control.
It skews perception, and identifies with what we want to see...
Emotion is an addictive elixir that often causes all of our delight, as well as, all of our ache...

Dreams...

For a reason beyond your conscious understanding, you woke up this Thursday with intentions of playing hooky from work. You phone your boss's secretary, her voice mail comes on...
You deaden your voice, and with the best guttural whisper tone
"I'm not feeling well, I won't be able to come in to work today. Please call me back if this is a problem, otherwise I should be in tomorrow. Sorry for the late notice".
You snuggle back to bed and shut your eyes...

The sun is bright and you feel refreshed, three hours later. You stretch out your arms as you release a slow acting yawn...the brightness of the room begins to alert your attention to the lateness of the morning. You arise and begin to account your daily morning routine (plus three hours). As you sit at your kitchen table....shortly after filling the pot with water and placing it on the stove...medium heat, you vaguely capture the rustling of your mailbox...
You peek out your front porch window only to find late morning neighborhood silence. With your slippers on you shuffle out, you never seem to catch the Postman. You open the mailbox, and a modest pile of mail patiently sit slanted against the left side of this small hollow vessel. You nonchalantly grab the items...and scurry back in before anyone notices.
Two bills, an advertisement, a couple of letters and a circular. You rest the items on your desktop and sit in the desk chair. Your eyes wander up to the computer monitor that's mounted eye level...you flip it's switch and you hear the device activate. You rise back up at the sound of your teapot whistling steam...
Less then five minutes later you return with a tea mug in one hand and a plate with two slices of toast in the other...you arrive to your deskseat to a fully loaded, ready to operate computer monitor flashing lights and making noises. You grab and jerk the mouse, accidentally knocking over your pile of mail...
Your eye catches a glimpse of a letter sitting flat on the floor next to you right foot...with four unrecognized stamps decorating its top right quadrant.. You lift the thin envelop, closely inspecting every detail available.
First class.
An Eagle icon sat inbetween the four stamps.
Wow, it came from another country.
The letters were large and scripted, inscribe by a hand that forcefully pressed as it wrote out your address in a deep blue ink...
Fading in the background and no longer of any interest is the low hum of a computer...to no fault, you grab a pen and wedge it into the crease of the envelop.
It rips right off.

Inside, neatly folded sits a sheet. You pull it out and slowly unfurl a deepening mystery...

"Dearest Jasmine,
It's been three long years since my tears last enriched my/our hopes, during a time in our lives where neither of us could experience our deepest and truest natural desires. On that faithful day your lips graced mine, transcending into a euphoric paradise only your touch can bewitch me with. You swore to me that our forbidden love was merely fate teasing us with a non existing heaven...and our paths in life have a destined path directed elsewhere. You promised to always cherish my memory, as I yours... With a void in my soul, I restructured my conscious and grew legs to walk with...and walk I did in a direction destined to erase my forbidden memory. Four nights ago, I ran into an old friend...he asked me how you are doing, and I didn't quite have the heart to tell Him lost in a world that seems to thrive on stealing...since then you have been on my mind. It's three in the morning, and my longing hearts creeps with a weeping sorrow...my pen sits trembling in my hand unwilling to cooperate with a Vandalized ache that plagues the hidden memory of my lone true love...I am not be who I once was, and you may not who who you once were...but if we belong together, fate will bind us...and we will find our roads together.

A swaying flame,
Konstantine"

Sandra Layne vs Jonathan Hoffman

Who Wins?
74 year old Sandra Layne bested her 17 year old Grandson.
When police arrived at Sandra's house, her grandson had been discovered with At Least four gunshot wounds. Sandra used her .40 Caliber Glock semi-automatic gun to discipline the defiant high school senior...who was pronounced dead thirty minutes later at the local Hospital.

Keep gun laws the same, and people will continue to kill each other!
Even in Bloomfield Township, Michigan.

When do you know if someone Is "right" for you?

How convenient would it be if it were more like a slot machine...and you would instantly yield a result.
But life is about living, learning and experiencing. Then adjusting to what you have learned, lived and experienced.
Hence, why we are afforded that luxury of being granted that gift...that walk through we call life and circumstance.

Lunch Special for May May and Kau Kau

The Woman with the largest Golden heart!!!!
Eating her lunch
Pork Fried Rice
with
All the Spare Ribs with Wonton Soup
That her heart desires
Maybe Shrimp with Lobster sauce and fried Rice
Hot and Sour soup
and an Orange for dessert!

