Certainly Not I!
Sandwiched in between Saudi Arabia and Iraq...its name is the Persian translation for "a fortress built near Water". During Ancient Times, this country was home to one of the largest Ports which facilitated trade between Mesopotamia and India. This country is the E11eventh RICHEST country in the WORLD (per capita)...earning classification as a high income economy (as per the World Bank).
Welcome, The State of Kuwait, a sovereign Arab state...the Sixty62ndSecond country exposed to Human Dynamics (as per Patrick Benson!).
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Sunday, January 29, 2012
Saturday, January 28, 2012
Fraudulent Deception
Hello and Good Day there Ms. Betrayed
Your words, terrific...I enjoyed your writing in every single aspect...albeit, the subject matter was a tad bit sad. Your heart writes with sorrow and your mind speaks with a lonely tone. I certainly sympathize with both. What I understand the most is your desire to be heard and understood without judgement...
It's where we can go and expose ourselves, revealing our vulnerabilities...our soft under bellies.
Otherwise, we exist as these tough people...impervious to what ever turbulent forces may come in our direction...regardless of how severe the storm may be...we will still be Withstanding!!!
Yet, it would feel comforting to know...
That on certain days, with our defenses down...
We can lay our trust, in someone else
Who will do their best, to Protect us
On those (rare) days, that Personal Comfort may be needed!
I understand these points all too well
Your words, terrific...I enjoyed your writing in every single aspect...albeit, the subject matter was a tad bit sad. Your heart writes with sorrow and your mind speaks with a lonely tone. I certainly sympathize with both. What I understand the most is your desire to be heard and understood without judgement...
It's where we can go and expose ourselves, revealing our vulnerabilities...our soft under bellies.
Otherwise, we exist as these tough people...impervious to what ever turbulent forces may come in our direction...regardless of how severe the storm may be...we will still be Withstanding!!!
Yet, it would feel comforting to know...
That on certain days, with our defenses down...
We can lay our trust, in someone else
Who will do their best, to Protect us
On those (rare) days, that Personal Comfort may be needed!
I understand these points all too well
Ever Surf the "Collective Consciouness"?
It's a vast maze, unexplored by most...therefore in order to navigate through those waters, one would have to have a strong understanding in what sort of direction the tide is pulling...
The question then becomes, would one want to be pulled in such a drastic rip tide?
Those who opt to surf the collective conscious waters need to understand themselves first...and have a decisive course of action in which they want to travel too...
Otherwise, you get lost in the chaotic oblivion within a plane without an end...only to become confused by the raw and awesome energy that suspends an undivided existance
The question then becomes, would one want to be pulled in such a drastic rip tide?
Those who opt to surf the collective conscious waters need to understand themselves first...and have a decisive course of action in which they want to travel too...
Otherwise, you get lost in the chaotic oblivion within a plane without an end...only to become confused by the raw and awesome energy that suspends an undivided existance
Life is Raw and Unfiltered
I fight to keep my right of free thought...I own the privilege of developing my own conclusions and holding my own opinions. Unbiased and without prejudice. I have no qualms over making outlandish claims...radical thinkers can change the course of anyone's future. I do very poorly when I feel someone is commanding me as if i am their dog...the hostile barking any voice can mimic.
BARK BARK BARK BARK
One word for you
GROWL
that will be your first and only warning!
I hold no belligerent bone in my body, and I certainly am not one of those perpetual confrontational types...but disrespect me or someone I care for...
and sometimes you get forced to stand for your ideals
and DO what needs to be done
Life has no place for a cowardice type of existance
If, on this planet...we lived a life engulfed with liberated minds
We would treat each other with much tenderness, compassion and concern
Instead, there exists a robotic engineer line...with rules and regulations stuffed into the pety minds of the weak minded
Dictating how life should be lived
and those who don't abide
Often find themselves on an undesireable lonely path...
Creativity lights the sky blue in my dream
Freedom then lifts my spirit...and I soar, higher then any engine can bring me too
Inspiration wields the wide eyed hope for a better tomorrow
that can be a reality
If we all stick by each other
Just Saying
BARK BARK BARK BARK
One word for you
GROWL
that will be your first and only warning!
I hold no belligerent bone in my body, and I certainly am not one of those perpetual confrontational types...but disrespect me or someone I care for...
and sometimes you get forced to stand for your ideals
and DO what needs to be done
Life has no place for a cowardice type of existance
If, on this planet...we lived a life engulfed with liberated minds
We would treat each other with much tenderness, compassion and concern
Instead, there exists a robotic engineer line...with rules and regulations stuffed into the pety minds of the weak minded
Dictating how life should be lived
and those who don't abide
Often find themselves on an undesireable lonely path...
Creativity lights the sky blue in my dream
Freedom then lifts my spirit...and I soar, higher then any engine can bring me too
Inspiration wields the wide eyed hope for a better tomorrow
that can be a reality
If we all stick by each other
Just Saying
Friday, January 27, 2012
When enthusiasm fades
Why do some people seem to disappear from your daily life?
You will never know if you never ask! Plus, who is to say...and I am just saying...that you were not on a course to lose your interest, and they just noticed? Simple to just go now...right?
I don't know you, but boing ins't what strikes me...artistic people are rarely boring and most often misunderstood. At times it's easier for people to just move away, rather than " decipher" the artistic types....those types can be so simply complex!
You will never know if you never ask! Plus, who is to say...and I am just saying...that you were not on a course to lose your interest, and they just noticed? Simple to just go now...right?
I don't know you, but boing ins't what strikes me...artistic people are rarely boring and most often misunderstood. At times it's easier for people to just move away, rather than " decipher" the artistic types....those types can be so simply complex!
Rule Number# 52...
Don't Touch Me,
I Don't like it
Just don't touch Me,
unless I invite it
Capeesh (or should I say Capisce)
P.s.
I have long decided, that I should not expect justice in life...it's up to me to be just
I Don't like it
Just don't touch Me,
unless I invite it
Capeesh (or should I say Capisce)
P.s.
I have long decided, that I should not expect justice in life...it's up to me to be just
Mel is Upset,
Every fellow she's ever met...
Has either been uninterested in Mel...or she has been disenchanted with them...
Join the club Mel...
My advise to you on the matter...
I whole heartedly agree with these recommendations that have already been brought to your attention...How you need to get out there and actvely seek out who you want. To a large degree Mel, I have similar feelings with what you are experiencing. I know how you feel, frustrated and continually disappointed. I find that many women find me exotically attractive (and just as many that may not...to Each their Own), but the women that I want are often either uninterested or emotionally unavailable to be in any sort of relationship with me....how unfair is that! Life isn't simple, it's meant to be challenging and complex...and we grow, evolve, develop our character through our experiences. I will make you a promise Mel, and I will ask that you reciprocate it...
I promise to not give my search up...as long as you keep yours up! Deal Mel?
Has either been uninterested in Mel...or she has been disenchanted with them...
Join the club Mel...
My advise to you on the matter...
I whole heartedly agree with these recommendations that have already been brought to your attention...How you need to get out there and actvely seek out who you want. To a large degree Mel, I have similar feelings with what you are experiencing. I know how you feel, frustrated and continually disappointed. I find that many women find me exotically attractive (and just as many that may not...to Each their Own), but the women that I want are often either uninterested or emotionally unavailable to be in any sort of relationship with me....how unfair is that! Life isn't simple, it's meant to be challenging and complex...and we grow, evolve, develop our character through our experiences. I will make you a promise Mel, and I will ask that you reciprocate it...
I promise to not give my search up...as long as you keep yours up! Deal Mel?
Our lives are NOT determined by what happens to us in Life...
Rather by how we REACT to what happens...
Not by what Life brings us, but by the ATTITUDE we bring Life!
A Posi+ive attitude causes Chain Reaction of
Genuinely Unambigious Acceptance
and
Compelling Admiration and Appreciation
with
Thoughts, Events and Outcomes
A Catalyst,
A Spark
That creates Extrodinairy Results!
Today is Mozart's Birthday...and he is not the only one. Think about this...there are currently, what(?) approximately Six to Seven Billion people on this planet...right?
And for what(?) how many thousands of Years of human existance has this planet seen?
So...all these Billions of People (perhaps even in the Trillions)...all have a birthdate, right(?) they should at least...Now...within a calender year there exists a ThreeHundredAndSixtyFive(ish) day cycle...
Therefore I conclude that each day can potentially have perhaps up to a billion folks with birthdays(?) that's a lot of individuals...I can not possibly wish them all individually...So, happy birthday to all who may be celebrating (or not) their birthdays today!
Not by what Life brings us, but by the ATTITUDE we bring Life!
A Posi+ive attitude causes Chain Reaction of
Genuinely Unambigious Acceptance
and
Compelling Admiration and Appreciation
with
Thoughts, Events and Outcomes
A Catalyst,
A Spark
That creates Extrodinairy Results!
Today is Mozart's Birthday...and he is not the only one. Think about this...there are currently, what(?) approximately Six to Seven Billion people on this planet...right?
And for what(?) how many thousands of Years of human existance has this planet seen?
So...all these Billions of People (perhaps even in the Trillions)...all have a birthdate, right(?) they should at least...Now...within a calender year there exists a ThreeHundredAndSixtyFive(ish) day cycle...
Therefore I conclude that each day can potentially have perhaps up to a billion folks with birthdays(?) that's a lot of individuals...I can not possibly wish them all individually...So, happy birthday to all who may be celebrating (or not) their birthdays today!
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Elemenophea says
What do I find obnoxious?
I heard the vent...and I completely understood. They hate when they hear their phones ring...
"I'm suffering from Induced Gadget Stupor coupled with Phone Aversion Disorder"
I understand your point all too well. I can't state with confidence that I am socially anxious, as a matter of fact, my job description requires a lot of socialization that I have successfully handled. Needless to say, I loathe phone conversations too. I have NO land line at my house and my cell phone is either off or on vibrate (when on). My ex-girlfriends have mislabeled me as being a poor communicator...their primary method of communicating is via phone conversations (which I feel is a poor way to focus your communication through), therefore I have never been able to successfully get important points across to them (and that has COST me GREATLY) since my preferred method of communication is FACE to FACE. My relatives are starting to think I hate them, since I am not answering or returning their calls. My friends have all but given up on making plans with me since I seem to be difficult to get a hold off.
This is all much simplier then it appears...just find me, and tell me to my face what you want. I am far more reasonable then you may expect...a face to face conversation with me may leave you very surprised!(and inspired to continue to converse with me)
Plus, phone conversations...are so annoying...from the ring of the tone (all tones are annoying)...to the bullshit politics and imbalance of pseudo Phone etiquette...it's all baloney I tell you. Put the phone down, click off the cell...just find who you want and tell them exactly what is on your mind!
Simple...right?
*But keep this Point in mind, a phone conversation is still better then NO conversation*
From a phone conversation/text you can set up plans for a face to face rendezvous...all business is best done in person...at least that has been my Personal Experience.
I heard the vent...and I completely understood. They hate when they hear their phones ring...
"I'm suffering from Induced Gadget Stupor coupled with Phone Aversion Disorder"
I understand your point all too well. I can't state with confidence that I am socially anxious, as a matter of fact, my job description requires a lot of socialization that I have successfully handled. Needless to say, I loathe phone conversations too. I have NO land line at my house and my cell phone is either off or on vibrate (when on). My ex-girlfriends have mislabeled me as being a poor communicator...their primary method of communicating is via phone conversations (which I feel is a poor way to focus your communication through), therefore I have never been able to successfully get important points across to them (and that has COST me GREATLY) since my preferred method of communication is FACE to FACE. My relatives are starting to think I hate them, since I am not answering or returning their calls. My friends have all but given up on making plans with me since I seem to be difficult to get a hold off.
This is all much simplier then it appears...just find me, and tell me to my face what you want. I am far more reasonable then you may expect...a face to face conversation with me may leave you very surprised!(and inspired to continue to converse with me)
Plus, phone conversations...are so annoying...from the ring of the tone (all tones are annoying)...to the bullshit politics and imbalance of pseudo Phone etiquette...it's all baloney I tell you. Put the phone down, click off the cell...just find who you want and tell them exactly what is on your mind!
Simple...right?
*But keep this Point in mind, a phone conversation is still better then NO conversation*
From a phone conversation/text you can set up plans for a face to face rendezvous...all business is best done in person...at least that has been my Personal Experience.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
If she is Generic, what does that make Me?
She purses her erotic lips...and I hear her seductively utter
"For you know who I claim to Be and what I am about, so
What can be said of you...?"
I'm anything but...I'll be that fellow that you'll notice the instant you walk into a room...almost as if I sport a Bulls Eye overhead
God, I hate that about myself...if only my Low key nature had a say!
With my long flowing brown curly locks, dangling down to the middle of my spine...Binding my essence to such superfluous Ascetics...superficiality has never suited me, nonetheless that is where I seemingly draw my strength from...much like Sampson did Five Millennial ago...
As he found...Only to be Betrayed
My Glimmering Eyes, Large...Brown with Tints of Hazel...Almond in Shape...Pierce through any Soul as If Spears emanate from my Gaze. Shielded by my Strong Jawline, beset by my thick full Lips...
Those who feel Insecure Often find a fortress of Intimidation with first Impressions
My sculpted Chest and Brawny Back get capped with rugged Shoulder, safeguarding my extremely sensitive Enlightened soul...but dare to bare a challenge, and you'll find my proud Ego battling to any Bitter End
My Slim midsection yields to a narrow waistline leading the way to my broad and muscular hips...Hips that Have more Power then two to three Men...Combined!
A Cast-Iron backside, potent with a Gladiator's masculinity
Panther-like Legs that are Sturdy, Long, sleek and forceful anchor me seemingly on Mountaintops...allowing me to reach the Heavens, when no one else can...
A Powerfully Hypnotic and exotically charming smile, Hides my quiet demeanor...Yet still seducing the curious, enticing the ordinary...outright enchanting wayward souls...
