The End of the Line is Near

TwoThousand2010Ten is 10ten10 hours 10:00:00 away from ending...enter 20TwentyEleven11
Welcome...
Make this your best year yet
Just remember, respect...
spread your love and respect
and just maybe
you'll get some in return
Enjoy your New Year
Be Smart and Safe tonight

PS to my Loyal Reader

Lorraine Chamblain

St. James is never the same

without you

the Boyz

28, 13, 19, 56, 10 and 23

My fortune cookie reads...the ingredients in a good life are to Learn, and then earn...and we will all eventually yearn...
Well Mr cookie, well done, my turn
   Strong, healthy relationships have their own ingredients...lets start with our enthusiasm to explore and grow with our partners.  Find our partners attractive from the soul out.  Share physical affection, just as much as, emotional connection...remember to place your partners needs within your eyesight...don't ever take your partner for granted.  The backbone to all relationships is the ability to communicate...discuss anything and everything with Complete HONESTY...while actively listening and being able to hear what your partner is saying.  Compatibility...Mesh...the relationship is a living entity therefore it has to coagulate into a co-functional manner.  The ability to entirely engage your partner...keep interest through intelligence...challenge...need each other.  Finally the foundation to success is accepting your partner for whom they are...this means you respect and hold consideration...ultimately recognizing and tolerating...(to accept does not necessarily mean to agree with, comply, or give in).
Be yourselves, love yourselves, and just maybe you can love others...
This is captain Pat Benson acknowledging the recent release of lieutenant Hughes from Tijuana...now he is free to marry his love of his life fiancee Alyssa Pasedeno.

Hello there Jenni

Its that time of year were stupidity dictates activity...Meet Ms Jennifer Marie Riegler, a twenty23three year old woman from Hebron, Maryland.  Accused of stripping naked and harassing staff and customers at a Royal Farm store in town.  With her lewd remarks followed by her sexually suggestive inappropriate behavior, the store staff quickly alerted the local deputy whom promptly showed up and arranged for Ms Riegler's escort to the local "time-out" center.  By weeks end, she most certainly will have plenty of company to harass within her intimate area of confinement...
Be smart
Be safe
But still remember to enjoy yourself, without harming yourself or anybody else...Right Ms Riegler?

Is there something WRONG with your Medulla Oblongata?

Amygdala

Greek word for almond and tonsil.  The Amygdala is also the anatomical name for a very specific region in the mammalian brain.  It is located in the medial temporal lobes of the brain, and its comprised of a cluster of nuclei forming the shape of an "almond".  The known primary role of this region is to processes and store/recall Emotional Reactions and Events.  This helps regulate your fear and fight or flight reactions.

     Recent studies have shown a direct correlation with the size of the Amygdala and the size of an individual's social network.  The bigger the Amygdala the larger the social circle an individual reported having.  I found this very interesting...because this in essence is stating that to a certain degree, you are built with the ability to function socially (tangible data..and i love facts!).  Although an argument could be made that large social functioning individuals develop larger Amygdala in response to deal with a "need" for social situations (again worth investigating).  Lets take this one small step deeper in analyzing the ultimate social setting, a relationship.  Can a person with a "small" Amygdala have an inadequate ability to sustain a healthy relationship?  Does an individual with a "large" Amygdala have a better ability to maintain stable relationships?  Interesting if it could be that simple.  Another interesting aspect to the Amygdala is its processing of personal space violations. HypersensitiveToSpaceaAreWe?  With this thought process in hand, researchers are trying to understand how abnormalities in this brain region may impair social behavior in neurologic and psychiatric disorders.
My final word of advice...next time you make a date with someone, make sure they share their MRI's as well...this is Captain Patrick Benson signing off on this Snow filled Tuesday Morning
Be well
Be Safe

Godzilla and the Pink Footsie Camouflage Pajamas

     You don't have to agree or approve of an individual in order to accept them.  To impede an individuals' form of expression is criminal to that individual...you are denying the reality of the relationship...all for the purpose of attempting to change someones else undesirable trait(s).  Any and all actions or behaviors one may deem as undesirable (or "unacceptable") are rarely done to intentionally thwart or to be compromising.  These are forms of expression typically done through natural means of living.  Take for example a pet dog.  This animal means no ill will by chewing on furniture, it is its instinct.  This animal would be just as happy if it had a chew toy.  When faced with something we do not agree with, we instantly make this a personal attack, when in fact it may be anything other then that.  When we learn to be accepting, we will find peace with that individual.  Sometimes in order to accept, we may need to find compromise in the relationship, this is where communication lays the foundation for growth.  Remember, you can not change someone, you can only change yourself!

Seasons Greetings

On December 25TwentyFifth25 in the year NineTeen1965SixtyFive, This world was Blessed with the Arrival Of one Sandy Stine...Happy Birthday Mrs Burkhardt from all your family, friends, and acquaintances from out East.

    This is the time of year where family and friends reacquaint and relive old memories, some fond...others not.  Past journeys, forgotten adventures.  Reminisce about lost loves, connect with new lust.  Share with ones you love, laugh with those you adore...immerse your affection with a devoted appetite that these holidays will bring.  A naive mysticism that entangles its web in each generation with a beloved passion and loyal connection.  Its the time of year, where you set aside your differences, forgive the wrongs and embrace your enthusiasm.
Merry Christmas to all

A memo to Hollywood Hughes

All Talk Chuck, stuck in a Tijuana prison...got caught with three hookers and a half an ounce of cocaine.  I guess he forgot to bribe the Mexican federalists.  Good luck old boy.

PS Beats being in

Afghanistan

Happy Belated Birthday

Rosemarie

May your Blessed Path continue you On

For Many More Healthy Decades

Oil and Vinegar make for Good Dressing

If you do the Irish Jig backwards, you can undo time...This truly is an unexplained phenomenon?!  I'm just lying to you now, but you can always try it anyhow, you just never know...
 
     There is a lot of mystery in attempting to understand why any relationship will flourish or fail.  Lets identify those critical elements of a successful adhesion of individuals that create that necessary connection integral in achieving a successful relationship.  First1st and foremost, how compatible are your personalities?  Do you really get along?  Or are you silently irritated by their personality?  Laid back vs High strung?  Dealing with adversity?  How compatible are you?  Next is communication compatibility.  A direct or indirect communicator?  Is there one individual that does the talking, is someone the silent type?  Are you talking over each other?  Evaluate your discussions and identify if there is good flow within the conversation.  Better yet, do you enjoy the talk?  Another factor is your crossover compatibility.  Do you mix well within each others social circles?  How about family gatherings?  Do these situations induce STRESS?  A grossly underestimated factor is lifestyle compatibility.  Are you into your own personal health?  Or you prefer junk (that word bares resembles to the word puke...must be the U and the K) as your life style?  Money is probably the Biggest stress factor in all relationships...frugal vs generous (lets replace generous with stupid!).  Couples with similar ideas about their finances often have easier relationship roads.  Couples also bond through similar life experiences, professional endeavors, political and social views.  Another important facet where similar is better is intimacy...couples that share similar comforts within specified ideas of intimacy often fare a closer fate.  Opposing views on intimacy will quickly fizzle any romance, creating an environment of resentment.
     In order to peacefully coexist with your mate, evaluate how the two of you mesh together...and accept, change YourSelf, or leave...