食飯 (sihk faahn)

What is Intelliegence Quotient?

God created genius to tease me with and stupidity to keep me honest and humble....
Unfortunately, that wealth was dispersed amongst everyone...and seemingly lopsided in one favor.
If I could cry, I would...because stupidity makes me sad...especially my own!
Just when I think I know a little bit more then I should, I humbly tumble back to mortality.
It's where we all are stuck...somewhere in an endless swamp of lame footed complacency masquerading with standards and entitlements,
Labels
Classes
Blah blah
No one is as smart as they think they are,
Actually most are too dumb to realize that the world has never revolved around them!

To Hate

Shows that you still care...

Climbing the Mountain of Conflict

I am an Optimist,
yet I understand the necessary evil that
Spilt Blood,
Disharmony
and Cruelty
are the inevitable factors
Present when achieving change for the better...

I am not afraid to die,
Yet I hold no fear in life...
I am not afraid to fail,
I seek to succeed at all costs...
I am not in contempt of hurt,
Yet pain is a known individualized sensation...
Specific to the Feeler...
Do you,
Can you,
Are you...
Feeling?

You live, you fail, you succeed, you hurt, you feel and then you die...
Life

Mistakes...Post Divorce that men make

How often do you read about what men really deal with emotionally and mentally after a divorce? I would dare say not often at all. We rarely hear about the not-so-obvious mistakes that many men -- including myself -- have made and are making right now. Here are the top three most common mistakes that men make after their marriages have ended:

#1 - Rush back to the altar too soon
Fortunately, I did not make this mistake; I do, however, know many men that have. Men are creatures of habit. If you are in the habit of having a woman cook, clean, or do any of a number of other tasks for you, then it is very difficult to break that pattern. It may sound old fashioned, but many men like having the "lady" around for these reasons, as well as for the company. Unfortunately, this enjoyment sometimes clouds their judgment. Many men are so desperate to have company after a divorce that they marry the first thing in a skirt. They never get to know who this person really is or whether or not they are truly compatible. Before saying "I do" for the second time, take time to become aware of who you really are and learn what matters most to you. When you rediscover yourself, you will be able to easily see if the new person in your life is compatible. I personally recommend that you take two years before even thinking about getting back into the dating scene. During the first year, evaluate what went wrong and start rebuilding your life. During the second year, take time to discover who you are without a wife. For example, go to self-improvement seminars, read self-help books and find a support group or coach. You may be surprised as to what you learn about yourself when you have no one but you to answer to. As Eckhart Tolle says, "Intimate relationships do not cause pain and unhappiness. They bring out the pain and unhappiness that is already in you." This can, however, lead us to mistake #2.

#2 - Become the town playboy now that you are single
I must admit that I had a bit of "playboyitis" after my divorce. It felt good to come and go as I pleased, but it gets old pretty fast. I had been out of the dating world for seven years. What was amazing to me was that a lot of the same games that people were playing when I was in college and high school were still being played by people in their 30's! I was blown away. When I was doing research for my divorce recovery book, I discovered that the herpes virus is most common among persons that are divorced, separated or widowed. What I realized was that people still had extremely casual feelings about sex. In addition to the dangers of sex, there was also the risk of unplanned pregnancies. I know of divorced men that had children with women they didn't love simply because they used sex as a band-aid to medicate their pain or loneliness. Think about what this may mean for that child. A good question to ask your self is, "Who do I have a chance to become now that I am single again?" Please let it be more than the town playboy. Find one woman that you can settle down with, but please don't make mistake #3!

#3 - Introduce your children to the new woman in your life way too soon.
I am definitely guilty of this one. I wanted the feeling of my family unit back so badly that I took my kids through a lot of unnecessary heartache. Men, you have to remember that your children have gone through a lot emotionally with the tearing apart of their family. The last thing they need is to see dad with a new woman so soon after the divorce. Children love their parents, and deep down they desire to have them back together. Give them time to adjust before bringing someone new into their lives. If the woman you are dating is really the one for you, then she will understand your decision not to rush into meeting your children. If she does not understand, then you may need to reevaluate your relationship. Does she want what is best for everyone involved? Do what is best for your children.

I hope that these three mistakes have made you stop and think. The key is to remember that you control your actions and decisions. Take this time for self evaluation in order to make the best decisions for you and your children. The last thing you want to do is be the victim of any of these three mistakes!