This unasked allure merely forces me to draw in...much like a tortoise, withdrawing back into my Shell
Those tempted, can't help but follow
Aggressive with undivided elocution, harsh in expression with an unyielding mutiny...defiant in my rebellion
Stubborn with enthusiasm...
My Humble Desire is one in which introspective thoughts exist in modest setting...I feel most comfortable ignored and behold...for it affords me to Observe and Absorb
Very little gets past my attention...and nothing ever goes forgotten
I am Helplessly attune and morally astute...I crave intellectual growth, just as much as I yearn to physically challenge my boundless limits...with laser point focus and an insatiable thirst for the unknown
I refuse to be ground...my soul is meant to soar, beyond any sky
Let me be, who I want to be
Give My Space...I am always mentally building a world, only those that harbor a similar vision can see...
and with my two massive sturdy hands I will erect any and all objects I desire!
"For you know who I claim to Be and what I am about, so
What can be said of you...?"
I'm anything but...I'll be that fellow that you'll notice the instant you walk into a room...almost as if I sport a Bulls Eye overhead
God, I hate that about myself...if only my Low key nature had a say!
With my long flowing brown curly locks, dangling down to the middle of my spine...Binding my essence to such superfluous Ascetics...superficiality has never suited me, nonetheless that is where I seemingly draw my strength from...much like Sampson did Five Millennial ago...
As he found...Only to be Betrayed
My Glimmering Eyes, Large...Brown with Tints of Hazel...Almond in Shape...Pierce through any Soul as If Spears emanate from my Gaze. Shielded by my Strong Jawline, beset by my thick full Lips...
Those who feel Insecure Often find a fortress of Intimidation with first Impressions
My sculpted Chest and Brawny Back get capped with rugged Shoulder, safeguarding my extremely sensitive Enlightened soul...but dare to bare a challenge, and you'll find my proud Ego battling to any Bitter End
My Slim midsection yields to a narrow waistline leading the way to my broad and muscular hips...Hips that Have more Power then two to three Men...Combined!
A Cast-Iron backside, potent with a Gladiator's masculinity
Panther-like Legs that are Sturdy, Long, sleek and forceful anchor me seemingly on Mountaintops...allowing me to reach the Heavens, when no one else can...
A Powerfully Hypnotic and exotically charming smile, Hides my quiet demeanor...Yet still seducing the curious, enticing the ordinary...outright enchanting wayward souls...
This unasked allure merely forces me to draw in...much like a tortoise, withdrawing back into my Shell
Those tempted, can't help but follow
Aggressive with undivided elocution, harsh in expression with an unyielding mutiny...defiant in my rebellion
Stubborn with enthusiasm...
My Humble Desire is one in which introspective thoughts exist in modest setting...I feel most comfortable ignored and behold...for it affords me to Observe and Absorb
Very little gets past my attention...and nothing ever goes forgotten
I am Helplessly attune and morally astute...I crave intellectual growth, just as much as I yearn to physically challenge my boundless limits...with laser point focus and an insatiable thirst for the unknown
I refuse to be ground...my soul is meant to soar, beyond any sky
Let me be, who I want to be
Give My Space...I am always mentally building a world, only those that harbor a similar vision can see...
and with my two massive sturdy hands I will erect any and all objects I desire!
How to calm a Scared Dog?
Q. Our dog was a stray found with no collar and no microchip. We looked for an owner with ads and flyers, but no luck. We think she was abused because she is afraid of so many things. Can you help?
A. Living in fear is misery. For adult pets with fear problems, the answer is a program of what behaviorists call counter-conditioning--pairing the scary in small doses with something the pet likes.
"Punishment is never appropriate for a fearful pet," says my colleague, Dr. Wayne Hunthausen of Animal Behavior Consultations in the Kansas City, Kan., suburb of Westwood. "Your pet is already afraid. You don't want to force the pet to accept something he doesn't want. The secret is controlling the volume, the size or the distance of exposure to the thing a pet's afraid of and gradually increasing the exposure. "
SEE ALSO: How to Properly Socialize Your Dog
Start small. With a dog who's afraid of garbage bags, he says, start with a piece of a garbage bag, as small as 3 inches. Pick it up, give the pet a treat when it notices, and then put down the piece of plastic. When then dog is comfortable with that, increase the size of the scrap and continue until the pet links the sight of the bag with a good thing--food--not fear.
"For a dog who's afraid of other dogs, you'd reward for being calm while the other animal is at a distance and gradually decrease the distance," Dr. Hunthausen says. "For thunderstorms, there are recordings you can use to build confidence gradually."
Stay calm. Always keep the exposure below the level at which the pet starts showing signs of anxiety--yawning, drooling, scanning the room for escape routes, changes in posture that show a lack of confidence, including ears back and licking lips. Build on your successes and go slowly, the veterinarian says.
SEE ALSO: 6 Easy Ways to Help Your Dog Live a Longer, Happier Life
Don't give up. What if you're not having any success? Get help. Ask your family's veterinarian to refer you to a behavior professional who can help you develop a good program. A specialist may also put your pet on medication to make the transition to a fear-free life easier. Though it sounds odd to many pet lovers, a pharmaceutical solution paired with a well-managed behavior modification plan, either in the short-term or forever, helps many pets cope with modern life.
Pets don't have to live in fear as long as pet owners are willing to help them work through their issues with patience, compassion and, possibly, professional guidance.
Source of Original Article: How Can We Help Our Fearful Dog Be Less Afraid All the Time?
By Marty Becker, vetstreet
and
Pam Nation Staff
A. Living in fear is misery. For adult pets with fear problems, the answer is a program of what behaviorists call counter-conditioning--pairing the scary in small doses with something the pet likes.
"Punishment is never appropriate for a fearful pet," says my colleague, Dr. Wayne Hunthausen of Animal Behavior Consultations in the Kansas City, Kan., suburb of Westwood. "Your pet is already afraid. You don't want to force the pet to accept something he doesn't want. The secret is controlling the volume, the size or the distance of exposure to the thing a pet's afraid of and gradually increasing the exposure. "
SEE ALSO: How to Properly Socialize Your Dog
Start small. With a dog who's afraid of garbage bags, he says, start with a piece of a garbage bag, as small as 3 inches. Pick it up, give the pet a treat when it notices, and then put down the piece of plastic. When then dog is comfortable with that, increase the size of the scrap and continue until the pet links the sight of the bag with a good thing--food--not fear.
"For a dog who's afraid of other dogs, you'd reward for being calm while the other animal is at a distance and gradually decrease the distance," Dr. Hunthausen says. "For thunderstorms, there are recordings you can use to build confidence gradually."
Stay calm. Always keep the exposure below the level at which the pet starts showing signs of anxiety--yawning, drooling, scanning the room for escape routes, changes in posture that show a lack of confidence, including ears back and licking lips. Build on your successes and go slowly, the veterinarian says.
SEE ALSO: 6 Easy Ways to Help Your Dog Live a Longer, Happier Life
Don't give up. What if you're not having any success? Get help. Ask your family's veterinarian to refer you to a behavior professional who can help you develop a good program. A specialist may also put your pet on medication to make the transition to a fear-free life easier. Though it sounds odd to many pet lovers, a pharmaceutical solution paired with a well-managed behavior modification plan, either in the short-term or forever, helps many pets cope with modern life.
Pets don't have to live in fear as long as pet owners are willing to help them work through their issues with patience, compassion and, possibly, professional guidance.
Source of Original Article: How Can We Help Our Fearful Dog Be Less Afraid All the Time?
By Marty Becker, vetstreet
and
Pam Nation Staff
Scottish Poet Robert Burns (25 January 1759-21 July 1796)
Scotland's MOST Popular Poet and Lyricist
and today, in Scotland is Burn's Day
People pour in the streets for Scotland's FAVORITE Son
Pioneer for the Romantic Movement, Liberalism and Socialism...a true Progressive Artist
His style of writing is marked with spontaneity, directness and sincerity
His writings have influenced American writers John Steinbeck, James Whitcomb Riley, Frank Stanton and J.D. Salinger...just To name a few
His cult writings seem to inspire the Oppressed and egalitarian ethos Worldwide
Happy Birthday Robert Burns
and today, in Scotland is Burn's Day
People pour in the streets for Scotland's FAVORITE Son
Pioneer for the Romantic Movement, Liberalism and Socialism...a true Progressive Artist
His style of writing is marked with spontaneity, directness and sincerity
His writings have influenced American writers John Steinbeck, James Whitcomb Riley, Frank Stanton and J.D. Salinger...just To name a few
His cult writings seem to inspire the Oppressed and egalitarian ethos Worldwide
Happy Birthday Robert Burns
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Who Knows David Brinkley
"A Successful Individual is one who can Lay a firm Foundation with Bricks that others have thrown their way!"
Learn to trust yourself...and that will be your initiation to trusting your path in life!
Learn to trust yourself...and that will be your initiation to trusting your path in life!
Monday, January 23, 2012
Are you weird? Am I? Who cares!
Well, I believe everyone has something weird about their nature and/or routine...nonetheless, I never judge therefore I don't care...be as quirky as you want to be!
As far as I go...well, I am who I am and I never care to think what others opinions might be...and neither should you, as in care in someone else's opinion.
But since you asked...if I am weird, well....
Artistically unique, unexpectedly fun and entertaining...always charming, and extremely calming...as a matter of fact words cool, calm and collected sound just about right. I'm built like a gladiator from Ancient Rome, yet I wield a pen fiercer then any sword. I can and will do more push ups and pull ups then just about anyone you might know, yet I prefer to spend my spare time wine tasting...I have no Internet, cable or telephone connection where I live, if I am home you might find me quietly reading.
Am I weird?
What is weird? Different from the norm? Who sets the norm? Why can't people just be themselves, pressure free.
I will do what I want, when I want. I never have intent to harm any one in any way. I will be what I wish, all the time.
What does this mean? I will wear what I want, when I want...even if it means shorts after a snow storm. I'll go where ever I want, when ever I want...even if it's a place called home on a Saturday night!
Everyone should follow this example...pressure free, loose, relaxed...just be yourself...
Always!
As far as I go...well, I am who I am and I never care to think what others opinions might be...and neither should you, as in care in someone else's opinion.
But since you asked...if I am weird, well....
Artistically unique, unexpectedly fun and entertaining...always charming, and extremely calming...as a matter of fact words cool, calm and collected sound just about right. I'm built like a gladiator from Ancient Rome, yet I wield a pen fiercer then any sword. I can and will do more push ups and pull ups then just about anyone you might know, yet I prefer to spend my spare time wine tasting...I have no Internet, cable or telephone connection where I live, if I am home you might find me quietly reading.
Am I weird?
What is weird? Different from the norm? Who sets the norm? Why can't people just be themselves, pressure free.
I will do what I want, when I want. I never have intent to harm any one in any way. I will be what I wish, all the time.
What does this mean? I will wear what I want, when I want...even if it means shorts after a snow storm. I'll go where ever I want, when ever I want...even if it's a place called home on a Saturday night!
Everyone should follow this example...pressure free, loose, relaxed...just be yourself...
Always!
Today Marks the New Year in the Chinese Calendar 2012
Out with the Rabbit
in with
The Lunar year of the Water Dragon...a once in sixty year occurrence.
*Believed to be the Luckiest Year*
The Dragon is considered to be a powerful, mystical and auspicious creature.
Expect a year of opulent, flourishing vitality and Metamorphisis (For greater growth).
If you are a "Dragon"
then you may possess some of these supposed qualities
Are you:
Smart, Energetic, Creative, Ambitious, Passionate, Extroverted, Conceited, Hot Headed, Quick Tempered, Sharp Tongued?
Watch out if Provoked!
in with
The Lunar year of the Water Dragon...a once in sixty year occurrence.
*Believed to be the Luckiest Year*
The Dragon is considered to be a powerful, mystical and auspicious creature.
Expect a year of opulent, flourishing vitality and Metamorphisis (For greater growth).
If you are a "Dragon"
then you may possess some of these supposed qualities
Are you:
Smart, Energetic, Creative, Ambitious, Passionate, Extroverted, Conceited, Hot Headed, Quick Tempered, Sharp Tongued?
Watch out if Provoked!
Sunday, January 22, 2012
Question: how much protein in one cup of broccoli?
One cup cooked is Roughly equivalent to four grams of protein.
I having a Charming Purple Friend
And she believes in giving people fair chances to prove themselves worth her "time"...but sometimes she can't help but distance herself from some...Some Folks are Best Ignored...
The questions here are...
What exactly do you deem as worthy in differentiating between who should and should not be ignored?
Is it possible to misjudge someone and "categorize" them in either or? What should you do if you are victim to a mislabeling? Do you play along and reciprocate? Even if you know there is a wrong at hand?
I get the whole idea of surrounding yourself with the right sort of people. Yet I can also see situations not been exactly ideal with lapses in judgement!
The concern that my friend is having is with those type of individuals that feed off of dramatic situations...
I know a drama queen or two. I try my best to stay out of there attention circle...the worst is when they actually hunt me out. I guess I am their point of amusement for the day...lucky me!
You are right, stay away from those types, they breed negativity and love to watch others suffer...how high and mighty of them. "Saving" the day, or so they think with their swollen egos and inflated sense of importance. They are a deliriously charming bunch.
Just as an Aside...
Hippopotamus, Gorillas, Rhinoceroses and Elephants (even in Dinosaur Times the Brontosaurus)...How are they so BIG and STRONG being Organic Vegans?
and why do Lobbyist have so much Bullshit Pull?
Yet,
She believes in inherit goodness, therefore she tries not to be judgmental.
The questions here are...
What exactly do you deem as worthy in differentiating between who should and should not be ignored?
Is it possible to misjudge someone and "categorize" them in either or? What should you do if you are victim to a mislabeling? Do you play along and reciprocate? Even if you know there is a wrong at hand?
I get the whole idea of surrounding yourself with the right sort of people. Yet I can also see situations not been exactly ideal with lapses in judgement!