Oenophile Heaven under Sunny Blue Skies

     The older i get, the more i get it...why people migrate in flocks down south.  Winters up north are cold, dark and emotionally desolate.  Sun enhances your mood, our circadian rhythms are contingent upon our exposure to it...the sun in essence is our life force.  Circadian rhythms are daily rhythmic activities (based upon twenty24four hour time intervals) that lead to hormonal regulatory type of biomedical, physiological, or behavioral processes...basically it is your daily internal clock.  The dominant hormone in this cycle is melatonin.  If you are feeling hungry, grumpy or tired...spend a little extra time with the sun (or drink some water, grab a little fruit)...it might help balance out whatever hormonal discrepancy you might be internalizing.

The Chinese believe that this is the explanation of the flow of energy (otherwise known as Qi) throughout the body in patterns called meridians.  These meridians have two hours of maximum function, as well as, two hours of minimum function.

Nonetheless, it would be nice to see sun, all under nice weather conditions, preferably a warm weather condition.  A year ago, i was unearthing myself from a 30thirty30 inch snow fall.

The weekend was a complete pleasure.  Saturday was warm and sunny and the vineyards where open for business...Best of all i had wonderful company.  Each time i see Kathryn, her beauty reveals another layer of her enchanting complexity, unveiling exquisite seduction and sublime radiance.  I feel completely comfortable around her, which is rarely the case when i am around people.  My instinct to be a loner,  therefore to find a calmness in social settings is definitely something outside of the norm.  She has just the right mix of beauty with silly...a playfully inquisitive soul with a golden heart.
     We visited 4four vineyards.  Two Momma and Pop, two corporate.  Corporate gets the Thumbs Down (we didn't even stay for a tasting at the first one...pppsssstttt its Entemann's owned).  The second Corporate Vineyard was salvaged by a bonfire occupied by Kathryn, myself, this female demoniacal attorney (she had it in for her look alike date) and a group of intrinsically overly-friendly women.  The group of women were observed feeding each other cheese, bread, and wine.  We left for our final destination.  It's an old horse farm converted to a vineyard, and what a ,lovely way to end the wine journey  The name of the vineyard is Baiting Hollow Vineyard (and along with being a vineyard, they are also a horse rescue foundation).  We tasted two really good wines their 2007 Cabernet Sauvignon and 2007 Red Velvet (a blended red wine)...the second wine was absolutely dense and decadent.  Full bodied and completely bedazzling with its array of dry berry flavors with an unrelenting smoothness of the finish...the wine needs to be renamed 2007 Hypnotic.  All in all, the first vineyard was by far the most impressive facility with their product and by their operation...Shinn Vineyard in Mattituck.  This Vineyard is the only self sustaining Green Facility east of Colorado.  Their 2007 9nine9 Barrels Merlot is as good of a Merlot as you will find on Long Island.  I was also impressed by there 2007 Petite Verdot and 2007 Malbec (both one hundred 100% single varietal)...For the record, Thousand2007Seven was a superior year (climatically speaking) for Long Island grape growing (a very dry summer season...although keep in mind that a bad wine maker will drought anybody's palate).  Dinner time came, Kathryn and I feasted on sushi and sashimi...she strongly insisted that i finish all the food and wine (she truly is a person after my own heart).   After dinner we were tired so we rested for a little while, and later on shared our good byes...and then we parted.  Good Night Dear Kathryn...until next time.

PS if you claim to have a Snowman on the menu

then have the snowman on the menu

Fix the Fryer!

Or lose the Menu's

Bundle Up

     With the temperature in the low 20's, factor in the wind chill...now your talking about the type of temperature that turns your fingers blue, i'm doing the unimaginable (finding comfort...) by overdosing on sugar (Sweets Rock).  They're coming in all shapes and sizes  SUCH AS  cookies, chocolat, dried fruit, peanut butter (i can make this an endless list).  Jinxed by my own mouth, in more ways then one.  Luckily for me, my fitness regiment is quite concise, and i can overcome such troubling morning behavior.  The fact that my body sports a high volume of lean muscle mass only enables me to utilize more fuel than the typical individual, hence making this minor sugar binge just another lap on some treadmill by mid day today.  (the peppermint taste is still lingering on my palate...what a minty smooth finish).  On a more serious note i can just about draw a parallel between personal fitness and health in a relationship.  I find individuals who lack the motivation to address their own personal health issues almost always neglect the health of their own personal relationships...whether its spousal, familial, or just a common friendship.  It could be due to low self esteem, not respecting thy self.  This inner reflection only gets deflected outward, and people slowly allow themselves to harbor negative connections.  Take care of your self, and this will enable you to work Well with others.

Ps, inward Health will lead

to Strong outward Connections

An apology

To all my readers who anticipate more to read, due to my restricted schedule at the moment, i can only contribute limited attention to our shared forum...
therefore i will leave you tonight a fact, an important fact
and it will be up to you
to do what is best for you
People who choose to workout will live longer
people who chose not to workout will die sooner

May your God bless us all

and keep your faith strong

Scattered yet Methodical

To define happenstance, one would have to identify the father Happen and the Mother circumstance...creating a notion of chance that interacts with unpredictable occurrences affecting ours lives.  My mind is too scientific to not accept randomness, in the form of collisions.  Look at a our moon, that was a result of a collision theorized to have occurred approximately four and a 1/2 BILLION years ago...happenstance

I do live my life with the rule of randomness, hence the reason for my participation of the 1/4 Toss...it arbitrarily decides fate.  Call my niche, i call it luck...its said your better off being lucky then good.  Many roads have started under this pretense.
Yesterday was a day of three3.  Friday Night i received a an invite from an old fellow comrade Tristan.  The last time i saw Tristan the moon has gone through thirty 3faces0. Yesterday Tristan Found ME.  All by chance...our paths just crossed in the middle of an ocean that i never swim in.  HMMMM...
I had dinner plans with Sandi and Joe, i picked the place (I haven't eaten there in One thousand five hundred and 14 days).  On my way there, i found a mound of cash do$$ars in the middle of a dark road.  Merry Christmas Sandi and Joe, dinner is on me.  (I also bought a fist full of tickets).  Maybe there's more to come?
The third might have been the oddest, as if the first 2 weren't odd enough.  I wrote a lovely email to Kathryn, sent it out...the only problem, she never received it since i addressed it to a false destination.  That was sent out at Si6 PM.  Interesting how chance can dictate any road...
Randomness exists in our world and in our minds, we can choose to accept it and embrace it...but those that fear it will only ignore it

Just to Let you all Know

Good afternoon to all my readers,

Let me remind you all, from those that know me, to some whom may know of me, and to the rest of the world for randomly crossing paths...converging on a road of words that i have constructed for our journeys.