For continued support for men after divorce, go to www.SingleAgain-ForMen.com.

Carlos Phillips, founder of Healed Without Scars Ministries and Joanie Winberg, founder of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children have joined forces to support men during and after divorce.

Don't do this again

Afterall, we are human...
Each and every single one of us,
reading this

They teach us Boundries...and how to explore beyond them.
They teach us the principle of evolution. Now it's up to us to change.
They teach us to trust our resiliency, dedication,commitment and determination...

Now
Stop preaching and start practicing.
Try again if you must
Fear no failure

Ideas

Thank you very much for your compliments on my writing...I feel most gracious for your generous endorsement on my politics, philosophies and antiquated stories (or so they seem).
Konstantine is a family name that has been past on for generations. It's a strong name. It's a name used for one of the World's oldest cities (Istanbul or Constantinople...it's all the same). Plenty of history with it, and I wouldn't want to change my name.

Being a hungry literairy enthusiast, I feel as if I learn more about people, then I ever believed I could. People here (as in the Internet) make admissions free of all guilt and persecution.

I have nothing to admit guilt for.
Nor am I harboring some bizarre off the wall alternative lifestyle/slash/fetish fantasy.

I'm just A middle of the road observer, aware of all paths from all varied directions. I pass no judgements and I hold no prejudice. I believe there is good and bad in all that we do...some days the good wins, other days the bad does...
All in all you hope that there is more good then bad...and that no one was hurt along the way.

I know and expect life to be unfair.
But what s fair?
Is fair one sided?
One sided in my Favor?
Favor vs Fair?

And if I could choose one fairly tale ending to all of this...
One word
Justice

Play for Pain

A Most Dangerous Road indeed,
Filled with crosses and Ghosts...many have met their final fate on this long ghastly stretch, where metal fierclessly gallops with an unprecedent mercy...

My Speed ranged around Seventy70Miles perHour...
I'm aggressively barring towards an Eight by Eight lane intersection...
Less than One Hundred and Twenty feet away from where Sixteen Lanes Converge...
An Unmindful Snail,
(in the form of a 1993 Chrysler)
Peered his nose in my furious path of a blistering charge!!!
I swirved to the right, my rearside tires violently fishtail
I cut my wheel to the right to off set the imbalance...
The left side of my car wickedly kicks out...
I turn my wheel to the left....
My car full spins out through the intersection...
Completely...getting Flung...
Dragged Through
and ultimately
Thrown over the road divider...
Knocking out two Road Signs..
My windows shatter...
Finally coming to a standstill
On the Opposite side of this dangerous road...

A Miracle...
The Fastest moving Road On Long Island...
Out of control where Sixteen cars converge...
and I walked away without a scratch on my body...

My car, on the other hand...
I'll wait to see what the coroner has to say.

What do we Need vs Want in Life?

Is it our fault...?

Since it is apart of our nature...?

How much control is there over this...?

Is this due to a learned response from our environment?

TAKE!TAKE!TAKE!

Give only when there is a benefit...?

This is an overall generalization, and once you create a general grouping...there will be a certain amount of 
percentage deviation from that norm, meaning, not everyone will fit this criteria.
But overall, very few give without a desire for a return.

NEED

as a verb
a necessary element or component

WANT

as a verb
be needy or destitute
to desire to come, go, or be

There is a distinction between wanting and needing...most people tend to confuse the two, eventually the want masquerades as a need.

In my humble opinion, we (as humans) "need" a lot less then what we think we "wantishlingly Need".

We need to share self and family Love,
what we want is everyone's love
at our desired discretion...and apparently at our leisure

We need honest, respected and trusting companionship
We want controlled and benefiting friendships/connections/relationships

We need a purpose,
what we seem to want is power with a purpose

We need our health
for ourselves and all loved ones (family)
What We want is unmeasured and unparallelled beauty

Everything else in life is window dressing.
Without your health, does your beauty matter?
Without love in your life, will you ever feel a connection?
If you serve no purpose with responsibility, will any road you travel hold a direction?

Once we start to logically place our needs in front of our wants, then that approach to personal happiness has begun...

The End of the World

Hello hello hello
Despair?
Really?
Could it be...
Just a tad...
Dramatic...?
Maybe just a bit...
Right?