The concern that my friend is having is with those type of individuals that feed off of dramatic situations...
I know a drama queen or two. I try my best to stay out of there attention circle...the worst is when they actually hunt me out. I guess I am their point of amusement for the day...lucky me!
You are right, stay away from those types, they breed negativity and love to watch others suffer...how high and mighty of them. "Saving" the day, or so they think with their swollen egos and inflated sense of importance. They are a deliriously charming bunch.
Just as an Aside...
Hippopotamus, Gorillas, Rhinoceroses and Elephants (even in Dinosaur Times the Brontosaurus)...How are they so BIG and STRONG being Organic Vegans?
and why do Lobbyist have so much Bullshit Pull?
Saturday, January 21, 2012
If I were to share my Confession
Guiltless...I need to be, Understanding You is a Gift I Never Asked for
Need I confess???
But what crime must I admit too???
I swear it wasn't my fault...
It's never any of our faults...
It's always someone else...
Done so,
By their hands, their actions, their words
Provoking us into undesirable reactions
Knee Jerk Snap
My only true admission is this...
I work hard, real hard at being the healthiest and fittest...
I try my best to help all...and ask nothing for in return
I keep rooted...with my ear to the ground...feeling that beating pulse
Pounding
My sense of empathy is so evolved and developed that...I feel your tears before they fall, hear your cries before your screams, see your scars before your rupture, smell your sorrow...taste your heartache...
I may be blind to the tormented ways of the world...but I understand your troubles, sometimes far greater then what you can comprehend...
Need I say More?
Need I confess???
But what crime must I admit too???
I swear it wasn't my fault...
It's never any of our faults...
It's always someone else...
Done so,
By their hands, their actions, their words
Provoking us into undesirable reactions
Knee Jerk Snap
My only true admission is this...
I work hard, real hard at being the healthiest and fittest...
I try my best to help all...and ask nothing for in return
I keep rooted...with my ear to the ground...feeling that beating pulse
Pounding
My sense of empathy is so evolved and developed that...I feel your tears before they fall, hear your cries before your screams, see your scars before your rupture, smell your sorrow...taste your heartache...
I may be blind to the tormented ways of the world...but I understand your troubles, sometimes far greater then what you can comprehend...
Need I say More?
She's Never Been Kissed
Well...I may have exaggerated a little.
She is Young, Sweet and Gentle
did I mention Shy?
Quietly waiting to find her Knight...frustrated that all her friends find comfort in the arms of others...or so they say!
She feels sad and lonely...
Why is life so unfair?
Shall I interject?
I think that I should...
Don't Rush Happiness, It Comes with Time!
My perspective on being in or out of a relationship...
I would rather be unsatisfied/uncomforted with being single, rather then be unhappily resentful in a relationship.
Feeling sad is an easy excuse, but not one that you should focus on. Everyone I know, I know many people have something to be sad about.
The best advice I can truly give you...and I know that it s far easier said then practiced...
You should look inward to feel happy, and not rely on someone else making you happy. Be strong and be happy with yourself first and foremost.
And, for the record...
You are still young and you will have plenty of time in your lifetime to meet new people, make new connections and build relationships...so don't rush it. With time will come all that you seek!
Be good, be well, be healthy and be Blessed
Respectfully,
Captain Patrick Benson...otherwise known as Konstantine
Namaste
She is Young, Sweet and Gentle
did I mention Shy?
Quietly waiting to find her Knight...frustrated that all her friends find comfort in the arms of others...or so they say!
She feels sad and lonely...
Why is life so unfair?
Shall I interject?
I think that I should...
Don't Rush Happiness, It Comes with Time!
My perspective on being in or out of a relationship...
I would rather be unsatisfied/uncomforted with being single, rather then be unhappily resentful in a relationship.
Feeling sad is an easy excuse, but not one that you should focus on. Everyone I know, I know many people have something to be sad about.
The best advice I can truly give you...and I know that it s far easier said then practiced...
You should look inward to feel happy, and not rely on someone else making you happy. Be strong and be happy with yourself first and foremost.
And, for the record...
You are still young and you will have plenty of time in your lifetime to meet new people, make new connections and build relationships...so don't rush it. With time will come all that you seek!
Be good, be well, be healthy and be Blessed
Respectfully,
Captain Patrick Benson...otherwise known as Konstantine
Namaste
Do you Know What TODAY is?
National Hugging Day!
Show your appreciation...
and share a hug.
Just not with me, I won't appreciate anyone hugging me.
Friday, January 20, 2012
I met her by chance
Her Name is Revona, and she is stuck in a loveless marriage with a lying cheating husband (who's family is every bit as untrustworthy as he is). She asked me...
"What should I do?"
It's your call Revona...but since you asked
Do what is RIGHT for you. Do what makes you HAPPY. What is in YOUR best of INTERESTS. I have read, more then once..."it's best to have loved and lost, then to have NEVER loved at all."
I never believed it until I got caught up in loveless relationships with good women. I thought that with time I could love them. They were good to me, and for me. I treated them all great...that is why they never left me. I was the initiator, the instigator for terminating the relationships.
I reasoned that I would best serve them to leave them to find someone who can love them back...it's what they deserved (and that was something I was never capable of truly doing for them). As I stated, being loved is what they deserved...as far as I go, staying in a loveless relationship was outright selfish of me. Ms. Revona, you deserve what everyone else deserves...to find someone that loves you every bit as much as you love them...and both counts should be so GREAT, that they should be immeasurable!
"What should I do?"
It's your call Revona...but since you asked
Do what is RIGHT for you. Do what makes you HAPPY. What is in YOUR best of INTERESTS. I have read, more then once..."it's best to have loved and lost, then to have NEVER loved at all."
I never believed it until I got caught up in loveless relationships with good women. I thought that with time I could love them. They were good to me, and for me. I treated them all great...that is why they never left me. I was the initiator, the instigator for terminating the relationships.
I reasoned that I would best serve them to leave them to find someone who can love them back...it's what they deserved (and that was something I was never capable of truly doing for them). As I stated, being loved is what they deserved...as far as I go, staying in a loveless relationship was outright selfish of me. Ms. Revona, you deserve what everyone else deserves...to find someone that loves you every bit as much as you love them...and both counts should be so GREAT, that they should be immeasurable!
Second Amongst Africa's highest peaks
Is?
Mount Kenya.
The namesake for the Republic of Kenya. A country that sits at the Equator......bordered by the Indian Ocean...A country represented by Forty-Two different people and cultures. Nairobi is it's Capital...also home to the World's Second Largest Fresh Water Lake (Known as Lake Vicoria).
Can you guess the First?
(Lake Superior)
Fossil findings here do suggest that primates roamed through these areas so twenty million years ago. Dinosaur fossils carbon dated to two hundred million years ago. Cool, right?
Welcome Kenyan Readers, Welcome...the Sixty-First Country to share in Human Dynamics.
P.s. Don't you dislike the fact that people may talk behind your back...What you probably dislike the most about that, is that it tends to be the truth that gets spoken...a least make up a salacious and entertaining, perhaps exciting rumor!
Mount Kenya.
The namesake for the Republic of Kenya. A country that sits at the Equator......bordered by the Indian Ocean...A country represented by Forty-Two different people and cultures. Nairobi is it's Capital...also home to the World's Second Largest Fresh Water Lake (Known as Lake Vicoria).
Can you guess the First?
(Lake Superior)
Fossil findings here do suggest that primates roamed through these areas so twenty million years ago. Dinosaur fossils carbon dated to two hundred million years ago. Cool, right?
Welcome Kenyan Readers, Welcome...the Sixty-First Country to share in Human Dynamics.
P.s. Don't you dislike the fact that people may talk behind your back...What you probably dislike the most about that, is that it tends to be the truth that gets spoken...a least make up a salacious and entertaining, perhaps exciting rumor!
Thursday, January 19, 2012
Raul Juarez to Samantha Juarez
"Love is a decision...not an emotion or feeling...
that if made from the heart...
Will Outlast Eternity..."
Her Shattered Innocence is right...Love has NO On-Off switch!
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Alive and Free to Confess
In what was such a small Mess...
She invites her friend...only to immediately regret...
Undoes her Invite...
and hopes for the Best...
All for the sake of salvaging an Old friendship.
I Say...
Her confession is downright hysterical...and here I was thinking that I was the only person to immediately become disenchanted after agreeing to A day with friends. I, unlike you, feel no compulsion to make an excuse for canceling a rendezvous. I'll outright tell them that I need to cancel (why give an excuse?).
As far as keeping a friendship alive, if your friend is meant to be in your life (or Vice Versa)...it will be there for you...destiny is quite the finicky delinquent who comes and goes without any warning, and never bothers to explain intentions...it's all up to us to decipher...
She invites her friend...only to immediately regret...
Undoes her Invite...
and hopes for the Best...
All for the sake of salvaging an Old friendship.
I Say...
Her confession is downright hysterical...and here I was thinking that I was the only person to immediately become disenchanted after agreeing to A day with friends. I, unlike you, feel no compulsion to make an excuse for canceling a rendezvous. I'll outright tell them that I need to cancel (why give an excuse?).
As far as keeping a friendship alive, if your friend is meant to be in your life (or Vice Versa)...it will be there for you...destiny is quite the finicky delinquent who comes and goes without any warning, and never bothers to explain intentions...it's all up to us to decipher...
I Agree with Sue
"They should BANISH texting"
If you want to communicate, do so...with a legitimate intent to convey information.
With texts, a lot of authentic and natural nuances May be Lost in Translation...
If you want to communicate, do so...with a legitimate intent to convey information.
With texts, a lot of authentic and natural nuances May be Lost in Translation...
I spoke with Madison
and I was heartbroken listening to every word...
Her parents died tragically in an accident when she was a little girl. Her first marriage ended after four miscarriages and her Husband left Madison for another women. After re-marrying, she gave birth to a beautiful little girl...three months ago, her six month old and Husband died in an automotive accident...
My Sincerest Condolences Madison...no words that I have will ever take your Pain away...nonetheless, you will be in my prayers.
Madison feels destined to be alone, I can see where her darkness has taken her...and it's far from a lonely corner...
Life is a series of trials and tribulations, and What distinguishes us is our character and ability to survive them. I stopped feeling sorry for myself a long time ago...because I recognized that we all get tested to our maximum capacity...given some people are able to sustain a much more challenging road....
Therefore, what gives me the right to complain about MY life?
We Are All in this Together. This is happening to all of us.
Madison, I recognize that you are not complaining, just venting about your situation.
I leave home in the morning, when it's dark...I return home at night, in the dark...and the only soul to happily greet me is a cat I rescued eighteen months ago.
I know many people, and for the most part, they all love me (aren't there always exceptions?)...yet my days are emotionally empty...
The only person that I have found
(and due to where I live combined with my work obligations...I have met and known thousands upon thousands of people)
AND whom I know that, we are FITTED right for each other...has been blinded, crazed and confused through opposition and circumstance...and as far as I can see, she would might as well consider me dead. There isn't a person ON the planet whom would take better care of her, then I...yet, she wishes me to not exist. That is my injustice, her and I are BOTH destined to be alone..since life is destined to keep us apart...
By some Miracle, I do wish that life were different...not only for ME, but EVERYONE!
Her parents died tragically in an accident when she was a little girl. Her first marriage ended after four miscarriages and her Husband left Madison for another women. After re-marrying, she gave birth to a beautiful little girl...three months ago, her six month old and Husband died in an automotive accident...
My Sincerest Condolences Madison...no words that I have will ever take your Pain away...nonetheless, you will be in my prayers.
Madison feels destined to be alone, I can see where her darkness has taken her...and it's far from a lonely corner...
Life is a series of trials and tribulations, and What distinguishes us is our character and ability to survive them. I stopped feeling sorry for myself a long time ago...because I recognized that we all get tested to our maximum capacity...given some people are able to sustain a much more challenging road....
Therefore, what gives me the right to complain about MY life?
We Are All in this Together. This is happening to all of us.
Madison, I recognize that you are not complaining, just venting about your situation.
I leave home in the morning, when it's dark...I return home at night, in the dark...and the only soul to happily greet me is a cat I rescued eighteen months ago.
I know many people, and for the most part, they all love me (aren't there always exceptions?)...yet my days are emotionally empty...
The only person that I have found
(and due to where I live combined with my work obligations...I have met and known thousands upon thousands of people)
AND whom I know that, we are FITTED right for each other...has been blinded, crazed and confused through opposition and circumstance...and as far as I can see, she would might as well consider me dead. There isn't a person ON the planet whom would take better care of her, then I...yet, she wishes me to not exist. That is my injustice, her and I are BOTH destined to be alone..since life is destined to keep us apart...
By some Miracle, I do wish that life were different...not only for ME, but EVERYONE!
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
Denise Asked Me a Question...
She started it by stating to me that she is very shy and extremely quiet...
"how about you?"
I am far from shy...
but what I am, almost to an extreme count is Reserved. The two often get confused or somehow conjoined into being interpreted as identical patterns of behavior (and understandably why). My quiet demeanor only mistakenly compounds others beliefs that I am of the shy varietal. My quiet and "shy-like" nature helps me hide my highly competitive and truly feisty and dominant driven instinctual state.
These misinterpretations/misunderstandings have cost me relationships...there isn't a day that goes by that I wish, absolutely wish that other people make an honest effort to learn my nature...without prejudice and Expectation.
Perhaps, people guard themselves out of insecurities and shortcomings...therefore it's easier to maintain a distance. What those people lose out on, is becoming...truly acquainting with someone who may (or just as easily may not), move them for the better in a direction they never knew off. That experience is something that will never be Known unless effort is placed forward in its direction.
That is my experienced state of perpetual injustice...
I say, get to know everyone and pass no judgements along the way.
After all We Are ALL Human...and we need to accept each other!
"how about you?"