To all four14teen countries throughout 4four4 continents...Thank you for your reads, whether its just once, or a repeat visit

I appreciate all your support.

Minaminaminamina

    One of my mothers' once told me, you need to be proactive and make an effort for the better...so i did just that.  Switched some things around and asked for a couple of favors.  By the time dusk arrived, i was southwest, driving into a sunset.  The cool ocean breeze lightly frosted the reddish skyline...eventually the evening clouds shielded the nights' light.  Shes tall, attractive and slender, her radiant personality greets you twenty yards before you even hear her two miniature guardians.  Alpha and Beta.  Willow greets my hand with her filed down canines...i know shes just saying hi.  Kathryn's charming smile is enhanced by her sweetly expressive and seductively exotic cheek line, her delightfully enchanting large green  ii's sparkled under the savory clouds...with a thrust of energy to defrost the antarctic.  Karen is inside, patiently waiting for me as well.  Their curiosity is satisfied, that i am no longer a figment of their imagination.  Imagination is good though, it is a genesis for intrigue... a naive mystery for the heart and mind.  We leave to meet with Rosemary, her recipes are terrific, her company is comforting.  The mood is a mixture of minor anxious disappointment coupled with almost a relief of relaxation.  The whole crew is warm and pleasant (even the mean and cold ones).  We leave when its time...and time it was.  Four4 hours later, as slow as i could, i coast my way back north, the late evening never tired my mind nor spirit.  Goodness does exist, and when exposed refreshes the soul.

Cheers To

Mr Paul Gutierrez, fellow Blogger and online literary enterpriser.  Welcome!  Your 3thirtyeight8 points are certainly close to your heart.  You get an A for Authenticity...true to your wants.  Bless your heart for your love and admiration to all hamsters in this world.  Bravo friend for taking that leap into a fateless pit!  The unknown lurks in those darkened depths.  With your five5%percent in hand, no easy feat...let me tell you Paulie.  I'll do my due diligence, but you'll need to make some concessions.  Understand that each individual is much like a caterpillar...destined for metamorphosis.  And like all butterflies, float up into our heavenly skies...becoming one with a celestial nature.

Ps Paulie, just for you buddy
CAN ANYONE FIND ME A WIFE?
ps follow this link and then click on his home page...read about Paul and his Thirty8 points

What did you do on

Pearl Harbor Day?

It was cold and clear, the day after the sixth6th, i don't care much for that Monday.  The weekend was short, my cell is dead, isn't it always?  Remember this, batteries have memory.  I'm exercising less, but my weight is down...i have nutritionists whispering in ear.  Some vineyard owner is visiting, asking me ridiculous things, I'm trying to help him...i don't even know why he is even here.  Speaking of the ridiculous, its really cold for my blood...there goes the theory that i am cold blooded.  I'm rambling, you might be reading.  Its a quarter after six6am in the morning so early...what are you doing right this second?where are you at this very moment?  My fingers are cold, i am wearing a green scarf and gloves...

Lengthy

Lets just C(s)ay, just for this on1e moment...all hypothetical of course...that the Center of the universe exists (and it does so) just to revolve around Cuzy...could this actually be?  You know that type of individual?

containing or being poisonous material especially when capable of causing death or serious debilitation

extremely harsh, malicious, or harmful

  Contagious, infectious, harmful, malignant, noxious, deleterious, calamitous...fatal...this descriptive pathogenic list is endless...In describing a vicious self feeding (psychologically driven) mentally dependent Cycle to an addicted situation.  One must muster their inner self strength in order to extricate themselves from these detrimental relationships.  Ask the question?  Is this Good For ME?  Is this healthy for ME?  If both answers are No...you know what you must do.  Find Closure and move on.

     Even though Kathryn asked me not to include her in the blog, i will make today's exception in this one statement...just for the record, anything involving Kathryn is posi+ive, as per the agreement.  Six6 PM, this past Saturday, she convinced me to go.  Up until that point, i was on the fence...well the fence fell in a very specific direction.  Thirty minutes later, i was shaving and texting Joe.  By Seven 30 that evening, i had made my long walk up some old stairs...there are many ghosts that line that outstretched ascending corridor...reminders for those that make that March.  My name was on this list, Joe's wasn't, they made an exception.  I hand my coat to the grumpy coat check lady (i bet her stamp is still on the back of my hand).  I scan to my left and lo and behold Sandi (with drink in hand) causally floats in our direction.  I introduce Joe to Sandi ( i had an intuition that they would be compatible...they are kindred spirits on similar paths). and i walk away, there are many people here that would like to say HI.

The Mood is Festive, the music is loud...150(onefifty)...as in people line the parameters...Noise everywhere.  Santa's helper greets and drags me.  I see the buffet table, i would rather eat then drink (beer is ok, but my wine is better and somewhere else ;  P  On my plate sits a small cut of fish, a three ounce serving of chicken and approximately a quarter cup of roasted potatoes.  I feel better already.  The room continues to greet me, the crowd is ever so pleasant.  Tracy is waiting for us down the road and around the corner.  We go, without even really say our byes, its ok, i doubt we go noticed.  I meet Tracy.  The first thing that surprised me about her, is that shes more attractive then i expected ( i do not know why i would have expected someone less attractive).  Maybe the whole fallacy of women turning into pumpkins once they turn Four40ty?  Still not a good reason.  Well, she truly has a certain charm, between her tasteful lewdness and comic truth of the faults and roads of reality.  I could listen to her for hours, shes that engaging.  As i listened to her theories (facts!), i see the smirk on Joe's face, and i know why...its the shared philosophy behind those discussions.  Look Up MYSTERIO.  Sandi, Joe and I leave for some Live music (Tracy stays with her party),  We make Our way across a extensive parking lot.  We reach our destination, by this point, i know where i belong, somewhere else, my Sunday starts early.  I leave, but i do say good bye...