Whats ails your heart today,
Will be what strengthens your soul tomorrow.
Where sting fades dull
and memories run dry
Bones turn to dust
and wind swirls with lust...

My touch can't reach
But my words may seek
To spread my truths
With you...

Hidden in plain sight
Open up and share
I promise not to hoard
I promise not to take
Beyond what I have given

With everything that I have to offer
...take as much as you need
We often want more then we need
Who me?
Yes!
Yes, you...Yes, me too...
Us all....

When the MAN Comes Around

There's a man going around taking names and he decides
Who to free and who to blame every body won't be treated
Quite the same there will be a golden ladder reaching down
When the man comes around
The hairs on your arm will stand up at the terror in each
Sip and each sup will you partake of that last offered cup
Or disappear into the potter's ground
When the man comes around

CHOURS
Hear the trumpets hear the pipers one hundred million angels singing
Multitudes are marching to a big kettledrum
Voices calling and voices cryingSome are born and some are dyingIts alpha and omegas kingdom come
And the whirlwind is in the thorn trees
The virgins are all trimming their wicks
The whirlwind is in the thorn trees
It's hard for thee to kick against the pricks
Till Armageddon no shalam no shalom
Then the father hen will call his chicken's home
The wise man will bow down before the thorn and at his feet
They will cast the golden crowns
When the man comes around
Whoever is unjust let him be unjust still
Whoever is righteous let him be righteous still
Whoever is filthy let him be filthy still
Listen to the words long written down
When the man comes around

CHOURS
Hear the trumpets hear the pipers one hundred million angels singing
Multitudes are marching to a big kettledrum
Voices calling and voices crying
Some are born and some are dying
Its alpha and omegas kingdom come
And the whirlwind is in the thorn trees
The virgins are all trimming their wicks
The whirlwind is in the thorn trees
It's hard for thee to kick against the pricks
In measured hundred weight and penny poundWhen the man comes around

Close (Spoken part)
And I heard a voice in the midst of the four beasts
And I looked and behold, a pale horse
And it's name it said on him was Death
And Hell followed with him.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9IfHDi-2EA

Is She a Psycho?

Pyscho is a strong word, violent actually. There is nothing attractive about it. You may be honest of who you are, or just misinformed due to A poor interpretation of what/who you feel you represent.
It's not a good thing to verbally minimize yourself. If you find a weakness in yourself, then I suggest you build a strength for it...
As opposed to accepting it as a permanent disability.
And using it as an excuse to go around asserting a negative sense.

The world, this life...is what we Make Of It.

Don't make yourself worth, less then what you should deserve out of Life!
:-)
I hope you find your peace that you seek,
Find the bliss you deserve

I only have words to console you with
Thoughts to aid you by...
Philosophies to share

But, it starts and ends with you!

What is Sex?

Good Question
What is SEX?
At its simplest, procreation.
Sexual reproduction...Mix and Matching genetic information.
There is A high volume of pleasure associated with the Act of Sex, therefore it can become joyously addicting. How else would mother nature convince certain individuals to pass on their lineage? If pain and discomfort were a byproduct of sex, who would participate? Sadist and masochist...and that's ok with me!
When unplanned acts of reproduction are consummated (primarily since it can be tons of fun...just ask Dr Ruth), you get adult recreational play....and that too, is ok me.
Sex now evolves beyond the basic instinctual asset that it is...
It could also be used as a tool of control and/or manipulation, depending on the individuals and situations.
There are five basic forms of sex...
1) vaginal sex
2) oral sex
3) anal sex
4) masterbastion
5) mutual masterbation

We are by design programmed to create offspring...to ensure the survival of our species.
Passing on our DNA.
It's Instinct to have sex. We are attracted to people who (through a sequence of subconscious calculations, we estimate that) would yield us viable offspring...designed to survive and last. Big tall men with brawn! To fight and survive. Beautiful women that draw a lot of mates and are protected through that male support.

It's natural why contest those desires.
My advice...
Use good judgement.
Hold good and honest intentions...
and enjoy yourself without hurting the emotions of someone you may care about!