I am far from shy...
but what I am, almost to an extreme count is Reserved. The two often get confused or somehow conjoined into being interpreted as identical patterns of behavior (and understandably why). My quiet demeanor only mistakenly compounds others beliefs that I am of the shy varietal. My quiet and "shy-like" nature helps me hide my highly competitive and truly feisty and dominant driven instinctual state.
These misinterpretations/misunderstandings have cost me relationships...there isn't a day that goes by that I wish, absolutely wish that other people make an honest effort to learn my nature...without prejudice and Expectation.
Perhaps, people guard themselves out of insecurities and shortcomings...therefore it's easier to maintain a distance. What those people lose out on, is becoming...truly acquainting with someone who may (or just as easily may not), move them for the better in a direction they never knew off. That experience is something that will never be Known unless effort is placed forward in its direction.
That is my experienced state of perpetual injustice...
I say, get to know everyone and pass no judgements along the way.
After all We Are ALL Human...and we need to accept each other!
Monday, January 16, 2012
What is a simple solution to boosting your mood and breaking out of a Rut?
Exercise/Physical Activity and Quality sleep, ala, productive and natural means of reducing physical and emotional stress upon the body.
Cut out any booze, that never solves anything...especially in the long run.
Or, start a Blog and get it all out...you just never know who will read it and what they will get from it!
P.S. Welcome
Jamaica
Cut out any booze, that never solves anything...especially in the long run.
Or, start a Blog and get it all out...you just never know who will read it and what they will get from it!
P.S. Welcome
Jamaica
Sunday, January 15, 2012
Five5Features that I will Share
I try to...
1. Be the best to All
2. Treat everyone the Same, nobody likes a "favorite"
3. Help someone achieve something better themselves and/or for the greater good
4. Teach what ever information I have that I can share
5. Tall, big eyes with Long Hair
1. Be the best to All
2. Treat everyone the Same, nobody likes a "favorite"
3. Help someone achieve something better themselves and/or for the greater good
4. Teach what ever information I have that I can share
5. Tall, big eyes with Long Hair
What is Unconditional Love?
Love is unforgiving
Love is careless
It holds no bias
yet carries a long history of stories and scars
Does it lie? Never. Only in interpretation...
Try to bury a burning heart, and you will see the resurrection of what Love is about...
To Love without any "Rules"...
There is a lonely sadness that sits behind that very principle, the fact that "love" feels permanent and everlasting when in fact it can be so transient and elusive. Yet, so many individuals carry burdens and place premiums on their abilities to love...with varied expectations and assumptions
Reason i see as to why, is to protect oneself from being "victimized". Guarding the Heart from hurt. What if I love and I get hurt in the end?
The beauty of unconditional love is loving someone/something to the point whereby it doesn't matter if you net anything in return...you carry absolutely no thought of what your consequences may be...
To be the recepient of that...well, that is the Ultimate Gift any one can receive in their life...and if you reciprocate it...then there is nothing more life can offer that would have any more worth...
Now, that is luck...
and very few reap it's spoils
and that is Life's unfortunate cost
Tragedy of Life
It does not matter of what you've done, nor what you look like...
We should All allow ourselves to Love with the pureness of a child and any animal
...let go of conditions and Grudges
Love is careless
It holds no bias
yet carries a long history of stories and scars
Does it lie? Never. Only in interpretation...
Try to bury a burning heart, and you will see the resurrection of what Love is about...
To Love without any "Rules"...
There is a lonely sadness that sits behind that very principle, the fact that "love" feels permanent and everlasting when in fact it can be so transient and elusive. Yet, so many individuals carry burdens and place premiums on their abilities to love...with varied expectations and assumptions
Reason i see as to why, is to protect oneself from being "victimized". Guarding the Heart from hurt. What if I love and I get hurt in the end?
The beauty of unconditional love is loving someone/something to the point whereby it doesn't matter if you net anything in return...you carry absolutely no thought of what your consequences may be...
To be the recepient of that...well, that is the Ultimate Gift any one can receive in their life...and if you reciprocate it...then there is nothing more life can offer that would have any more worth...
Now, that is luck...
and very few reap it's spoils
and that is Life's unfortunate cost
Tragedy of Life
It does not matter of what you've done, nor what you look like...
We should All allow ourselves to Love with the pureness of a child and any animal
...let go of conditions and Grudges
Saturday, January 14, 2012
Am I Nice?
I'm not "Nice", far from it...although people continually think of me as "Nice" and proceed to praise me for it. Let me correct people, I am Fair and I do what is Right (at least from my standpoint based upon my morals/values). Being Fair can easily be confused with being Nice if there is an unsolicited benefit someone is reaping as consequence of my actions...but I only do what I feel needs to be done.
I abide my actions by one Simple rule, I treat others in the manner in which I would want to be treated...
People who have crossed me will vouch that I am not Nice. But with that said, you will find thousands of people that I have crossed paths with and touched their lives that will swear that I might be he nicest person that have met...
Life is so funny, so many unique instances...with such precise timing
Off by a beat and you miss a train...early by three seconds and you can run into someone who can change your life forever.
I abide my actions by one Simple rule, I treat others in the manner in which I would want to be treated...
People who have crossed me will vouch that I am not Nice. But with that said, you will find thousands of people that I have crossed paths with and touched their lives that will swear that I might be he nicest person that have met...
Life is so funny, so many unique instances...with such precise timing
Off by a beat and you miss a train...early by three seconds and you can run into someone who can change your life forever.
Thursday, January 12, 2012
What are the BIGGEST red flags When Dating?
In a recent survey that I read...I became inspired to share some wonderful suggestions as to what should be a red flag...here are some of what was shared:
Never date anyone who is a Registered Sex Offender!!!
Be weary if they seem TOO attached to their parents. That probably means you'll never get invited over...
Avoid dating Angry people...trust me, just don't.
Negativity and Disrespect is also a No-No...if they are bad mouthing an Ex, suspect something is amiss!
People who aggressively progress a relationship...Just Learn to Chill Baby!
People who seem " Perfect"...sorry to burst anyones bubble but perfection Does NOT Exist...Sorry:(
People are Perfectly Imperfect...anyone who sells perfections is lying about something!
People who manipulate in order to control...Yikes, not too Good...Get Out Now!
Folks that Obsess over every single action of yours...might be problemsome!!! Just my guess.
Those that assault or bully...remember, mental abuse is worse then physical...so stand against both!
Be aware of those that never assume responsibility for their actions...they never admit when they are wrong either.
Well, let's all start with this list, for now...God knows how we could all add dozens more...Like living in Kentucky and trying to finagle themselves into your life and home...
Never date anyone who is a Registered Sex Offender!!!
Be weary if they seem TOO attached to their parents. That probably means you'll never get invited over...
Avoid dating Angry people...trust me, just don't.
Negativity and Disrespect is also a No-No...if they are bad mouthing an Ex, suspect something is amiss!
People who aggressively progress a relationship...Just Learn to Chill Baby!
People who seem " Perfect"...sorry to burst anyones bubble but perfection Does NOT Exist...Sorry:(
People are Perfectly Imperfect...anyone who sells perfections is lying about something!
People who manipulate in order to control...Yikes, not too Good...Get Out Now!
Folks that Obsess over every single action of yours...might be problemsome!!! Just my guess.
Those that assault or bully...remember, mental abuse is worse then physical...so stand against both!
Be aware of those that never assume responsibility for their actions...they never admit when they are wrong either.
Well, let's all start with this list, for now...God knows how we could all add dozens more...Like living in Kentucky and trying to finagle themselves into your life and home...
My Wait with Fanny
She sits to my Left...otherwise, I wouldn't be able to hear her. Quietly waiting. The Room...if that is what you want to call it...is unquestonably vast. With its infinite shape, its impossible to accurately estimate who is waiting with us...but I Know this, anyone and everyone has their wait at some time...
All for seemingly various reasons...
and what we all wait for does range...
Waits that coincide with Unique situations taylored to FILL immediate and/or distant "needs".
Waiting for These Answers to find our consciousness...
Locate our Soul Mates. Discovering the purpose of Why? Or How? and Who Am I? Questions of religion and spirituality...and of all things beyond...
Where have I come from and where will I go...
This List is Endless...
Some People feel helplessly trapped, while others hopefully pursue...
Wait denotes STILLNESS...
stagnancy...
Life is meant to be about the experiences of the learning curve in its journey...and when its all said and done...its going to seem like a very short Trip...
All for seemingly various reasons...
and what we all wait for does range...
Waits that coincide with Unique situations taylored to FILL immediate and/or distant "needs".
Waiting for These Answers to find our consciousness...
Locate our Soul Mates. Discovering the purpose of Why? Or How? and Who Am I? Questions of religion and spirituality...and of all things beyond...
Where have I come from and where will I go...
This List is Endless...
Some People feel helplessly trapped, while others hopefully pursue...
Wait denotes STILLNESS...
stagnancy...
Life is meant to be about the experiences of the learning curve in its journey...and when its all said and done...its going to seem like a very short Trip...
Today's BIG FO4R
FIRST...stick by what you say
Keep Your Word!
Speak with...integrity. Mean what you Say!
Never speak against yourself or others...only speak with truth and love...never Hate.
Second, Avoid making everything PERSONAL.
The world is NOT Against YOU...
The motives of others comes from their perspective on reality...it's not always a Vendetta against You...
Become IMMUNE to their Opinions and Actions...avoid getting trapped in needless suffering.
NEXT...Never, Never...Ever ASSuME
Be Strong...Ask Questions
Express what you Want
Communicate
that is how you Avoid Misunderstandings! Sadness and Drama
Finally
Always give your best effort with what you have
and
Avoid
Judging and Abusing...yourself and others
and
Leave No Regrets
Keep Your Word!
Speak with...integrity. Mean what you Say!
Never speak against yourself or others...only speak with truth and love...never Hate.
Second, Avoid making everything PERSONAL.
The world is NOT Against YOU...
The motives of others comes from their perspective on reality...it's not always a Vendetta against You...
Become IMMUNE to their Opinions and Actions...avoid getting trapped in needless suffering.
NEXT...Never, Never...Ever ASSuME
Be Strong...Ask Questions
Express what you Want
Communicate
that is how you Avoid Misunderstandings! Sadness and Drama
Finally
Always give your best effort with what you have
and
Avoid
Judging and Abusing...yourself and others
and
Leave No Regrets
Tuesday, January 10, 2012
Calling Me Crazy is So Cliche...
I believe just about everyone is Personalized and Pattened...their own individual! No two people are identical, hence each of us are very much individual. Although, there are "similarities" amongst many...and these similarities seem to radiate around a general norm or "expected" type of look or behavior. Few dare break to a domain that utterly holds no general ground rules!!!No Restrictions on who and what anyone can be. Those few who ultimately set new standards, create novel outlooks on washed up ideas...all at the cost of being ostracized, ridiculed and mocked...Those same INDIVIDUALS hold an unparalleled Strength and Shine.
It is that subtle transformation that benefits the greater good...unfortunately, the initiator will more then likely be vilified...yet, they understand that their Open Mind may somehow help influence others in a Posi+ive way...in some way, perhaps induce a beneficial type of Evolution!
Just Saying.
I admire those that brave that uphill battle. Those that understand what it is that they seek at the end...and completely assume whatever sacrifice is necessary for their success.
I do what I want, and what I want is to do good for the world around me...
No matter what fire may burn my hand...as I reach to help
I applaud all that have the same will, the same determination to foster whatever energy is necessary to be set apart...
Why be Vanilla, when there are so many more flavors?
Customized and separate can be mesmerizing...Hypnotizing...Seductive...Alluring...Enticing
Everyone is Different...but to be unique...is beyond strong
It is outright Beautiful...simply Special
Dare to be Different!
My final question to you all...Why is it that so many take life so seriously?
Afterall, we all wind up in the same spot...
Right?
It is that subtle transformation that benefits the greater good...unfortunately, the initiator will more then likely be vilified...yet, they understand that their Open Mind may somehow help influence others in a Posi+ive way...in some way, perhaps induce a beneficial type of Evolution!
Just Saying.
I admire those that brave that uphill battle. Those that understand what it is that they seek at the end...and completely assume whatever sacrifice is necessary for their success.
I do what I want, and what I want is to do good for the world around me...
No matter what fire may burn my hand...as I reach to help
I applaud all that have the same will, the same determination to foster whatever energy is necessary to be set apart...
Why be Vanilla, when there are so many more flavors?
Customized and separate can be mesmerizing...Hypnotizing...Seductive...Alluring...Enticing
Everyone is Different...but to be unique...is beyond strong
It is outright Beautiful...simply Special
Dare to be Different!
My final question to you all...Why is it that so many take life so seriously?
Afterall, we all wind up in the same spot...
Right?
Finding Hope
"Most of the Important things in the World have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be NO Hope at All"
-Dale Carnegie
Refocus
Revitaize
Be Grateful to the Goodness in your life...no matter how "small" it may seem!
Take Control of the Situation...you are not stuck in any given situation...everying in life exists only in the NOW
Hope Exists in a STRONG support System...find yours
always remember to return that Favor!
Breathe, relax...figure out how to get to where you would like to be...one step at a Time
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~ Marianne Williamson
-Dale Carnegie
Refocus
Revitaize
Be Grateful to the Goodness in your life...no matter how "small" it may seem!
Take Control of the Situation...you are not stuck in any given situation...everying in life exists only in the NOW
Hope Exists in a STRONG support System...find yours
always remember to return that Favor!
Breathe, relax...figure out how to get to where you would like to be...one step at a Time
"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." ~ Marianne Williamson
Article by Dr Logan Levkoff
Imagination is the prison break from every day life...it is the foundation from which dreams come from and fears disappear...It's the house of unmitigated growth...the home of Neverland! It's where we all go to be free of judgement...we can become whatever we want, free of consequence...
Welcome to Logan's World...