Respects to all John Lennon Fans on this December 4th

The most famous Residence building in New York?
 The Dakota...
Well lets start our story for the day

     Jayson rhymes with Benjamin, and the S in silly stands for Stupid...right Jay?  Or should i just keep it simple and call you Ben?  Simple is a good word, denotes basic, and that sums up the mind of any regular fellow.  I must say that i am very curious to hear Sandi's friend Tracy, her Relationship Theories.  If my insights stand for Ying, then Tracy's perspective could be Yang.  Its Saturday, that could mean that tomorrow's discussion could be an endless wave of mindless rift.  Where will the tide take us?
Just for the record...i is for idiot (Vlaka if you know Greek).  Following me Jay?
Anyhow, the party tonight some ONE100HUNDRED guests in a dance club best exemplified by the Jersey Shore knucklehead mentally...i absolutely can not wait to not go, thank you.
more like lamebrain and lunkheaded with a flavoring of Yappiness
loquacious in their own way, not even one that only a mother could love...poor, ignorant basterds
I expect that this party could potentially be (lets keep this political and eloquent) fatefully calamitous when you get lonely people in a room full of free alcohol...just for the record not all guest fall within this demographic!  At least the party (lets hope) ends before midnight...because nothing ever Good happens After midnight.  I just got off the phone with my sister, i was hoping to convince her to come with me, not because i feel comfortable bringing a date, but rather she could be my buffer...there is an unknown that exists within an all consuming rip tide of infinite drowning souls...the majority i only know from afar, therein exists the unknown...shes more interested in lactate levels during exercise
I always feared my sisters' boredom could sink any vessel
Should i go?  To be perfectly honest, there are probably ten other adventures i would rather attempt tonight...(none include Autumn Nights)...there is a ring to that name
Better than being the Big Ugly Yucky Boogie, right Jayson?  Jay?  Buddy are you still with me?
To bring closure on the J file, as a holiday Text to all of his past conquests...he sent them all a painfully basic and bare reminder of their fleeting lost bonded lust...
Lets be honest here, that probably Only reinforced to the ladies how good their current fortune truly is!
Much to his chagrin, Jay's fiancee found those texts....

Can you guess?

What is an abrupt twist or curve?

Yet still a peculiar trait?  (Idiosyncrasy)

I can be many things...

Unpredictable, Erratic...an extravagant Manifestation

     It is my gift to this exquisite world we cohabit, one that i repeat...day after day...My grin leads to your confusion, my smile gives way to our felicity...a kind aptness that always goes appreciated

I make no apologies, i have no regrets

well, maybe oneor2, here and/or there

Its like wearing a snuggie...warm and fuzzy

(spell check has never seen that word before, snuggie)

Just when you think you know what to expect, U remind yourself to

um

yeah

In the past ten minutes i have been invited to, and re-invited to a party, told to drop dead...and then i threw a curve and confused Dan.  As in Miner.

Some Guy Fox (that makes two that i know), called me ten times...between 3 am and 5 thirty A.M.  and i don't know why

definitely Marilyn just told me "that is" terrific...
Whats terrific?
then i lifted the file cabinet and brought it to her upstairs (it was light)

I hear the keys rattle, my fingers are restless, my mind races...so many places to go

i know

who's there

i don't

as in know

Trust Me

I Love Every

Minute of It 
Whats it? 


Ps I am strongly considering
The east end at some point this weekend  
and i know that Paul Giamatti loves Merlot 

Nutrition for US to Ponder

In the homeland of the Super SIZE population

The average adult and Child is Overweight

(The world leader with 30% obesity per ca pita

thirty percent )

while being the most

deficient in vitamins and minerals

A serving size is a measured amount of food (could potentially be appropriate for body size and activity).  A portion size is the amount of food someone elects to serve themselves (varies from person to person...even varying from time to time with the same person).

     Nightshade foods are low alkaloid foods.  These foods can impact the body at the nerve-muscle junction by blocking enzyme activity within the nerve cell...disrupting muscle control.  This can lead to muscle twitching,  trembling, breathing paralysis, or convulsions (just to name some effects).  Another way that lower alkaloid level can affect the body is by disrupting joints via inflammation or altered mineral status.  Some foods low in alkaloids are potatoes, tomatoes, cherries, eggplant, hot and sweet peppers, pimentos, tomatillos, pepinos, paprika, cayenne and Tabasco (just to name a few).  In a healthy body, the effects of these foods are mild, and tend to go unnoticed.  A certain percentage of the general population will have a sensitivity (or allergy) to nightshade foods, which amplify these reactions.  If you have osteoarthritis, rheumatoid arthritis, or gout, you will experience a heightened sensitivity to the aftershocks of nightshade foods.  Individuals with a higher daily activity level should increase their vitamin and mineral intake in order for their bodies to perform with higher efficiency, limiting nightshade effects.

Off Topic Here "LOVE your HEART"

- Our Favorite princess Katie Desmond

     I came across some interesting information over the past day, there were studies done to forecast factors that determine cancer probability within individuals.  According to one Dr. Andrew Lipton, the most consistent denominator he has found in his studies is...that the mettle capacity has a direct correlation with probability of expressing cancerous growths.  Reread that!  What he is saying, in essence is that a person's perception can directly induce or prohibit the expression of these growths.  Interesting and certainly outside of the box thinking.  Then i got to thinking, how is it possible (or even how can it be), that a placebo can cure a problem?  If you use this "Lipton" model as the basis for this explanation, you can certainly make an argument supporting that the thesis of self inducing (or prohibiting) cancer.  Let me be clear, this discussion does not start and end with a conclusion of individuals mentally completely controlling their health path (start to finish)...but rather that the mind can either ignite or suppress the underlying elements of the sickness...in turn expressing or stifling the growth of the sickness.
     A Truly interesting Idea.  Which brings me into the general direction of my next thought...brought to you by my co worker Elizabeth...shes everyone's sweetheart (she gave me a Hanukkah gift today, i am not even Jewish) and she will talk off your ear (that can put me in a bad spot).  She is currently reading a book about self empowerment.  In the chapter that she was reading last week, the discussion revolved around an individuals mentality for a given day.  The Author wrote that a person, within moments upon waking up will ("pre")determine the mental road for the day...meaning that a "good" day or a "bad" day is a by product of what you set your perception up as.  Does this make sense, yes?  Ever hear of the saying "If life gives you a lemon, make lemonade"?  Similar concept.  Its your perception of events in conjunction with your "out-look" or "mood" that can determine the success of your days path...and this book made an argument that, that course is set in motion from the moment your mind wakes up.
Next time that you're having a bad day, if things are not going your way...maybe if you change your thinking, just maybe, your day may start to turn for the better...
Just a thought, one of many....


"Dies Young @ an Old Age"

Ugly Sweater Party

It was quite a bizarre sight, and just for the record the worthless outfit ran me thirty American Dollars this past Black Friday (i swore i would never shop on that day).  My decision was impulsive, my eyes mesmerized by a mirage of colors....
   ...Three tiered orange button down collared shirt.  The red Tie had Santa in this florescent green and red hue (i think i saw some reindeer too).  An Aqua-Maroon button Up sweater...i can only imagine what Peterman would say.  My Pants, Oh those pants (brought me back to the good old days of the Joker), a dull Purple (with a waist size of 44fourty-four).  Socks?  Oh Yes, they matched my tie, Solid Red.  But the element that i thought (given the tie does give the outfit that special touch) really buys my status are the narrow (yet long) Tan and Brown bowling shoes.  It never dawned on me how slippery those shoes are (makes perfect sense though)...its a good thing that i kept my drinking to a minimum.
    I was more than ready for a party i never got to attend...next year seems so far away...i will take every opportunity to wear my prideful colors to all invited events (would i be disrespecting house of worship wardrobe codes?).  Had i worn this two decades earlier I know I would at least warrant a detention or 2, not to mention some visits from the floor bullies.