Dirty, Dark Secrets

There are moments where we teeter on the edge of steep cliff...with the wind to our back creeping us toward the thrill of extreme delight, the exihilrating rush of a drop at our feet...leap into an unknown sky, swooping through the dense air...
Almost Calmly floating in a mist of Feverish emotion,
Immersed at the mercy of undisclosed ecstasy
Our comfort yields to an unsuspecting euphoria...
Where pleasure meets pain, Pamepered by undefined spoils
Gratified by swaggering indulgence....punished at the Grieving throes of a feasting dominance!!!
Idolized and Rewarded
Savored, Revered! Bound in Worship...the ultimate Satisfaction

Infrequent Infinity

Disinclined!
Loathing away...

Throat Lassoed,
"Help me! Someone is strangling me"
Her name is Liz
she has massive hands

with delicate finesse
She grabs, captures and chokes
like a glove
with no remorse

Always precise
Always concise
Always exact
with purpose and intent

Like a snake
Circling her prey...
and pray you
Must
If...
You want to survive

Her clutches,
Her vice...

Buh-bye

An ode to the one un only...

My path is riddled with fractures...yet I bring word of peace
My heart is alone, plainly colored in concern and disbelief...bathing in a sea of trust and love
...with Nowhere to swim
My knees buckle, I drop to my feet...if only I knew of a prayer
That has hope instead of doubt
Conviction as opposed to reservation
Overwhelmed. Underappreciated. Finally...
Fully Exhausted
By the never ending process
of Give, give, give
with nothing to gain...

No scream is heard,
No fight gets felt,
No flavor of passion,
No whiff of stillness,
with No beloved in sight
or spirit
Thirsty with unshared truth...

What makes life so beautiful
Is our wild and bountiful growth
...our evolution
....as we unfold

Why is life so precious
Since its so delicate
and temperamental
...making this transient
....and seemingly unstable

Calmness stills
Patience wins
Determination prevails

What is found in life that belongs to us
Is our ability to comfort one another
The ability to share and experience
The easy ability to give without wanting
To encounter, Feel...then endure together
as we should All savor from the fountain of acceptance

Say what you need to say

Follow your heart and intuition
be happy
Do, what NEEDS to be Done!
be thankful
Be the Differnce maker
be grateful
Stand with Pride...Believe in yourself
Forgive the pain and those that hurt
Be the best that you can be
Hold no regrets
Find something or someone that you TRULY love

What Pisses you off about other People's Behavior?

Ignorance!
Arrogance!
Pretentious!
Degrading!
Prejudice!
Derogatory!
Close minded!
Rude!
Inconsiderate!
Unmindful!
Mean!
Nasty!
Selfish!
Cruel!
Self absorbed!

All other things...just superficialities.

A Distinct Feel, in a distinct way....

This Impulse is undeniable...feverishly sweeping throughout every inch of my body
Itching lust and jolting energy

with Cupid's Delicate Artistry
Subtle, yet with intent at first
I Approach with smooth, soft, sensitive, slow and gentle strokes
My light brushing touch daintly glides over her thirsty Flesh
A gentle pace, treading my caress with each beat of her Heart
My impression Lingers, her appetite grows....
We have all the Time in the World
with each mindful graze comes a realm of timeless pleasure
Creating a Haven of unexplained indulgence....
An Extraordinary and seemingly Forever lasting paradise

Wish

Connecting
with
my cherished words
my passionate attitude
my attentive nature and expressive emotions

In our Enchanted Bubble,
I hear her breath deepening
her flesh warming, simmering, boiling...just before exploding
Becoming,
Lost in an endless Euphoria

Her stare intensifies, her smiles wickens....
she bites her lip, she anticipates more...
I lean in, we kiss...
Immortal and Eternal
our steps of intimacy grow
we unfold like a springtime flower
Opening up to the radiant glow and intense warth of a Golden God

Q.U.I.R.K.Y

The Q stands for quacky
the U is for Unique
the I indicates Interesting Intelligence
the R resembles a Remarkable nature
the K is for all th Kindness...
and, well
the Y, yeah well that stands for Yummy

Where I stand,
Where I come from...
It's perfectly OK
To be yourself...Quirky!

Afraid of Rejection?

I exist in this sheltered kingdom, a domaine shall we say...where kings have despised queens, and princesses seem to only find frogs...
But, one could argue that perspective plays a major factor to how any situation is interpreted. If she loves frogs, then she will be content. If he adores the despicable, he will be comfortable. It's all relative to what we want (or think that we want), and our pursuit of it.
Within this past year, I have decided to lift my walls of inhibition...and allow access over my monster infested moats.
I will no longer allow myself to tango with devils...I will only dance with queens and princesses.
My decisions drives my actions. It's all up to me..
and if by chance, I come across a wicked witch...off with her head and then I will click my heals three more times. . .