I've been having sexual fantasies for as long as I can remember. When I was in the fourth grade, I dreamed that I was making out with Christie Brinkley on top of my desk. By middle school, I was fantasizing about the athletics director at my sleep away camp. And today, I still have torrid dreams about Huey Lewis (yes, that Huey Lewis). However, it sometimes seems as if it is more taboo to talk about our fantasies now, as an adult, even though we should feel free to express that which turns us on, both mentally and physically. Fantasies are an essential part of our sexuality, but for some reason, we are almost paralyzed by them and what they may mean about us.
Perhaps you will be surprised to know that Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb recently proved my point. I appeared on their hour of The Today Show to talk about my latest book, "How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You." Midway through the interview I told the hosts that many of us make assumptions about our partners; we don't realize what a rich fantasy life the other one has. I said that one of the more exciting aspects of working on this book was in discussing sexual fantasies -- more importantly, the amazing range of sexual fantasies that women have.
I began to explain that I asked hundreds of women about their fantasies and received wonderful responses. That's when I was interrupted.
"Are (these women) slutty?" Hoda asked.
Kathie Lee answered, "Total sluts."
My brain froze. Wait -- what? The whole point of this conversation was to get women to feel empowered so that they could share their fantasies with their partners. Now they're being called sluts? (And besides, if you've read any of my work, you know that I have a visceral reaction to the word.)
"Hardly," I replied, and wearing a smile that concealed my frustration, I continued, "It's amazing what a working mom or a stay at home mom can fantasize about in her spare time."
Now, maybe the hosts were trying to be funny. Maybe. But even if someone thinks that it is remotely funny to call women who have sexual fantasies "sluts," we have a serious problem. Not to mention, we're all screwed, 'cause we've all got them.
Let me clear things up. Other than our skin, our brains are the biggest sex organ we have. We are supposed to use them. We are supposed to have an active fantasy life. Sexual fantasies do not make us sluts. Nor do they suggest that we have trouble in our current relationship. Fantasies make us healthy sexual beings. (Besides, would KLG and Hoda label men who talk openly about their sexual desires? I think not. They'd chalk it up to "being a man.") They are our mind's way of exploring that which we may or may never do in real life. They can be short images or long, drawn out narratives of things outside the realm of our everyday life -- or actual past experiences. Either way, our brain is telling us that we can turn on to just about anything; that is exciting.
The point I was trying to make on-air was that when we're in a long term relationship (gay, straight, whatever), we start to assume that our partner knows everything about us -- and vice versa. We believe that we can anticipate his/her every need. But that's just not true. In fact, it's impossible. We evolve, and our fantasies do, too. I'm not even sure that we realize how varied and x-rated our partner's thoughts can actually be.
Yet we are so hesitant to share our fantasies. Why? Well, we are afraid of judgment. Afraid of being called a slut or deviant or sick. Afraid that our partners or our friends might think less of us (even though they're probably just as imaginative as we are).
So to honor the women I interviewed, and many of you who have a rich fantasy life of your own, let me present some of what came up in my interviews. It's not like you weren't wondering, right?
I could keep writing, but hopefully you get the point. Fantasies don't mean we are closeted lesbians or bisexual or into BDSM or looking for new, edgier experiences. And if we are any of the above (and the sex is consensual), well, that's fine, too.
So, dare I ask? Any of you want to proudly own your favorite sexual fantasy? No pressure, I just thought I'd try ...
Welcome to Logan's World...
I've been having sexual fantasies for as long as I can remember. When I was in the fourth grade, I dreamed that I was making out with Christie Brinkley on top of my desk. By middle school, I was fantasizing about the athletics director at my sleep away camp. And today, I still have torrid dreams about Huey Lewis (yes, that Huey Lewis). However, it sometimes seems as if it is more taboo to talk about our fantasies now, as an adult, even though we should feel free to express that which turns us on, both mentally and physically. Fantasies are an essential part of our sexuality, but for some reason, we are almost paralyzed by them and what they may mean about us.
Perhaps you will be surprised to know that Kathie Lee Gifford and Hoda Kotb recently proved my point. I appeared on their hour of The Today Show to talk about my latest book, "How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You." Midway through the interview I told the hosts that many of us make assumptions about our partners; we don't realize what a rich fantasy life the other one has. I said that one of the more exciting aspects of working on this book was in discussing sexual fantasies -- more importantly, the amazing range of sexual fantasies that women have.
I began to explain that I asked hundreds of women about their fantasies and received wonderful responses. That's when I was interrupted.
"Are (these women) slutty?" Hoda asked.
Kathie Lee answered, "Total sluts."
My brain froze. Wait -- what? The whole point of this conversation was to get women to feel empowered so that they could share their fantasies with their partners. Now they're being called sluts? (And besides, if you've read any of my work, you know that I have a visceral reaction to the word.)
"Hardly," I replied, and wearing a smile that concealed my frustration, I continued, "It's amazing what a working mom or a stay at home mom can fantasize about in her spare time."
Now, maybe the hosts were trying to be funny. Maybe. But even if someone thinks that it is remotely funny to call women who have sexual fantasies "sluts," we have a serious problem. Not to mention, we're all screwed, 'cause we've all got them.
Let me clear things up. Other than our skin, our brains are the biggest sex organ we have. We are supposed to use them. We are supposed to have an active fantasy life. Sexual fantasies do not make us sluts. Nor do they suggest that we have trouble in our current relationship. Fantasies make us healthy sexual beings. (Besides, would KLG and Hoda label men who talk openly about their sexual desires? I think not. They'd chalk it up to "being a man.") They are our mind's way of exploring that which we may or may never do in real life. They can be short images or long, drawn out narratives of things outside the realm of our everyday life -- or actual past experiences. Either way, our brain is telling us that we can turn on to just about anything; that is exciting.
The point I was trying to make on-air was that when we're in a long term relationship (gay, straight, whatever), we start to assume that our partner knows everything about us -- and vice versa. We believe that we can anticipate his/her every need. But that's just not true. In fact, it's impossible. We evolve, and our fantasies do, too. I'm not even sure that we realize how varied and x-rated our partner's thoughts can actually be.
Yet we are so hesitant to share our fantasies. Why? Well, we are afraid of judgment. Afraid of being called a slut or deviant or sick. Afraid that our partners or our friends might think less of us (even though they're probably just as imaginative as we are).
So to honor the women I interviewed, and many of you who have a rich fantasy life of your own, let me present some of what came up in my interviews. It's not like you weren't wondering, right?
I could keep writing, but hopefully you get the point. Fantasies don't mean we are closeted lesbians or bisexual or into BDSM or looking for new, edgier experiences. And if we are any of the above (and the sex is consensual), well, that's fine, too.
So, dare I ask? Any of you want to proudly own your favorite sexual fantasy? No pressure, I just thought I'd try ...
Sunday, January 8, 2012
I can Remember EVERYTHING...well " almost" everything, can you?
Article By Kerry Grens
NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Older adults who took vitamin B12 and folic acid supplements for two years had greater improvements on short- and long-term memory tests than adults who did not take the vitamins, according to the results of a new study from Australia.
The benefits were modest, but encouraging, indicating that the vitamins "may have an important role in promoting healthy ageing and mental wellbeing, as well as sustaining good cognitive functioning for longer on a community-wide scale," Janine Walker, the lead author of the study and a researcher at Australian National University, told Reuters Health by email.
The researchers asked more than 700 people, aged 60 to 74 years, to take a daily dose of folic acid and vitamin B12 or fake pills that resembled the vitamins. The study only included people who showed signs of depression, but were not diagnosed with clinical depression.
The vitamin dose included 400 micrograms of folic acid and 100 micrograms of vitamin B12. The participants didn't know which pills they were assigned to take.
"We felt that older people with elevated depressive symptoms were an important cohort to target given evidence that late-life depression is associated with increased risk of cognitive impairment," Walker said.
After 12 months, there seemed to be no difference between the groups in how well the people scored on mental tests, including memory, attention and speed.
Two years on, however, those who took the vitamins showed larger improvements in their scores on the memory tasks.
The difference in the improvements was small, the researchers write in their study, published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition.
For instance, on a short term memory test, those who took the fake pills improved their score from about 5.2 to about 5.5 over the two years. Those who took the vitamins increased their test scores from 5.16 to roughly 5.6.
Short term memory is used to dial a number someone has just told you, while long term memory comes into play when you try to call that number a day or week later.
Joshua Miller, a professor at the University of California, Davis, said it's difficult to translate the memory improvements on the tests into real life benefits. He said it's likely that some people had larger memory improvements, while others benefited very little.
"For any given individual, there may or may not be an effect. But on a population level, a small increase in cognitive function can have very real ramifications on the functioning of the population as a whole and on the costs of healthcare." Miller said.
Miller said it's possible that certain subgroups of individuals might be more likely to benefit from folic acid and B12 than others.
"What I believe the next thing we need to do is (study) the group that is most likely to benefit from this," Miller, who did not participate in this research, told Reuters Health.
UNCLEAR HOW VITAMINS MIGHT WORK
Walker said it's not clear yet how adding vitamins might work to boost brain functioning, and not all studies have agreed upon their benefits.
One idea is that the vitamins reduce the body's levels of a molecule called homocysteine, which is linked to cardiovascular disease and poor cognitive function.
The body uses homocysteine to build proteins, but high levels of it in the blood are associated with heart disease -- and heart disease is linked to mental decline.
The thinking goes that lowering homocysteine could perhaps reduce someone's cardiovascular risk, and in turn affect his mental functioning.
A recent test of folic acid's influence on cardiovascular disease, however, found that in people with high homocysteine levels, the vitamin didn't help prevent thickening of the arteries (see Reuters Health report of April 13, 2011).
Walker said it will be important to test whether other groups of people, especially those older than the people who participated in this study, could also benefit from taking the supplements.
SOURCE: http://bit.ly/yyx6YW American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, online December 14, 2011.
NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Older adults who took vitamin B12 and folic acid supplements for two years had greater improvements on short- and long-term memory tests than adults who did not take the vitamins, according to the results of a new study from Australia.
The benefits were modest, but encouraging, indicating that the vitamins "may have an important role in promoting healthy ageing and mental wellbeing, as well as sustaining good cognitive functioning for longer on a community-wide scale," Janine Walker, the lead author of the study and a researcher at Australian National University, told Reuters Health by email.
The researchers asked more than 700 people, aged 60 to 74 years, to take a daily dose of folic acid and vitamin B12 or fake pills that resembled the vitamins. The study only included people who showed signs of depression, but were not diagnosed with clinical depression.
The vitamin dose included 400 micrograms of folic acid and 100 micrograms of vitamin B12. The participants didn't know which pills they were assigned to take.
"We felt that older people with elevated depressive symptoms were an important cohort to target given evidence that late-life depression is associated with increased risk of cognitive impairment," Walker said.
After 12 months, there seemed to be no difference between the groups in how well the people scored on mental tests, including memory, attention and speed.
Two years on, however, those who took the vitamins showed larger improvements in their scores on the memory tasks.
The difference in the improvements was small, the researchers write in their study, published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition.
For instance, on a short term memory test, those who took the fake pills improved their score from about 5.2 to about 5.5 over the two years. Those who took the vitamins increased their test scores from 5.16 to roughly 5.6.
Short term memory is used to dial a number someone has just told you, while long term memory comes into play when you try to call that number a day or week later.
Joshua Miller, a professor at the University of California, Davis, said it's difficult to translate the memory improvements on the tests into real life benefits. He said it's likely that some people had larger memory improvements, while others benefited very little.
"For any given individual, there may or may not be an effect. But on a population level, a small increase in cognitive function can have very real ramifications on the functioning of the population as a whole and on the costs of healthcare." Miller said.
Miller said it's possible that certain subgroups of individuals might be more likely to benefit from folic acid and B12 than others.
"What I believe the next thing we need to do is (study) the group that is most likely to benefit from this," Miller, who did not participate in this research, told Reuters Health.
UNCLEAR HOW VITAMINS MIGHT WORK
Walker said it's not clear yet how adding vitamins might work to boost brain functioning, and not all studies have agreed upon their benefits.
One idea is that the vitamins reduce the body's levels of a molecule called homocysteine, which is linked to cardiovascular disease and poor cognitive function.
The body uses homocysteine to build proteins, but high levels of it in the blood are associated with heart disease -- and heart disease is linked to mental decline.
The thinking goes that lowering homocysteine could perhaps reduce someone's cardiovascular risk, and in turn affect his mental functioning.
A recent test of folic acid's influence on cardiovascular disease, however, found that in people with high homocysteine levels, the vitamin didn't help prevent thickening of the arteries (see Reuters Health report of April 13, 2011).
Walker said it will be important to test whether other groups of people, especially those older than the people who participated in this study, could also benefit from taking the supplements.
SOURCE: http://bit.ly/yyx6YW American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, online December 14, 2011.
Saturday, January 7, 2012
An Authentic Request
On this beautiful Saturday, it can't possibly be a January Day. Sixty60Degrees. Sunny. Slightly Breezy. It Can't Be Winter! A year ago, I was waist high in snow...loving every moment of it as well...
How will I spend this Saturday?
I Want, so Desperately want an outing out on the East End...I Love Wine Country Long Island.
From the friendly folk to their tasty wine...The Scenery. The Food. The Comfort.
If LeAnne Agrees, then I am Destined for my Trip.
A Trip that will take me to...Oh I don't know, some unexplored area out there (with just as many known treasures)...Heaven truly is Here and Now...
How will I spend this Saturday?
I Want, so Desperately want an outing out on the East End...I Love Wine Country Long Island.
From the friendly folk to their tasty wine...The Scenery. The Food. The Comfort.
If LeAnne Agrees, then I am Destined for my Trip.
A Trip that will take me to...Oh I don't know, some unexplored area out there (with just as many known treasures)...Heaven truly is Here and Now...
Authentic...she lurks these waters...
She is Lonely in her Heart and Mind
Harps on her Past, Ponders her Present, wonders of her Future
She Sits and dwells...
Unaware of how to react to her emotions
Fierce. Explosive. Fearsome. Furious. Violent...yet Profound. But always unexpected, and just as Unpredictable!