Shout out to all the Brothers and Sisters

Especially...all and many..acknowledgments to my readers in South Korea...on the brink of war, taking time out and sharing some thoughts...East meets West!

   As an aside, the most recent and ridiculous story found in the media...in the house of sensationalism...a Floridian teenager gets assaulted by an Otter as he attempted to capture images of the animal on his cell phone.  The Young Fellow is currently sporting a bandage on his right ankle (he was bit there).  As Rodney King once said, "Can't we just All Get Along"


PS Honor yourself, and others will honor you too

Sharing some info

On the Website WebMD in an article by Martin F. Downs he stated some mistakes that all men seemingly make (sometimes over and over again)...in no particular order, and i will not explain his article, its somewhat self-explanatory.
1) Men know what women want
2)Men know what women need
3)Sex feels the same for Men and Women
4)Men know their way around a Woman's Anatomy
5)Wet means Turned On (sorry!)
6)Silence during Sex is Golden (maybe, but not always)

Again speaking from experience...

A restraining order is just another way of saying i love you  :-*

and i am still thinking about you

=-P

They say that love is blind and marriage is an IeyeI opener

So...

if you want a happy marriage

Keep 1one1 eye Shut

Punctilious Safari

     Complication: complexity, intricacy; especially : a situation or a detail of character complicating the main thread of a plot; a making difficult, involved, or intricate; a complex or intricate feature or element; a difficult factor or issue often appearing unexpectedly and changing existing plans, methods, or attitudes

    As a general outsider (with the occasional inside experience), i can absolutely STATE that every human to human dynamic has it fair share of "unexpected" variations to any given situation...and everyone i know offers their best to further deepen that metamorphosis.  Its an unexplained phenomena, considering that we crave stability and consistency...yet we are so quick to toss out our wild cards...Lets call it "tweaking the Design".  Maybe its an unsubstantiated sense of fear for losing control of a situation, perhaps its just an unconscious desire for variety...whatever the purpose, it exists.  With no Rhyme or Reason.

    Another notable consistent behavior within human interconnections is the art of arguing and disagreeing.  Every relationship has those...the more stable ones know how to overcome them.  Correct and forget.  (Maybe not fully correct, but make an amendable bilateral effort to best deal with the situation).  After that, just get ready for the next turbulent issue (small or LARGE...its on its way...trust me).

Lust:  an intense longing : craving; enthusiasm, eagerness; personal inclination : wish; pleasure, delight

  

      When it is impossible to distinguish within a relationship that barrier between love and lust, hold it dear because you are in the midst of a very powerful connection...BOND...one that holds no prejudices nor any boundaries.  I am well aware of how cliche that sounds...how all of this sounds; but these are the markers that stain  two imprisoned converging energies.  Most importantly, if its inevitable that a relationship is close to death...and you are willing to undoubtedly and undeniably fight for it...then you are at the right place, fighting for your instinctual convictions.


P.S.

"I don't want to sound sexist here, but I do think men make better Santa's. Men have bigger bellies, men are used to sitting long periods of time and men have lots of experience making promises they have no intention of keeping."  - Jay Leno.

Those Who

Refuse today to


                make Time For Health and Fitness,


                                         must and will find the time for Illness tommorrow

Paying it Forward

     In the matter of moments while in the midst of a misty evening, i came to a realization of starting a new self tradition...a tradition to give during a day of being thankful...and would you know it...how fate always has a way to present itself.

     I exited the local 7-seveneleven-11just after dropping off my grand mother at her home in Port Jefferson (formerly known as Drown Meadow...gruesome origin behind that name, but that is a blog for another time).  I decided to stop in there specifically because it seemed relatively empty (other then the obvious of wanting something from there).  My car was only the second vehicle in the parking lot, the first had a blonde woman slumped over in the driverside seat...i too found that peculiar and bizarre.  My gut told me to ignore her, so i did.  In and right back Out, three minutes at the very most.  As i stepped off of the curb and took a direct stride in the direction of my driver side door, i heard something eminenting from over my right shoulder (a fairly nondescript noise).  I turned to the direction of the sound, and saw a tall black fellow anxiously holding his phone up...he was almost on the cusp of internally panicking.  

"what was that" i say
"can you do me a favor" he replies
"what's the favor" i respond
"i am not from the area and i need a ride home, my girlfriend just took off with my car"
without hesitating to hear more i ask "where do you live?"?
"coram"
"get in get"
He followed my lead, walked around my car opened the door and off we went...he offered to pay me, i ignored his offering, i wasn't helping him because i wanted his money...i did not want anything from him.  Fifteen15 minutes later, i pull into his driveway, and wish him luck (he confessed to me his ordeal, it involves a second woman and a text message).  Funny i thought, i had a similar incidence once, mine was on purpose though, his not so much.  More like a fool's blunder...its his lesson to learn, and he may.  The ride was my gift on a day for giving.

November 25, 2010

Today, like none other, in our country, which celebrates freedom and ethnic unity...will you find a day, that all families will sit, share, bless, and honor each other...Family Love Should Never Be Taken For Granted or Neglected

On my note, ten adults...four wine?  Yes?  Is that enough?  My family likes the food and wine.  I was thinking pinot noir...Two Pinots (I will have to look in the cellar in order to decide).  Chardonnay?  Nope not in the mood.  Maybe a Zinfandel...and i know which one Earthquake.  The Fourth will be a dessert wine...hmmmm, i will let you know

Cheers and Bon Appetit

Random Thoughts from Katie Desmond

If i am to confess, then i must absolutely address...how guilty it is to obsess, when i regress to the thoughts only a princess has...her name is katie...and she wonders why some do and some don't...ask for...an endowment, "isn't that in excess" shes says?   Why be honest and profess...so unnatural, so out of place (and very much unrepresentative)!  Ah i say, they are only trying to impress...Shes so quick to transgress...Manipulators!!!Liars!!!Cheats!!!  Why shout with distress???  I refuse, absolutely refuse...Do not Depress, my hopes and dreams...Unless...please process...will my mind be able access..Where is the finesse...wondering how to undress???perhaps curious to caress...keep dreaming she tells me...but all i hear is "they're real and spectacular" - Terri Hatcher

So Short With A BIG Chest?

Lonely & Worthless?

Webster says:

Addiction:

Compulsive need for and use of habit-forming substance characterized by tolerance and well defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal; persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful.  Dependence;  Habits.

     When an individual is able to knowingly identify, as well as, able to reciprocate (without solicitation) love with another individual...This truly marks genuine love.  Its Shared...not drained.

Intimacy = Honesty + Share Oneself

     With addiction, love can not exist because it is an unhealthy dependency influenced by a lack of self esteem and fear of abandonment (all within the jurisdiction of an impaired sense of identity)...when in a relationship and its an addiction, then it becomes about holding on to it at all costs.

     Its not loving too much, but depending on another too much...creating a labyrinth of altering moods.