Look in to See out

A gift, let's say...examine the Indivdual, shall we...and all experiences. We shall start the journey there...because moral and scientific thinking alone will not progress this search. It is the INDIVIDUAL who is responsible for giving meaning and for living life sincerely and passionately...inspite of all potential back drops and down falls!!! One still works towards a self understanding...

You my dear hold deep fiery passions...unrelenting appetite, that yearns for an unsatiated lust...Without any doubts, just temptations...after all humans are constantly tempted...
Your sincerity is authentic, and your desires genuine...you hold no ill will, only love and goodness...with a hidden crave for submissive dominance. No shame in it, nor is judgement ever passed.

Remember,
Existence precedes essence...
Through your consciousness, you will create your own values...ultimately defining your existance!

The sequence

Man comes to a tangible state,
Encounters, experiences and investigates himself,
Evolves by and because of that...
Ultimately defining himself through experiences....

Good or Bad,
Man is neither
It is the actions that are chosen as consequence from experience

Notice the word Choice...
Goodness is a decision
as is the act of Bad.

How to Score

The mating ritual between Man and Woman, Man and Man or Woman and Woman...all have the same underlying fundamentals. Let me call them rules on Human Etiquette. I found this wonderfully written article by a Woman who is completely on Fire! Ouch! So, these are her principles on how to be successful in this mating dance...

She starts with a simple question...
Are you interested in physically connecting with someone?
Because, she too is very much into it!

She insists on two respects.  "I want to do these things with hot women (and occasionally I do).  I want you to do these things with hot women too.  So guys, since I have the distinct advantage of both doing hot women and being one myself, you may want to carefully consider these modest suggestions. First and foremost, be hot yourself!  It is not only possible, it is easier than you might think. 

Attributes of Hotness

Now I am not going to lie to you.  It helps to be born with the rugged good looks of a Daniel Craig. But if you are not blessed with GQ looks, you have a lot of company!  Many of them are getting laid!  You can not go to the mall without seeing some homely guy with a hot chick!  So I must insist that runway looks are not absolutely necessary and certainly not the whole game.

So what do you do?  First, use what you got!!  If you have two hairs, comb them!  If you have one tooth, brush it!  Shine your shoes, iron your shirt, take a bath, and please trim your nose hair!  I can not tell you how many guys could look good if they took better care of themselves, and if you do not, it is a damn sure bet we don't want to!

If you need fashion advice, I have good news.  It is everywhere and it is free.  A well-dressed woman behind the cosmetics counter at Macy's can probably teach you volumes about how to dress.  Ask her.  If you see a well-dressed black guy, ask him!  Gay black guy?  Even better!   

Smart is hot.  Learn something!  I am not talking about glomming on to some psuedo-intellectual (typically liberal) college professor and spouting the same (typically liberal) pablum you hear from them day and night!  I'm talking about taking the time to know how to do something, produce something, service a real need.  Learn how to think, not what to think.  The easy-going confidence of a guy who knows what he is doing is highly compelling.  A competent, confident plumber is far more attractive than some whinny 20-something brat bitching about the unfairness of life. 

And did you notice that I put the word competent in front of confident?  Did it for a reason.  Competence breeds confidence, not vice versa.  Put in the time and effort to get good at something and you will become confident.  Wait for Mommy or society to "boost your self-esteem" and you are wasting your time!  

Polite and refined are hot.  Anyone can be polite and display good manners!  Good manners are simply a habit that you develop by --- trying!  If you have a habit of bad manners, it is from --- not trying.  So just change it.  Be sweet.  Flies to honey baby, and in this case the "flies" are the smoking hot chicks you long for!    

Physically fit is hot.  You do not have to be a body-builder, but if you are seriously overweight, lose the weight.  Do not talk about it, just lose it.  Pick a plan, there are thousands.  Don't want to plan, okay, cut out sugar and junk food and get a little exercise.  In the immortal words of Nike Shoes, "Just do it!"

Being really serious all the time is sooooo hot --- for college Freshmen girls for about a month!  The rest of our lives we want to laugh and have fun.  So develop a good sense of humor!  The possibility of parting us from our panties increases in direct proportion to the quantity and quality of times you make us laugh.