She's Lost, with disorganized Passion...
Spiraling out of control
How and what...its all happening around her...
She's Spread thin...shared with so many...
She would rather not talk about it...she hopes it will dissolve with time...
She, just like everyone else...Authentic and looking for answers...Close your eyes Baby Girl, I'll wake you with your answers...If I Have them...
Thursday, January 5, 2012
Men and Fidelity
Is Monogamy a natural practice for humans?
Oddly enough, monogamy better suits males then females...primarily because is increases the probability that men find mates. Truth of the matter, females would have an easier time finding multiple mates...hence, making it harder for the remaing males in their search. Nonetheless, it seems as if that men have a harder time maintaining a loyal status within their relationships. I completely understand why. Throughout nature, the male species continually assumes that instinctual drive to proliferate their genetic information within their gene pool. An unsatiated thirst...all of Natures male species have that drive. If you examine the whole principle of that genetic drive to fill the gene pool...as being nature's way of ENSURING the survival of the species (the strong shall survive, yes?). One can only hope!
So
Why
Is it
That
Monogamy is failing men
Not only is it failing them, but it's a "socially compelled sexual incarceration" that can lead to a life of anger and contempt, or so says Eric Anderson, an American sociologist at England's University of Winchester and author of the provocative new book, The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating.
Cheating, however, serves men pretty well. An undiscovered affair allows them to keep their relationship and emotional intimacy, and even if they're busted it's a lot easier than admitting that they wanted to screw someone else in the first place, he writes.
In his study of 120 undergraduate men, 78 percent of those who had a partner cheated, "even though they said that they loved and intended to stay with their partner." Contrary to what we may think, most men aren't cheating because they don't love their partner, he says; they cheat because they just want to have sex with others. And society shouldn't pooh-pooh that.
Monogamy's stronghold on our beliefs -- what he calls monogamism -- brings ostracism and judgment to anyone who questions or strays from its boundaries. That doesn't make sense to Anderson, who wonders why we stigmatize someone who has a fling more than couples who divorce -- throwing away a marriage rich in history and love, upsetting their kids' lives -- over something like sex.
Monogamy isn't the only "proper" way to be in a relationship, and he says it's time that society finds "multiple forms of acceptable sexual relationship types -- including sexually open relationships -- that coexist without hierarchy or hegemony." It's especially important for today's young men, for whom monogamous sex seems more boring than in generations past because of easy premarital sex and pornography.
Dr. Anderson was kind enough to answer my questions by email:
Your study includes just 120 undergraduate men, straight and gay; isn't that too small a sample to really know what's going on for men?
If I were attempting to determine what percent of men cheat, then, yes. Large-scale surveys show us that cheating remains the norm... I wanted to examine the very notion of monogamy, not morally, but rationally. I wanted to know why men want monogamy but nonetheless cheat.
You say men want to be emotionally monogamous, but their "body craves sex with other people somatically." People crave food, drugs, booze, sometimes to disastrous results. If there can be self-control with other cravings, why can't men control their body urges?
Humans are largely lousy at controlling our bodies' desires. We say we don't want to eat that Snickers bar, but we also really do want to eat it. We eat it, we feel guilty about it, and afterwards we promise ourselves not to eat one again; but we nonetheless do. It is this same phenomenon, only with cheating, that I explore.
The men in your study experienced a sharp decrease in the frequency and enjoyment of sex after two monogamous years. Since no one can sustain the kind of thrilling sex couples have in the beginning of a relationship, isn't it a healthy thing that it decreases?
I wish young men got two years of good sex before it dropped off; it's a lot less than that! It may, however, be good that the sexual desire for one's partner weans; it means that we end up staying with our long-term partners for the socioemotional connection and not for the sex. If a couple is going to raise a family, it is the emotional connection that counts, not the sexual.
Our physical desires don't die; they just change from our partner to people other than him/her. We falsely believe that when the sex dies, the relationship has also died. The reality is the opposite; when the sex dies the relationship has just begun.
What about the idea that long-term relationships make sex become deeper, more intimate and more meaningful?
The diminution of sex is simultaneous to one's emotional bonds growing stronger. Long-term partners may have more intimate sex (most just have very little) but when men see a guy or girl who turns them on, it's not intimate and meaningful sex they are craving.
Honesty is a huge part of a relationship. How good a relationship can one have when there's deception, especially since you say after men cheat spontaneously, they are more likely to plan cheating?
Honesty is good sometimes, and horrible other times. There are good reasons to lie; it is an essential skill for keeping community and relationship peace. The reason men lie about cheating is mostly because they know that if they ask for permission to have recreational sex: 1) they will be denied 2) after they are denied, they will be subject to scrutiny and increased relationship policing; 3) they will be stigmatized as immoral, and most likely broken up with. Thus, honesty doesn't meet their desires of having both a long-term partner and recreational sex with others.
The way cheating men see it, it's either cheat or don't cheat, but telling their partners they want sex outside the relationship, or telling their partners that they actually cheated, is viewed as a surefire way of achieving relationship termination. When men cheat for recreational sex -- not affairs -- they DO love their partners. If they didn't, they would break up with them.
Wouldn't it be less harmful to relationships if we became serial monogamists -- marrying two, three or four times as our sexual needs change?
Rather than marrying 20 times or more in one's life via serial monogamy, we can keep one emotional lover and just have casual, meaningless -- and hot -- sex with strangers. This gives us the long-term emotional stability we desire psychologically, alongside the hot, carnal sex we desire somatically. It makes much more sense than lying and cheating , or the difficulty of breaking up with a loved one simply because you want someone else's body for an hour.
Infidelity breaks up many marriages, but often it isn't the act of sex that's so upsetting -- it's the deception and lying, clearly problematic for the emotional intimacy you say men want. So cheating for sex may be "just about the sex" for him, but not for his partner.
Infidelity does not break marriages up; it is the unreasonable expectation that a marriage must restrict sex that breaks a marriage up. One of the reasons I wrote the book is that I've seen so many long-term relationships broken up simply because one had sex outside the relationship. But feeling victimized isn't a natural outcome of casual sex outside a relationship; it is a socialized victimhood. I'm not advocating cheating; I'm advocating open and equitable sexual relationships. When both in the couple desire this, when both realize that extradyadic sex makes their partner happy, and they therefore want their partner to have that sex, a couple will have moved a long ways toward facilitating emotional honesty, while simultaneously withering at jealousy scripts, which can be very damaging to a relationship. But if one can't achieve this with a partner that's hostile to the idea, cheating is the reasonable action.
Most of the men in your study were OK with sex on the side for them, but not their girlfriends. That seems unfair and incredibly selfish.
Monogamy is culturally compelled, so the decision has been made for us. How much of a chance would a man stand to have a second date if on the first date he said that he was interested in an open relationship? At the point men enter into relationships they, too, think they want monogamy. It's only after being in a relationship for months or years that they badly want sex with others. But by this point, they don't want to break up with their partners because they have long-standing love. Instead of chancing that love by asking for extradyadic sex, they cheat. If they don't get caught (and most don't) it's a rational choice.
But it is indeed selfish for men to want sex with others but not to want their partners to do the same. This however is not just a "man" thing. Women also cheat; they also lie about it; and they also want to be able to cheat without their partners doing the same. Monogamy is a problem for all sexes; it builds in an ownership script regardless of gender.
You say love is a "long-standing sense of security and comfort." So, wouldn't open relationships potentially pose a threat to that security since, even if couples play by their own sexual rules, there's always a chance one could end up preferring a new lover over one's partner?
People in open relationships structure their engagements as to reduce emotional intimacy. But, yes, of course it can happen. What I find from those in open relationships, however, is that once they have had sex with that person they fancied, they tend to get over them.
If we really want to prevent our lovers from developing the lust of others, or worse, emotional intimacy with others; if we really want to prevent men and women from cheating, we would be best to sex-segregate our jobs, our classrooms and social arenas, too. Emotional intimacy is the real threat to a relationship, not a one-off hour with a stranger from Craigslist. Ultimately, there are no guarantees that one's partner won't find love elsewhere. But controlling one's partner to prevent it only makes matters worse -- it makes them want to leave you. A better strategy is to be open, emotionally and perhaps sexually, too.
This article comes via Blogger Vicki Larson
And if I may be allowed to add my two cents to this
In order for men (as a general whole) to be successful in carrying on multiple relationships...the overall population ratio needs to be overly favored toward the female count. If the ratio of men to women is somewhat even...then the females can afford to be the selective ones.
One last penny for my thought. If prostitution was legal, monogamy may not even a debated issue. Two cents and a penny...I feel shortchanged!
Oddly enough, monogamy better suits males then females...primarily because is increases the probability that men find mates. Truth of the matter, females would have an easier time finding multiple mates...hence, making it harder for the remaing males in their search. Nonetheless, it seems as if that men have a harder time maintaining a loyal status within their relationships. I completely understand why. Throughout nature, the male species continually assumes that instinctual drive to proliferate their genetic information within their gene pool. An unsatiated thirst...all of Natures male species have that drive. If you examine the whole principle of that genetic drive to fill the gene pool...as being nature's way of ENSURING the survival of the species (the strong shall survive, yes?). One can only hope!
So
Why
Is it
That
Monogamy is failing men
Not only is it failing them, but it's a "socially compelled sexual incarceration" that can lead to a life of anger and contempt, or so says Eric Anderson, an American sociologist at England's University of Winchester and author of the provocative new book, The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating.
Cheating, however, serves men pretty well. An undiscovered affair allows them to keep their relationship and emotional intimacy, and even if they're busted it's a lot easier than admitting that they wanted to screw someone else in the first place, he writes.
In his study of 120 undergraduate men, 78 percent of those who had a partner cheated, "even though they said that they loved and intended to stay with their partner." Contrary to what we may think, most men aren't cheating because they don't love their partner, he says; they cheat because they just want to have sex with others. And society shouldn't pooh-pooh that.
Monogamy's stronghold on our beliefs -- what he calls monogamism -- brings ostracism and judgment to anyone who questions or strays from its boundaries. That doesn't make sense to Anderson, who wonders why we stigmatize someone who has a fling more than couples who divorce -- throwing away a marriage rich in history and love, upsetting their kids' lives -- over something like sex.
Monogamy isn't the only "proper" way to be in a relationship, and he says it's time that society finds "multiple forms of acceptable sexual relationship types -- including sexually open relationships -- that coexist without hierarchy or hegemony." It's especially important for today's young men, for whom monogamous sex seems more boring than in generations past because of easy premarital sex and pornography.
Dr. Anderson was kind enough to answer my questions by email:
Your study includes just 120 undergraduate men, straight and gay; isn't that too small a sample to really know what's going on for men?
If I were attempting to determine what percent of men cheat, then, yes. Large-scale surveys show us that cheating remains the norm... I wanted to examine the very notion of monogamy, not morally, but rationally. I wanted to know why men want monogamy but nonetheless cheat.
You say men want to be emotionally monogamous, but their "body craves sex with other people somatically." People crave food, drugs, booze, sometimes to disastrous results. If there can be self-control with other cravings, why can't men control their body urges?
Humans are largely lousy at controlling our bodies' desires. We say we don't want to eat that Snickers bar, but we also really do want to eat it. We eat it, we feel guilty about it, and afterwards we promise ourselves not to eat one again; but we nonetheless do. It is this same phenomenon, only with cheating, that I explore.
The men in your study experienced a sharp decrease in the frequency and enjoyment of sex after two monogamous years. Since no one can sustain the kind of thrilling sex couples have in the beginning of a relationship, isn't it a healthy thing that it decreases?
I wish young men got two years of good sex before it dropped off; it's a lot less than that! It may, however, be good that the sexual desire for one's partner weans; it means that we end up staying with our long-term partners for the socioemotional connection and not for the sex. If a couple is going to raise a family, it is the emotional connection that counts, not the sexual.
Our physical desires don't die; they just change from our partner to people other than him/her. We falsely believe that when the sex dies, the relationship has also died. The reality is the opposite; when the sex dies the relationship has just begun.
What about the idea that long-term relationships make sex become deeper, more intimate and more meaningful?
The diminution of sex is simultaneous to one's emotional bonds growing stronger. Long-term partners may have more intimate sex (most just have very little) but when men see a guy or girl who turns them on, it's not intimate and meaningful sex they are craving.
Honesty is a huge part of a relationship. How good a relationship can one have when there's deception, especially since you say after men cheat spontaneously, they are more likely to plan cheating?
Honesty is good sometimes, and horrible other times. There are good reasons to lie; it is an essential skill for keeping community and relationship peace. The reason men lie about cheating is mostly because they know that if they ask for permission to have recreational sex: 1) they will be denied 2) after they are denied, they will be subject to scrutiny and increased relationship policing; 3) they will be stigmatized as immoral, and most likely broken up with. Thus, honesty doesn't meet their desires of having both a long-term partner and recreational sex with others.
The way cheating men see it, it's either cheat or don't cheat, but telling their partners they want sex outside the relationship, or telling their partners that they actually cheated, is viewed as a surefire way of achieving relationship termination. When men cheat for recreational sex -- not affairs -- they DO love their partners. If they didn't, they would break up with them.
Wouldn't it be less harmful to relationships if we became serial monogamists -- marrying two, three or four times as our sexual needs change?
Rather than marrying 20 times or more in one's life via serial monogamy, we can keep one emotional lover and just have casual, meaningless -- and hot -- sex with strangers. This gives us the long-term emotional stability we desire psychologically, alongside the hot, carnal sex we desire somatically. It makes much more sense than lying and cheating , or the difficulty of breaking up with a loved one simply because you want someone else's body for an hour.
Infidelity breaks up many marriages, but often it isn't the act of sex that's so upsetting -- it's the deception and lying, clearly problematic for the emotional intimacy you say men want. So cheating for sex may be "just about the sex" for him, but not for his partner.