     An addicted relationship is one whereby the couple has a fixation to the notion of being in the ideal relationship regardless of partner and compatibility.  An alternative type of addiction in relationships, exists when individuals are drawn to specific people or types of relationships.  These situations often are driven through obsessive eyes...and in times of failure fall within a pit of depression.  This individual is willing to bankrupt their own morals, values, and ideals...cause any necessary disruption to their life in order to successfully achieve relationship status...because they depend on a type of person or relationship.  All in Search to find and feel ones self worth, self respect, purpose and meaning.

     A Reliance upon someone or something ExTeRnAl in order to fill emotional needs or avoid pain/fear...just to keep the emotions balanced

Five5words

powerless, harmful, unmanageable, escalation, withdrawal

Some Solutions

Gain Self Knowledge

Recognize emptiness

Healthy countering to pain

New Honest Behaviors

Shift from external to internal intimacy

If you can learn to love yourself, only then you will know how to love your family, friends and your partners.

just roll with me

i never and i mean never drink coffee, because i just don't like it
but today is different, because in two days i allowed myself only about five hours of sleep
i feel tired, restless, and strung out
six cups of coffee down and my focus is scattered
Discipline
my heart is racing, my mood is ornery
(where is the defibrillator)
does anyone know how to use one
my highlight of the day is sharing lorraine's story
shes a crazy woman that my family and i know
somehow she managed to find a female body builder in new jersey
who pays other women to wrestle her on the internet
as to why lorraine found this, i don't know
and its none of my business
but lorraine nominated my sister as a potential combatant
unbeknownst to my sister, a deal was being brokered
i am certain that this will not end well
...
funny story right
i'll nominate trevor to take my sister's spot

Yes, we are all too similarly unique

I am unblemished to
        the fact that I,
               just like everybody else

is littered to perfection 

with infinite imperfections

"Always Drive Safe"-

by Fire Marshall Bill

(your favorite and Mine) 

    Sprang from sleep with fifteen15 minutes to spare...slightly hazed somewhat similar to a Los Angeles summer sky...my phone (on vibrate of course) quietly shivers its method on a low hummmm...lucky for me i am awake and i can see it
Its Angie checking up on me, i assure her that I am on my way.  Off i go, leaving a confused CC at home (he never likes it when i leave him alone)
My ride in (16 minutes removed from REM) was nondescript...the bright sun only compounds my aching head...I Need Water

*just as an aside, your body needs on average 50%percent as in fitty50% of your weight (in ounces) per day...certain days require more, such as dehydrated states

I slowly come to the realization, that i flowed my way through se7en hours last night (unplanned hours) of socializing (i might be conforming into a socialist?).  What happened?, What did i do?, Who did i see?,  Uh huh.  On a day (11-20-10) that i spent si6x hours listening to lectures and watching horrific traffic movies, i violated just about every possible traffic law (count them 34ish) in creation on my way home early this morning...i should be permanently disbarred from ever driving my car, or any car ever again...seriously!  No wonder my car insurance is nine9000thousand $dollars$a-year
memories are like buried treasure...coming in waves...i need to pull out my metal detector...reason my way to some common sense (maybe even justify my shenanigans)
its twelve12noon at this very moment, i really need to work off my hangover...be back later...hopefully if the police don't drag me away before then
I told you that i would be Back...fourteen hours (14:00:00) later!!! No jail time...phew.
My memory of the weekend has come back in segments...and yes it has taken me, longer then a day to overcome my hangover (i never get those...curse those beers and the deviant temptress impersonating bartenders).  Maybe its not an act?

 Stupidity will breed more stupidity...and so on    continually feeding

Just Another

Silly

Stupid

Saturday

     The night began at some "ranch", it was my idea, Joe and Don obliged me.  Don didn't like Doug...as a matter of fact he gave him a new (yet old, i am sure) name, four letters long, starts with D (just like Doug, only different), one vowel, ends with a K.  Elizabeth, our waitress agreed...she is sweet and personable, even a little shy (can you be both?  Personable and Shy?)...but she was...and she had a nice large smile.  Her red hair concealed by a cowboy hat...cute for a woman, tacky for a fella.  She is slightly out of shape, but i can forgive her (its her freckles).  Eighty80Minutes later, our ship crashes, and our siren finds us.  Angelic.  Her soft Voice Mutes My Heart...I'm not the only one...she has many suitors...shes too young to realize that.  Her primary aggressor, acknowledges me twice.  He's smart and respectful in doing so...i give him a pass.  We walk up to the Old Port Pub.  Sleazy, Filthy, Flirty, Disgusting.  I Find Her, April/Autumn...smoking a cigarette.  Nothing is as unattractive as a woman and a cigarette...makes her smell bad and taste worse.  I let her know that i disapprove, i take it from her...i know that i crossed a line...but i was still bothered with her flagrant tactics from the costume day (nothing sexy about classless).  Richie apologizes on my behalf, i tell him he shouldn't have bothered...its because he knows that he'll see her again... i may never...i feel disgusted and morally violated (Why?  I didn't do anything wrong?  Right?).  Back to the Siren, shes gone, the boat is closed and grounded...Any takers for Tommy's?  What the heck.  Not as visually dark...only my mind with its shades of gray.  Young drunk people completely engulf the floor.  Joe gets emotionally stonewalled...out from nowhere...he wants pizza (i guess he got hungry).  We stumble next door only to find the same young crowd...the young ones, as cute as they may be...still lack that earthly wisdom that age will bring.  Pity.  They will not get a Pass on that. Joe treats me to 2two2 slices (a regular and a buffalo chicken).  I eat them at home sometime after fo4ur...when i got home, alone.  I like my personal space, just about most of the time.
I close my eyes...and like that i sprang back up...

Value Whats Important

   The American family (for those that have a Television set and use it, check out the show 'Modern Families', i hear that its hysterical) is one that (for the most part) seems fragmented and disconnected from its genesis that dates back to the 1950's.  Good old time American Traditions.  From Leave it to Beaver to the Brady Bunch, and everyone before, during and after...all had a common theme of family connectivity and unity.  We live in the generation of text messaging and emailing...only with appointments can you spend time with relatives, partners, and friends.  Am I the only one that sees fault in this set-up?
   The modern home will sport a Television and/or computer...seemingly in just about every room...with cell phone in pocket i am off to conduct an investigation into the death of our family values.  With the holiday season about to christen the public masses (food and festivities galore; why gorge the soul?), we are full throttle immersed into this never ending yet so overly hypnotic commercial holiday season (one that usually starts with candy and ends with a resolution...i deal with many resolutionists).
    Maybe it is time to start new traditions...even if they last only fif15teen minutes.  Set aside those Hectic work schedules so you can all sit together share a meal/snack, or to take a short walk, and if you really can manage it take a trip (hold the itineraries for someone else).  Basically do something to spend time together and hear each other out...use it as a time to reconnect...bring back that needed sense of belonging.
Parades, holiday parties, religious services,  volunteer at soup kitchens/charity functions/shelter, shop for gifts and crafts, make greeting cards/home decorations/holiday treats, attend plays/concert, play in the snow...so many different ways to spend time with those whom are important in your life.  Since each family is different, solutions are never simple (ie...single mom/part time dad, step parent, foster family, blended family, same sex couple or any variation on today's nuclear family set up).  No matter, or however complicated your situation may be (or uncomplicated, its all the Good ; ), its in the effort of finding "new" ways to see each other more...