Good conversation is hot.  Don't know what to say?  Good!  Just listen.  Ask questions.  Draw us out.  An excellent resource for becoming a brilliant conversationalist is Dale Carnegie's, How to Win Friends and Influence People. 

Hot for a Specific Woman?

Do all of the above, and then, plan your approach the way an angler plans to fish.  Suppose prime rib is your favorite food.  Do you put prime rib on the hook when you go fishing?  Of course not.  Fish enjoy minnows or shrimp or the promise of a tasty bug!  It is likewise with us.  You will stand a much better chance of catching the girl if you bait your hook with something she likes as opposed to something you like.  Hence, study her!  Find out what she wants.  Then tempt her with it over and over until she bites!  Take a girl who loves to sail for instance.  Arrange to take her out on a sail boat and keep inviting her.  Sooner or later she will want to go and accept your invitation.  Once you get her on the boat, remember all the stuff I have already told you!   Give her what she wants and she just might decide to give you what you want!

Using EP/Internet to Chase Babes?   

Profile pics:  How many guys use a pic of something other than themselves?  Lots do, to their detriment!  Best to be yourself.  Put an original photograph in your profile, not an EP pic, and NOT a random hot babe.  Post a good photograph.  Nicely dressed is better than sloppy.  Semi-nude is better than fully nude.  If you post nude, make sure it is not some cell-phone mirror-shot or something snapped off with a cheap digital.  Your profile pic is your first impression and lots of guys lose us instantly with an off-putting profile pic. 

Guys, do NOT post the perennial “cock shot”.  We get it.  You think your cock is great.  We think it's great too, AFTER we get to know and feel comfortable with its owner. Do not use a silly cartoon pic.  Do not use a hostile pic.  Women are not attracted to silly or hostile guys.    

Your Description:  Be positive about your life!  Write something substantive about yourself.  Not talking about “love to please" or “well endowed”...    Write something that reveals who you are.  Do not post doom-and-gloom for your status. Check your spelling, grammar, punctuation, and word usage before you post.  A woman who flunked high-school composition may not care.  But one who passed it does.  Don't disqualify yourself by error-ridden writing that makes you look less intelligent than you are.

Some Do-nots

Do not have 1,000+ friends or be a member of 1,000+ groups.  Hot women do not want to be part of a collection.  Too many groups tells us you have no idea who you are or what you want. 

Do not merely post "would love an add" on a hot woman's white board.  It looks desperate. 

Do not click a person into your circle, then ignore their messages.     

Do not argue.  But if you do, be civil.  And PLEASE, back up what you say with your OWN REASONING.  Nothing is a bigger turn-off than a guy who argues by posting links to articles.  It says he is mentally lazy, a wannabe, or part of the Borg collective.  I feel like writing back and telling a guy like that to go away, but ask the author of the articles to give me a call.  Along this same line, nothing is more pathetic than a guy who argues, but will not answer simple questions in a reasoned dialogue.  There are those who think ignoring questions you cannot answer is a clever tactic.  It is not.  It SCREAMS stupid.  Literally sends me rushing for the block-button.  So if you argue, be civil, express YOUR OWN sound reasoning, and be fair enough to answer the questions you are asked.   

Cool/Un-cool  

Guys, be cool.  Here is what that looks like:  Good manners, lively dialogue, being nice, being fun, being funny, taking an interest in the things we like, reading our stories, particularly the "read me first" story.  It is cool to act - even though we know you are acting - like sex is the last thing on your mind. 

Avoid being un-cool.  Here's what that looks like:  Being rude or demanding, going straight to the topic of sex, being mean, not reading our posts first.  Crude language, for example, calling me a "sexy bitch".  The qualifier "sexy" does not nullify the noun "bitch."  "

Lesson Learned In Life

I do not define myself by how many roadblocks have appeared in my path.
There are roadblocks in all paths...
I define myself by the courage I’ve found to forge new roads.

I do not define myself by how many disappointments I’ve faced.
Disappointments are always possibilities when you take Risks...
I define myself by the forgiveness and the faith I have found to begin again.

I do not define myself by how long a relationship lasted.
All relationships eventually end...
I define myself by how much I have loved, and been willing to love again.

I do not define myself by how many times I have been knocked down.
Anything that rises, does fall down...
I define myself by how many times I have struggled to my feet.

I am not my pain.
I am not my past.
...
I am that which has emerged from the fire
and I Will FEARLESSLY walk through any challenge in Life