Infidelity does not break marriages up; it is the unreasonable expectation that a marriage must restrict sex that breaks a marriage up. One of the reasons I wrote the book is that I've seen so many long-term relationships broken up simply because one had sex outside the relationship. But feeling victimized isn't a natural outcome of casual sex outside a relationship; it is a socialized victimhood. I'm not advocating cheating; I'm advocating open and equitable sexual relationships. When both in the couple desire this, when both realize that extradyadic sex makes their partner happy, and they therefore want their partner to have that sex, a couple will have moved a long ways toward facilitating emotional honesty, while simultaneously withering at jealousy scripts, which can be very damaging to a relationship. But if one can't achieve this with a partner that's hostile to the idea, cheating is the reasonable action.
Most of the men in your study were OK with sex on the side for them, but not their girlfriends. That seems unfair and incredibly selfish.
Monogamy is culturally compelled, so the decision has been made for us. How much of a chance would a man stand to have a second date if on the first date he said that he was interested in an open relationship? At the point men enter into relationships they, too, think they want monogamy. It's only after being in a relationship for months or years that they badly want sex with others. But by this point, they don't want to break up with their partners because they have long-standing love. Instead of chancing that love by asking for extradyadic sex, they cheat. If they don't get caught (and most don't) it's a rational choice.
But it is indeed selfish for men to want sex with others but not to want their partners to do the same. This however is not just a "man" thing. Women also cheat; they also lie about it; and they also want to be able to cheat without their partners doing the same. Monogamy is a problem for all sexes; it builds in an ownership script regardless of gender.
You say love is a "long-standing sense of security and comfort." So, wouldn't open relationships potentially pose a threat to that security since, even if couples play by their own sexual rules, there's always a chance one could end up preferring a new lover over one's partner?
People in open relationships structure their engagements as to reduce emotional intimacy. But, yes, of course it can happen. What I find from those in open relationships, however, is that once they have had sex with that person they fancied, they tend to get over them.
If we really want to prevent our lovers from developing the lust of others, or worse, emotional intimacy with others; if we really want to prevent men and women from cheating, we would be best to sex-segregate our jobs, our classrooms and social arenas, too. Emotional intimacy is the real threat to a relationship, not a one-off hour with a stranger from Craigslist. Ultimately, there are no guarantees that one's partner won't find love elsewhere. But controlling one's partner to prevent it only makes matters worse -- it makes them want to leave you. A better strategy is to be open, emotionally and perhaps sexually, too.
This article comes via Blogger Vicki Larson
And if I may be allowed to add my two cents to this
In order for men (as a general whole) to be successful in carrying on multiple relationships...the overall population ratio needs to be overly favored toward the female count. If the ratio of men to women is somewhat even...then the females can afford to be the selective ones.
One last penny for my thought. If prostitution was legal, monogamy may not even a debated issue. Two cents and a penny...I feel shortchanged!
Wednesday, January 4, 2012
Death by Snoring
You heard me right...You snore, You Die. Because your bedmate will Kill You...at least visualize it once! Anyhow, you know find some one special if their night time snoring (or lack of) is a non-issue for you...but, for everyone else...something can be done short of death!
Have you been suffering from mysterious headaches? Are you tired, in the middle of the day—for no reason at all? Are your loved ones complaining that you’re especially irritable or moody?
Amazingly, the root of all these problems may just be your snoring. And unfortunately, snoring may be the sign of a whole range of other, more serious health problems.
Snoring—besides being bothersome to your bedmate—is a common symptom of obstructive sleep apnea. This condition, also known as OSA, actually causes you to stop breathing while you sleep; and often hundreds, if not thousands of times per night.
This halt in breathing occurs when your tongue, throat and jaw muscles relax, which then cause your airway to be blocked. When breathing stops, the body reacts with a momentary spike in blood pressure. Because these jagged halts in breathing can occur hundreds of times nightly, the effects are multiplied—and truly dangerous.
As a result, OSA has been proven to cause a range of serious health problems, including:
• Heart attacks
• Hypertension
• Heart disease and plaque buildup
• Strokes
• Depression
• Diabetes
Unfortunately, diagnosis and treatment for OSA is often overly expensive, ineffective—or both. Because they are conducted by licensed sleep centers, they involve an overnight stay, which is obviously very time-consuming.
Mouthpieces are a common treatment for snoring, as well. However, some of these mouthpieces jam the jaw shut, which can feel uncomfortable, and cut into sleep. Additionally, many of these mouthpieces require that you boil them so that the material softens to better fit your mouth—a lot of hassle, for too-little gain.
For many people snoring is a serious health issue and can have grave implications including chronic fatigue, high blood pressure, weight gain, heart failure and stroke. But there is help. Recent studies have shown that wearing a jaw supporter during sleep time can effectively treat snoring and sleep apnea. Recently, a clinical trial conducted at the Kochi Hospital in Japan demonstrated how a chinstrap alone improved obstructive sleep apnea and snoring.
Laugh and the world laughs with you...Snore, and you sleep Alone!
Have you been suffering from mysterious headaches? Are you tired, in the middle of the day—for no reason at all? Are your loved ones complaining that you’re especially irritable or moody?
Amazingly, the root of all these problems may just be your snoring. And unfortunately, snoring may be the sign of a whole range of other, more serious health problems.
Snoring—besides being bothersome to your bedmate—is a common symptom of obstructive sleep apnea. This condition, also known as OSA, actually causes you to stop breathing while you sleep; and often hundreds, if not thousands of times per night.
This halt in breathing occurs when your tongue, throat and jaw muscles relax, which then cause your airway to be blocked. When breathing stops, the body reacts with a momentary spike in blood pressure. Because these jagged halts in breathing can occur hundreds of times nightly, the effects are multiplied—and truly dangerous.
As a result, OSA has been proven to cause a range of serious health problems, including:
• Heart attacks
• Hypertension
• Heart disease and plaque buildup
• Strokes
• Depression
• Diabetes
Unfortunately, diagnosis and treatment for OSA is often overly expensive, ineffective—or both. Because they are conducted by licensed sleep centers, they involve an overnight stay, which is obviously very time-consuming.
Mouthpieces are a common treatment for snoring, as well. However, some of these mouthpieces jam the jaw shut, which can feel uncomfortable, and cut into sleep. Additionally, many of these mouthpieces require that you boil them so that the material softens to better fit your mouth—a lot of hassle, for too-little gain.
For many people snoring is a serious health issue and can have grave implications including chronic fatigue, high blood pressure, weight gain, heart failure and stroke. But there is help. Recent studies have shown that wearing a jaw supporter during sleep time can effectively treat snoring and sleep apnea. Recently, a clinical trial conducted at the Kochi Hospital in Japan demonstrated how a chinstrap alone improved obstructive sleep apnea and snoring.
Laugh and the world laughs with you...Snore, and you sleep Alone!
Tuesday, January 3, 2012
How to Create More Meaningful Relationships
ONE) Be a Friend First!
Know how to Give, rather than receieve
2) Identify Who you Want to build an Authentic Relationship with
The BEST connections Happen when...
there are Similar Conscious Levels and Values
III) Create Opportunities to Know Each Other*
Take the FIRST Step...no need to wait!
Quatro) Get to KNOW them
as opposed to hear of their Superficial Interests
(the former builds real friendships...the later, only shallow connections)
(V) Acknowledge the Posi+ives...avoid focusing on the Nega-ives
(see to find Beauty, not the unsightly)
Six...Share your Life with THEM...give them a chance to know YOU
Se7en Build Trust First!!! Nothing can happen without it!!!
VIII. Bring them in, even in Down Times
Allow for Vulnerability
Nine) Be THERE for THEM when they NEED you
Support
Empathize
Understand
without Judgement
and
NEVER Impose
10) Focus on those that reciprocate your Efforts
For They are Worth their weight in Gold and More(+)
Know how to Give, rather than receieve
2) Identify Who you Want to build an Authentic Relationship with
The BEST connections Happen when...
there are Similar Conscious Levels and Values
III) Create Opportunities to Know Each Other*
Take the FIRST Step...no need to wait!
Quatro) Get to KNOW them
as opposed to hear of their Superficial Interests
(the former builds real friendships...the later, only shallow connections)
(V) Acknowledge the Posi+ives...avoid focusing on the Nega-ives
(see to find Beauty, not the unsightly)
Six...Share your Life with THEM...give them a chance to know YOU
Se7en Build Trust First!!! Nothing can happen without it!!!
VIII. Bring them in, even in Down Times
Allow for Vulnerability
Nine) Be THERE for THEM when they NEED you
Support
Empathize
Understand
without Judgement
and
NEVER Impose
10) Focus on those that reciprocate your Efforts
For They are Worth their weight in Gold and More(+)
The BIG Secret
Not the sexiest of stories...scores much higher with an eye bordering on the obnoxious. With temperatures creeping towards freezing, I heard a thump and felt a drag on the front driver side wheel. The vehicle, an unglamourous PT Cruiser...about as sexy as Phyllis Diller showcasing her stuff in a Caberet Show...Yum and Delicious with a violent stomache virus...
Since my car is on Sabatical (until today of course), I examine the flat wheel...Great, another flat tire...one of many to grace my presence...
I thrust the Key into its portal in the hatchback-like trunk region...the door is jammed. Not in the mood for any complications, I rev my shoulder and arm muscles...and without hesitation I roar this trunk door straight Up
RIP
CRUNCH
OUCH, the car tells me
The Door is open, but won't remain Open...Great, the car's undesireable offensive continues...
The Trunk area is saturated with "Stuff".
Old Drinks, pillows, blankets, clothes...even an unassembled beach chair...but, at least I found a LARGE plastic bag to place all these ungodly items into.
Its Getting so cold out, and I am in shorts and a thin Sweatshirt...
Inspecting the trunk area, I see absolutely no visible compartment where a spare tire might be hibernating...
Whats the word of the day?
Repulsive, Revolting...just plain ole Obnoxious!
Wait, I find a side wall compartment...in there lies a dissassembled Three Spin Jack...Step One Done, first tool found. I try to rip off the Trunk floor, I better not ruin someone elses car...so I stop trying to be the brute that I am capable of.
Tucked away, close to the trunk lock, I find a small three by two plastic lid...its concealing a nut...its locking something in place. I use half the Jack, and Jimmy the Nut...out drops a tire from undrneath the car...
Step Two, done...spare found!
I Jack the car up, remove the Lug Nuts from the wheel...Problem Number Three...
If there is a God, then God wants Chevy to be nightmarishly Vile with their unnecessary fancy designs. The Wheel is locked onto the car via some sort of Bobby Pin snaked through its center...its contorted shape ensures that it will remain Jammed in their...in essence,locking it. With Poor light,I start to hammer, bend and twist this mini steel Bobby Pin.
By this point my hands are black with grease, slight flavored with red, as blood gentlely tricks down my fingers...do to the friction of the job coupled with the cold, my flesh exposes RED...
Whats the word of the day again?
With a little light help from two good Samaritans...one man with a flashlight and another with a tool box, I finally pry out this much needed "lock"...
Thank you very much...
Forty Five minutes later, I am pouring gas into the PT Cruiser...looking forward, to just getting out of my predicament...and straight to where I belong.
The Deed is done, and all I have Is just one more day...if I can stand it.
I arrive home, do my routine...off to sleep I go...
The PT Cruiser and its BIG SECRET WHEEL!
My advice to you, Do NOT Purchase a PT Cruiser!
P.S.
Driving to Work this morning I observed something that really bothered me. At about five to five, a.m., this morning I witnessed two boys on the side of Nichols Road. For anyone who does not know Nichols Road, its a county road that has claimed many lives since its inception...its a dangerous road. The younger boy looked no older then Nine, the older may have been as young as Twelve. Do you think that their parents know that they were on a dangerous road so early in the morning? I hope their plight is innocent, and that the children do not have real problems that they are running from...five in the morning. I would have stopped to offer help, but I would have only startled them. I guess the best I can do now,is pray that they find their way! Most people that probably observed them early this morning (not that there were many), I bet never even bothered to notice how out of place they were. Too many people walk around in a self contained bubble, selfishly filled with insignificant nonesense...
Be Mindful of what is Around you!
Since my car is on Sabatical (until today of course), I examine the flat wheel...Great, another flat tire...one of many to grace my presence...
I thrust the Key into its portal in the hatchback-like trunk region...the door is jammed. Not in the mood for any complications, I rev my shoulder and arm muscles...and without hesitation I roar this trunk door straight Up
RIP
CRUNCH
OUCH, the car tells me
The Door is open, but won't remain Open...Great, the car's undesireable offensive continues...
The Trunk area is saturated with "Stuff".
Old Drinks, pillows, blankets, clothes...even an unassembled beach chair...but, at least I found a LARGE plastic bag to place all these ungodly items into.
Its Getting so cold out, and I am in shorts and a thin Sweatshirt...
Inspecting the trunk area, I see absolutely no visible compartment where a spare tire might be hibernating...
Whats the word of the day?
Repulsive, Revolting...just plain ole Obnoxious!
Wait, I find a side wall compartment...in there lies a dissassembled Three Spin Jack...Step One Done, first tool found. I try to rip off the Trunk floor, I better not ruin someone elses car...so I stop trying to be the brute that I am capable of.
Tucked away, close to the trunk lock, I find a small three by two plastic lid...its concealing a nut...its locking something in place. I use half the Jack, and Jimmy the Nut...out drops a tire from undrneath the car...
Step Two, done...spare found!
I Jack the car up, remove the Lug Nuts from the wheel...Problem Number Three...
If there is a God, then God wants Chevy to be nightmarishly Vile with their unnecessary fancy designs. The Wheel is locked onto the car via some sort of Bobby Pin snaked through its center...its contorted shape ensures that it will remain Jammed in their...in essence,locking it. With Poor light,I start to hammer, bend and twist this mini steel Bobby Pin.
By this point my hands are black with grease, slight flavored with red, as blood gentlely tricks down my fingers...do to the friction of the job coupled with the cold, my flesh exposes RED...