Re-Create Love Stop Critcism

Hostility:  Deep seeded ill will (usually, yet not always a mutual emotional state); conflict, opposition, or resistance in thought or principle.

"Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate."  - Albert Schweitzer

     I could not have said it better myself...So True.  Even honesty or understanding without compassion will fade within a lull of passive hostility.  I find myself continually smirking into the den of animosity, with the feeling that friction and malice is a wasteful road that only circles one back in the path of progression...A vindictive feud ultimately needs to be immediately exposed and addressed (under composed conditions of course).  Calmly address the source of hostility (communication; how many times will we hear this?  Its sickening), keeping the focus on the hostile stimulus (versus reliving past hostilities).  People who feel victimized need to understand that by shifting their focus to a pertinent participant within the relationship, will eventually force a powerful and potent component for that all elusive progressive growth needed to advance along the road of resolution.  Communication and understanding is essential to defusing tense situations...its that simple.  How patient and persistent can you be to achieve your goal of...resolution.

Acknowledgment

Happy 31st Birthday

to My Loyal and devoted Reader

Michael

have a good one today!

This will be your first and only Thirty-First birthday 

Blame Never Solves Anything

I will apologize in advance for all the technical mumble jumble, but it is important to recognize that there is a direct correlation between your emotional status and your physical being...so be kind with your heart and allow your body to flourish...bathe it in the warmth that you permit to be engulfed by...

      One of the most prevalent hormones circulating within the human body is cortisol (which is your body's fight or flight hormone...nicknamed the "stress" hormone of the body).  It serves for many necessary functions such as:  insulin release and glucose metabolism, blood pressure regulation, immune and inflammatory function, quick burst of energy, heighten memory, lower sensitivity to pain, and the basic backbone to maintaining homeostasis within the body...this all sounds good and important (albeit, a bit overwhelming to take in all at once).
     Prolonged states of elevated cortisol levels will lead to a less than desirable state by the host:  impairing cognitive performance, suppressing thyroid function, imbalances in blood glucose levels, decreasing bone density and muscle tissue, high blood pressure, suppressed immunity, increase in abdominal fat ( as well as, lowering of "good" cholesterol and increasing levels of "bad" cholesterol)...leading the body down a path a numerous physiological dysfunctions.
     Managing stress is much easier achieved in theory as opposed to being actively practiced in reality...there are techniques that can help you help manage it...ultimately, you would need to find what works best for you...

Stress:  a physical, chemical, or emotional factor that causes bodily or mental tension

     Bottled UP...People, for varies reason will shield their emotions...emotions that absolutely need to be openly expressed (or burned off?  Is it all the same?) and shared with those whom need to understand them or with anyone willing to listen.  A "collaborator" of emotional expenditures.  Otherwise what can happen?
One can develop anti-social behavior, enter a state of depression, experience temper outbursts, discover and endure gestational discomforts, low energy levels, weak hair follicle and nail cuticles...just to name a few.
You get the idea, it is a solitary state of existence with endless drawbacks immersed in a seemingly irreversible emotional cyclical roller coaster ride.  Complicated sentence, complicated emotions...lets figure them out.
     An Empath (derived from the Greek origin of pathos) is an individual whose imaginative projection of a subjective state gets infused into a Focal Point.  A capacity to internally experience the happiness or sadness of another sentiment being through consciousness rather than physically.  These individuals through reflective emotional implosions creative feedback loops of feelings.  A negative cycle is similar to a virus; spiraling out of control completely infecting and generating a venomous atmosphere of desolate despondency.  On the flip side, a positive upswing creates an intensely addictive and intoxicating euphoric state...which is the exact element that develops a state of dependency between two individuals.
     Holding in emotions eventually leads to fights because the barer of those feelings is constantly harboring those emotions...holding them in and dragging them about; always around and suppressed (buried deep)  < Just learn to Express >!  Always and Never are accusatory words intended to blind, blame, and sinfully guilt...nothing ever gets resolved while finger pointing.  By properly expressing the true nature of any problem and/or concern, 2two will work as one1...where condemnation ceases to exist.  Your most effective tool is the ability to actually listen to your counter part...this is coming from a deaf guy (ironic?)  If need be, step away from each other (two minutes 2:00 or two hours 2:00:00), how ever long...just take the time to cool down and calmly fortify a resolution.
     Survive the fight, live an other day?  Maybe a day whereby you feel stronger together?  Fighting with closure can be a therapeutic road in any relationship (under proper precautions coupled with a mutual understanding).

ECM

     Next time you go somewhere...somewhere out...Remember, that it is very important.  Understand that you do have choices...All sort of choices.  In your face, fostered by corporate America$ (that is all you are to them a dollar sign...a bottom line...even if it costs you your health)...Right in front of you.  Take ownership!  Every Choice Matters

Rearrange that and you have E=MC^2

So choose wisely.
Try to stay close to home.
For your own good and those around you!
Be apart of your community

Method of anarchy

My    r an d o m    mind

has an eye for detecting

           order within the maelstrom existence

                of chaos we see as lawlessness

Approach Bait, bite bait, get hooked...get reeled and then cook yourself right up

    Lets talk generalities...it almost makes this sound as if its a black or white matter...and i always have had a difficult time rationalizing those sort of matters, because i know that the world we live in is mostly (if not all) grey.  Here go the four4 general traits that i  would like to bring to your attention.  First up is personality type...lets make two categories:

Extrovert: a gregarious and unreserved individual; an exhibitionist

Introvert:  to turn inward or onto oneself; a reserved individual

Just about everyone fits in one or the other...a loud mouth or the quiet one.
Now with both personality types you have a secondary driving force that fuels their engines..one of the confident or a non-confident varietal.

Confidence: a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances; faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way; the quality or state of being certain : certitude

Non-confidence:  Uncertain; not adequately guarded or sustained; deficient in assurance : beset by fear and anxiety

It has been documented that approximately ninety95five %percent% of all individuals fall within the category of non-confident.  I found that interesting when i read that as well.  By default only five % of individuals that you see are of the confident type...so where am i going with this?

Observing a social setting, one would find confident extroverts, non-confident extroverts, confident introverts, and finally non-confident introverts.  Although the last category is almost an oxymoron considering that those type of  individuals would rarely allow themselves to be seen in a public social settings.  Anyhow.  This places three types of individuals within a social environment...so what happens next?  People play, mix and mingle...interact.  Who will be the most successful?  The confident extrovert...because...they approach everyone, this maximizes their chances of accruing positive social interactive situations.  The least successful will be the absentee type:  non-confident introvert...their personality type is fed by negativity and pessimism, hence making themselves socially invisible.

