My blog has been read in over eighty countries, by somewhere in te neighborhood of a hundred thousand people world wide. The most popular engine search that brings readers my way is the question:
When do men emotionally mature?
The answer to that question varies between individuals. The mode (statistical value that occurs most frequently) answer unfortunately is 43 years old. Sorry ladies. On the flip side, the female mode value is 32 years old. Theoretically, the ideal match would be a 43 year old male with a thirty two year old woman. That would be the point in which their emotional maturities would coincide....but again, this is all individually based on other factors such as environment and genetic make up.
Since I am not quite 43 years old....Theoretically, I am not fully emotionally mature based on this mode value. Nonetheless, I feel that I met my emotional maturity quite some time ago when I started to refuse seeking to be enabled by others.
So, with that I present you an article and a seperate link to an second article on male maturity.
Read at ypur leisure. Enjoy!
Have you ever dated a great guy who seems like he’s got “it all together,” only to find out weeks or months later that he’s really more of a boy than a man? If so, you know trying to build a relationship with an emotionally immature guy is like trying to build a house out of cards. Having a fulfilling, honest, loving long-term relationship is hard enough with two grown-ups. If one partner isn’t capable of really showing up, it won’t work
Wouldn’t it be great if you could identify the guys who were mature enough to be a good partner before wasting a bunch of time and getting physically and emotionally involved? So let me ask you. Do you know what an emotionally mature man look like? How does he act? How does he respond to conflict?
Here are 5 telltale signs of an emotionally mature man.
1) He’s Decisive
Have you met guys who just can’t seem to make a decision? They waffle, they stress, they can’t seem to make up their minds. The emotionally mature guy has no problems making decisions about life, relationships and commitments without wavering or stressing out. He’s clear about wanting to be with you and he’s clear about what he wants with a woman and in a relationship. He doesn’t go “hot and cold.”
2) He Takes Responsibility
If you hear a man complaining about things in his life, blaming others and generally experiencing a lack of control, he’s not just unlucky, he’s lacking maturity. The mature man is nobody’s victim. He takes responsibility for his actions. You’ll rarely see him whine, and he doesn’t blame others when things go wrong. Instead he’s in service to making things right.
3) He Has a Higher Purpose
You know those guys who are absolutely passionate about their work or their cause? This is a sign that they’re more emotionally mature than the guys whose lives revolve
solely around themselves. The mature man has a purpose in life greater than himself. If you see that a man is committed to a larger purpose, it’s a safe bet that he’s done “the work.”
4) He Has Close Relationships
The best true signal of how a man will handle his relationship with you is how he relates to others he’s closest to. Look at his relationships. What are his friendships like? Sure he has “buddies,” but does he have intimate friendships? The mature man is comfortable being truly close and open with others in his life.
5) He’s Capable of Expressing Himself
A mature man doesn’t just stuff his feelings down inside. He doesn’t always come right out and say it, but he can explain his feelings, his choices, and his likes and dislikes. If he can’t express what he’s thinking, or gets frustrated, irritated, or mad at you for wanting to communicate and share feelings, then you’re dealing with an emotionally immature man.
The mature man can express what’s going on in his heart and mind without outbursts or withdrawal. If you seem to attract emotionally immature guys, pay attention to the signs of a mature man so you can avoid repeating the pattern.
When you get involved with an immature guy, and try to deal with and make things work with him, your life will get messy and you’ll start acting immature as well. Immaturity is contagious. If you pay attention, you will quickly and easily begin to see the signs of emotional maturity (and also the LACK of those signs) so you can make the best possible choice for yourself.
You deserve a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship with a man who’s ready and willing to do his part in creating a great relationship. He should be able to “show up” with you.
I’ve helped thousands of women – single and in relationships – understand how to identify the RIGHT man and grow a relationship into a loving and lasting love affair.
I’ll talk with you again soon, and Best of luck in Life and in Love.
Article by
Christian Carter
Author of the Book
"Catch Him & Keep Him"
As an added bonus, here is a link to a similar article from the Male perspective on the same topic.
Please read, learn and enjoy!
https://www.majorleaguedating.com/ways-you-are-an-immature-guy-boy-and-not-a-real-man/