Whats the word of the day again?
With a little light help from two good Samaritans...one man with a flashlight and another with a tool box, I finally pry out this much needed "lock"...
Thank you very much...
Forty Five minutes later, I am pouring gas into the PT Cruiser...looking forward, to just getting out of my predicament...and straight to where I belong.
The Deed is done, and all I have Is just one more day...if I can stand it.
I arrive home, do my routine...off to sleep I go...
The PT Cruiser and its BIG SECRET WHEEL!
My advice to you, Do NOT Purchase a PT Cruiser!
P.S.
Driving to Work this morning I observed something that really bothered me. At about five to five, a.m., this morning I witnessed two boys on the side of Nichols Road. For anyone who does not know Nichols Road, its a county road that has claimed many lives since its inception...its a dangerous road. The younger boy looked no older then Nine, the older may have been as young as Twelve. Do you think that their parents know that they were on a dangerous road so early in the morning? I hope their plight is innocent, and that the children do not have real problems that they are running from...five in the morning. I would have stopped to offer help, but I would have only startled them. I guess the best I can do now,is pray that they find their way! Most people that probably observed them early this morning (not that there were many), I bet never even bothered to notice how out of place they were. Too many people walk around in a self contained bubble, selfishly filled with insignificant nonesense...
Be Mindful of what is Around you!
Monday, January 2, 2012
FYE
As in Entertainment
Work & Money
The year ahead is all about building and innovation. With the economy in disrepair and Occupy Wall Street marching on, it's clear that we need some better strategies. Expansive Jupiter spends the first half of 2012 in Taurus, the sign of work, money and financial planning. Remember when the dot-com bubble burst back in 1999-2000? That's the last time Jupiter was in Taurus. Having risk-taker Jupiter in risk-averse Taurus is an odd paradox that requires balance. We'll need to be "cautiously optimistic" and take "calculated risks" between January and June. Look before you leap and keep a budget. Consider multiple streams of income or freelance work for an extra boost.
On June 11, Jupiter moves into Gemini, the sign of communication, for a year. Media, electronics, apps and all things digital will become even more prominent. This could be the year that a true "all-in-one" device or solution hits the market -- beyond what's already out there. Because Jupiter rules all things cross-cultural and international, outsourcing overseas can cut costs for companies. Learning a foreign language can pump up your job prospects. That doesn't just mean Spanish or Swahili. Computer languages like PHP, CSS and HTML could be useful additions to your lexicon.
Another reason to get tech-savvy? Innovative Uranus, ruler of electronics, is in Aries, the sign of new ideas, from 2011-2018. (Uranus was last here in the 1930s, when the radio was invented.) Aries is the sign of the solo ventures and self-promotion. Market yourself with a website, online video and social media. Brush up your skills with distance learning and online courses. Aries is ruled by Mars, the red planet, which scientists believe could someday sustain human life. In 2012, we may see more discoveries like this.
The way we spend, save, build and use resources is also going through a long, gradual overhaul. Pluto, the planet of radical transformation, is in Capricorn from 2008-2024. Capricorn rules governments, banks, institutions, the economy and large hierarchies. Pluto entered Capricorn in November 2008. During this cycle, parts of the world economy have collapsed. Corrupt governments have fallen, and we've seen the capture and execution of Osama bin Laden and Muammar Gaddafi. Pluto's mandate: rebuild on a more conscious, sustainable foundation. In 2012, we can no longer prioritize profit at the expense of the planet and humanity.
Love & Relationships
Forget what the fairy tales told you. The knight on the white horse isn't coming, and that damsel isn't REALLY in distress. Love has taken a more serious (and less romantic) turn in the past three years, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Since October 2009, tough teacher Saturn has been visiting Libra, the sign of marriage and committed relationships. Saturn forces us to slow down and evaluate our choices, and to learn what a long-term commitment really requires.
While it may not have been the most exciting or romantic time, our cultural notions of love are becoming more realistic. Case in point: the spectacular crash of Kim Kardashian's 72-day "fairy-tale wedding" (as the E! special was titled). Stern Saturn gave Kim -- and the rest of the world -- a wakeup call about rushing into marriage. Relationships take hard work (a Saturn specialty), but the long-term payoff is a union that's built to last. Libra is the planet of justice, and during this Saturn cycle, same-sex marriage was legalized in many states. We can expect to see more marriage equality activism happening while Saturn visits Libra through Oct. 5, 2012.
Health & Wellness
Holistic healing, Eastern medicine and energy work have gained a following, but they're still far from mainstream. That could change in 2012. On Feb. 3, healing Neptune begins a 14-year visit to its home sign of Pisces, which rules all things spiritual and "new age." Doctors may begin shifting toward complementary or integrative medicine, acknowledging the benefits of treatments like Reiki or acupuncture.
While lucky Jupiter visits practical Taurus until June 11, we should strive toward healthy habits and consistent routines, like eating, sleeping and rising at the same time each day. Taurus is an earth sign, so this would be a great year to eat locally, plant a community garden or join a food cooperative. In June, Jupiter moves into Gemini, ruler of transportation. Urban areas will build more bike lanes and walkways, encouraging us to stay active and fit. This is the perfect year for bicycles, skateboards, scooters, roller skates... anything on wheels that doesn't require a gas tank.
When structured Saturn enters Scorpio from Oct. 5, 2012-2015, issues of life, death and mind-body connection will become prominent. Scorpio rules immortality, and we'll see new findings on longevity. As our population lives longer, we may also need to deal with economic or resource shortages, and to create new structures that make "old age" a better experience. The age of retirement will continue to rise. Scorpio rules both birth and death. Sexual and reproductive health may become major issues during this time, and we may see hospitals closing or restructuring. With energizing Mars in Virgo, the health sign, until July 3, we could see new strides in medicine, science and the impact of diet on our lifespan.
The last time Saturn was in Scorpio was in the early 1980s, during the AIDS crisis. Saturn is the tough teacher, and Scorpio rules sex, addictions and blood. No surprise this disease was spread mostly through unprotected sex, blood transfusions and infected needles. Hopefully we've learned important lessons from that terrible time, and that this Saturn cycle will bring us the more evolved version of Scorpio energy. Perhaps we'll see a cure for AIDS, cancer and other fatal diseases.
Family
All for one, and one for all. For the last couple years, we've been gradually shifting toward a more cooperative lifestyle. Saturn in Libra, the sign of partnership, is helping us to build new structures and share resources. Saturn is here until Oct. 5, 2012. We may see a rise in communal living situations as families crave more connection on tighter schedules and budgets. This could, for example, mean housing developments with a shared dining hall or restaurant courtyard, multi-family homes with round-robin childcare, flexible office space with on-site daycare, and even premium home schooling offered by unemployed teachers. Pulling together and adding everyone's talents to the mix can solve a lot of shortages, helping us maintain quality of life on a budget.
2012: The End of the World As We Know It?
Much has been written about 2012, especially Hollywood tales of "the end of the world." Relax, everyone -- the earth will still be humming along by next New Year's Eve. The 2012 legend is really about a bigger energetic shift, which has been taking place in the past few years. Thanks to the Internet and social media, people have access to new ideas at lightning speed -- and geography is no longer the barrier to connecting that it once was. Although stats show that less than 30 percent of the world has Internet access, technology is still helping us exchange ideas about community, spirituality, art, politics and making the world a better place for all.
By
Tali and Ophira Edut
Work & Money
The year ahead is all about building and innovation. With the economy in disrepair and Occupy Wall Street marching on, it's clear that we need some better strategies. Expansive Jupiter spends the first half of 2012 in Taurus, the sign of work, money and financial planning. Remember when the dot-com bubble burst back in 1999-2000? That's the last time Jupiter was in Taurus. Having risk-taker Jupiter in risk-averse Taurus is an odd paradox that requires balance. We'll need to be "cautiously optimistic" and take "calculated risks" between January and June. Look before you leap and keep a budget. Consider multiple streams of income or freelance work for an extra boost.
On June 11, Jupiter moves into Gemini, the sign of communication, for a year. Media, electronics, apps and all things digital will become even more prominent. This could be the year that a true "all-in-one" device or solution hits the market -- beyond what's already out there. Because Jupiter rules all things cross-cultural and international, outsourcing overseas can cut costs for companies. Learning a foreign language can pump up your job prospects. That doesn't just mean Spanish or Swahili. Computer languages like PHP, CSS and HTML could be useful additions to your lexicon.
Another reason to get tech-savvy? Innovative Uranus, ruler of electronics, is in Aries, the sign of new ideas, from 2011-2018. (Uranus was last here in the 1930s, when the radio was invented.) Aries is the sign of the solo ventures and self-promotion. Market yourself with a website, online video and social media. Brush up your skills with distance learning and online courses. Aries is ruled by Mars, the red planet, which scientists believe could someday sustain human life. In 2012, we may see more discoveries like this.
The way we spend, save, build and use resources is also going through a long, gradual overhaul. Pluto, the planet of radical transformation, is in Capricorn from 2008-2024. Capricorn rules governments, banks, institutions, the economy and large hierarchies. Pluto entered Capricorn in November 2008. During this cycle, parts of the world economy have collapsed. Corrupt governments have fallen, and we've seen the capture and execution of Osama bin Laden and Muammar Gaddafi. Pluto's mandate: rebuild on a more conscious, sustainable foundation. In 2012, we can no longer prioritize profit at the expense of the planet and humanity.
Love & Relationships
Forget what the fairy tales told you. The knight on the white horse isn't coming, and that damsel isn't REALLY in distress. Love has taken a more serious (and less romantic) turn in the past three years, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Since October 2009, tough teacher Saturn has been visiting Libra, the sign of marriage and committed relationships. Saturn forces us to slow down and evaluate our choices, and to learn what a long-term commitment really requires.
While it may not have been the most exciting or romantic time, our cultural notions of love are becoming more realistic. Case in point: the spectacular crash of Kim Kardashian's 72-day "fairy-tale wedding" (as the E! special was titled). Stern Saturn gave Kim -- and the rest of the world -- a wakeup call about rushing into marriage. Relationships take hard work (a Saturn specialty), but the long-term payoff is a union that's built to last. Libra is the planet of justice, and during this Saturn cycle, same-sex marriage was legalized in many states. We can expect to see more marriage equality activism happening while Saturn visits Libra through Oct. 5, 2012.
Health & Wellness
Holistic healing, Eastern medicine and energy work have gained a following, but they're still far from mainstream. That could change in 2012. On Feb. 3, healing Neptune begins a 14-year visit to its home sign of Pisces, which rules all things spiritual and "new age." Doctors may begin shifting toward complementary or integrative medicine, acknowledging the benefits of treatments like Reiki or acupuncture.
While lucky Jupiter visits practical Taurus until June 11, we should strive toward healthy habits and consistent routines, like eating, sleeping and rising at the same time each day. Taurus is an earth sign, so this would be a great year to eat locally, plant a community garden or join a food cooperative. In June, Jupiter moves into Gemini, ruler of transportation. Urban areas will build more bike lanes and walkways, encouraging us to stay active and fit. This is the perfect year for bicycles, skateboards, scooters, roller skates... anything on wheels that doesn't require a gas tank.
When structured Saturn enters Scorpio from Oct. 5, 2012-2015, issues of life, death and mind-body connection will become prominent. Scorpio rules immortality, and we'll see new findings on longevity. As our population lives longer, we may also need to deal with economic or resource shortages, and to create new structures that make "old age" a better experience. The age of retirement will continue to rise. Scorpio rules both birth and death. Sexual and reproductive health may become major issues during this time, and we may see hospitals closing or restructuring. With energizing Mars in Virgo, the health sign, until July 3, we could see new strides in medicine, science and the impact of diet on our lifespan.
The last time Saturn was in Scorpio was in the early 1980s, during the AIDS crisis. Saturn is the tough teacher, and Scorpio rules sex, addictions and blood. No surprise this disease was spread mostly through unprotected sex, blood transfusions and infected needles. Hopefully we've learned important lessons from that terrible time, and that this Saturn cycle will bring us the more evolved version of Scorpio energy. Perhaps we'll see a cure for AIDS, cancer and other fatal diseases.
Family
All for one, and one for all. For the last couple years, we've been gradually shifting toward a more cooperative lifestyle. Saturn in Libra, the sign of partnership, is helping us to build new structures and share resources. Saturn is here until Oct. 5, 2012. We may see a rise in communal living situations as families crave more connection on tighter schedules and budgets. This could, for example, mean housing developments with a shared dining hall or restaurant courtyard, multi-family homes with round-robin childcare, flexible office space with on-site daycare, and even premium home schooling offered by unemployed teachers. Pulling together and adding everyone's talents to the mix can solve a lot of shortages, helping us maintain quality of life on a budget.
2012: The End of the World As We Know It?
Much has been written about 2012, especially Hollywood tales of "the end of the world." Relax, everyone -- the earth will still be humming along by next New Year's Eve. The 2012 legend is really about a bigger energetic shift, which has been taking place in the past few years. Thanks to the Internet and social media, people have access to new ideas at lightning speed -- and geography is no longer the barrier to connecting that it once was. Although stats show that less than 30 percent of the world has Internet access, technology is still helping us exchange ideas about community, spirituality, art, politics and making the world a better place for all.
By
Tali and Ophira Edut
Sunday, January 1, 2012
Britney Spears did it again
Ooooppppssss!
There she went, played with your heartHow was she supposed to know?
She made you believe,
that the two of you were more
Then Just Friends
...do you feel crushed by that?
Because she was never serious...Sorry!
She got lost in the game,
Did you know even that there was an ongoing game?
She's definitely not in love...nor was she sent from aboveShe's just not that innocent
Her dream
that heroes truly exist
...she cries waiting for her day
Foolish she can't see
But to lose all sense...that is so typical
Of Britney
Even if she only runs at a 5.5
When the rest of the world is hustling at a Seven...
See you around Britney, maybe
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