What makes the confident extrovert most successful?  Willingness to approach everybody.  Plus confident people, due to their success (in socializing) they spend Less Time THINKING about THEMSELVES and more about whom they are engaged in...that is a primary element to succeeding.  Stop worrying about how you are perceived and start paying attention to someone that you would want to socialize with.  When you are focused on others, you become more aware about their nonverbal cues...which will help progress (for better or worse), your social interaction.

False Devotions

Fidelity:  the quality or state of being faithful; accuracy in details; exactness

Infidelity:  lack of belief of religion; unfaithfulness to a moral obligation: disloyalty; marital unfaithfulness or an instance of it

Jealousy:  intolerant of rivalry or unfaithfulness, disposed to suspect rivalry or unfaithfulness; hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage; vigilant in guarding a possession

What Happens...

     In reaction to a perceived act of infidel.?.?.A corrosive state of unreasonable jealousy

Then???

    A rift may develop between the partners since this can be seen (or misconstrued?) as too controlling.

Next : /

     The jealous partner may seek comfort elsewhere...what a vicious cycle

Best Approach

     A lack of trust is the foundation for jealous emotions...Commit to OPENLY communicate, be honest about your emotions and desires...these are the primary indicators in which the direction of any relationship is destined for.

     Each relationship has a physical and an emotional connectivity that must be met.  It is often seen if one partner feels neglected in either of the two...in turn...creating a  need to fill that physical or emotional void will drive them to seek out an outlet to consummate this physical and/or emotional incompleteness.

    Divorce rates are higher then ever, so why stay faithful?  Staying faithful means you are keeping a promise...fulfilling your word.  Your feelings are Focused...Your energy is Directed.  This places you in the midst of solving marital issues with your partner...if BOTH choose to communicate for the purpose of resolving conflicts

A failure to work together will lead to a diluted relationship with little intimacy and scattered emotional energies.  The richest gifts in fidelity...loyalty and love...A healthy relationship is beyond any physical and emotional tie, it is an eternal bond destined for ever growing love

Everything in life is a choice

Strength comes from within

How strong

Are

You

Love is more than an Emotion, its an ability

     How important are your friends to your level of health?  People who have subnormal social ties are twice as likely to catch colds, as well as, suffer from heart ailments and illnesses.  There is a direct correlation between cardiovascular fitness (and stress levels) with the amount of social involvement an individual participates in.  Smile More Often, even to strangers...you will feel as uplifted as they will.  Friends help us recover from injuries (emotional, physical, and psychological), surgeries, and illnesses...the closer they are in your proximity (physical, emotional, and topographical), the speedier your recovery.  Strange isn't it?  I can't say I am surprised by it though.  That your well being and your social networking are intertwined...meaning that mutual friends and acquaintances have a disproportionate affect on your quality of life.  What does socializing do?  Decrease stress, yes?  Enhance mood, perhaps?  Help your well being?  Absolutely!  3Three to Six6 hours a day of social interacting will help minimize the likelihood that a bad day does not occur (or create comfort in the midst of a negative circumstance)...Friends are all around us.  One 1in3 Three people have a best friend at work...those people have been shown to engage in a considerably higher quality of work...just as an aside the NY Mets, whats their excuse?
     There are many days where by i feel blessed that i am surrounded by friends, family, and co-workers (with many work environment individuals) that suffocate me with a great deal of goodness and love...it truly goes beyond any limit that i could possibly envision.  I am truly lucky...i hope the same for all...

How do you feel today

It is November Seventh of the Year Twenty Ten

11/07/10

The latest that i could remember...and as far as i know 

It's Nine 9:13 Thirteen my time

The Fall Time change went into effect

Do you feel any different over

the change?

Give Blood

                                                                                                                                                                                                  +++++++++++++
                                                            A

     The average human adult has approximately 10 pints of blood.  Size and gender does factor as to how much blood your body will have.  For example a petite woman can have only fi5ve or so pints where as a large adult male may have upwards twe12lve pints...every individual truly is unique and special in so many ways.  In my home state of New York, we are having a blood shortage.  New York Hospitals are purchasing blood from other states (ie...places like Kentucky...I've been there Once!  Never again) in order to adequately supply the necessary medical demand.  Well folks, today i am donating a pint of blood...one pint for me considering my above average size (quantitatively speaking) is minimal...especially if i can help a fellow new yorker (as emotionally expressive as they can be...I'll still help him/her out) the cost is well worth this benefit.

Nutrition FACT of the day

Ninety some odd percent of products in your supermarket are corn related products (to some degree)...the remaining ten or so percent are auxiliary affiliates of corn!!!!!

How healthy are you really eating?

READ your ingredients next time you're in a supermarket

Groggy Friday Nonesense

Cherish:to hold dear : feel or show affection for; to keep or cultivate with care and affection; to entertain or harbor in the mind deeply and resolutely

Question of the day:  What do you cherish most in life?

     Over seventy percent of individuals will answer that their marriage/relationship/kinship tops this list.  We idealize the bond with our mate, we idolize our offspring and the hope and joy that they bring us...we revere our ability to sustain a working status, we delight in the companionship of our friendships.  Each connection should have a vision, if you want it to be firm and cohesive...durable, able to endure the rigors and challenges that life bestows upon that bond...and life will vigorously challenge the integrity of all alliances.  What is the sense of living without enduring (that is how we seem to learn best).  EVERYONE will be Challenged.

     With all the demur and dissident elements in situations, one must present a plan of action.  The better the plan, the likelihood of success increases, yes?  If the challenge is a relationship, then what is the plan?

    First outline your level of commitment and what you are looking to offer to your relationship...then determine what sort of spouse/mate best counters and compliments you (*be careful of creating unnecessary limitations*)...selecting well is necessary in order to help achieve what you are looking for.  Once this is determined, what sort of meaningful relationship do you expect to have with your partner/mate.  What is exceptional, consequential, and imperative to your bond?  If the answers are not convergent with your core goals, values, and ideals...then you are bound to confuse the direction of your relationship.  Reevaluate and correct/modify (to the best of your ability) your situation...or find someone different.  Couples who are out of sync will stall...

...So don't stall.  Start by outlining strengths and weaknesses as seen through the eyes of your significant other...remember to truthfully identify the traits as opposed to ideally stating what you would assume to hear.  Now compare those strengths and weaknesses with what you strive to offer...the closer you are, the stronger your connection will be; the further apart...then the more misleading your relationship will be.  In a divergent situation, you must commit to a modification in your behavior in order to bridge that distension, ultimately being able to offer what you truly promised your mate and relationship.
Keep in mind that not all individuals fall within such a cut an dry type of evaluation/analysis...meaning you can always meet someone outside of the spectrum of what you are looking for that can change your entire perspective...its the old unexplained infatuation factor...it can strike anyone at any given moment, without warning.

Remember you can not control or change your mate.  But what you can control is your behavior, as well as, what you can and do contribute to your relationship.