Relationships on any level are the wild card commodities that life offers us all...some of us are apples, some of us might be oranges, a couple of us might taste like pears, i might have even on occasion found a marshmallow or two2. But at the end of the day, we are all unique individuals...and we need to learn how to get along, for the better...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZN5PoW7_kdA
Some days we just need to learn our lessons in ways we never anticipate. Life is filled with teachings...
Saturday, February 5, 2011
Friday, February 4, 2011
Hear and Speak
http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/advice/communication-skills-for-lifelong-relationships1.htm
Everyone has there own way of communicating. Some people are better at it then others. I suppose if you truly wanted to communicate, you eventually find the means to do it. There are two facets of communicating...There is a listening aspect, and There is a Speaking aspect. Both aspects fit like a puzzle. Perfect cohesion. A Ying to the Yang. I wonder, when reason steps forward and reveals thetruth.
Everyone has there own way of communicating. Some people are better at it then others. I suppose if you truly wanted to communicate, you eventually find the means to do it. There are two facets of communicating...There is a listening aspect, and There is a Speaking aspect. Both aspects fit like a puzzle. Perfect cohesion. A Ying to the Yang. I wonder, when reason steps forward and reveals thetruth.
Kind Of Ridiculous
Five5five Vowels, thr3e of which are U's and Oh...its an interesting word ridiculous. Lets not forget the two2 final I'I's...interesting pickle here.
Kathryn had asked me (via text...so you learned your lesson)...
Communication. The common factor why all relationships succeed or fail...Communication. So where are they? You know, the WMD's? Right?
I figured that Kathryn could (or i should say would be) a better, or stronger communicator. She has it in her. Luckily for her i have patience, the perfect compliment to Impulsive behavior. I'm still scratching my heading wondering how and why this all wound up so out of control. Maybe I'll email the liaison.
Kathryn had asked me (via text...so you learned your lesson)...
No Good Deed goes unpunished.
Her reluctance to actually meet face to face and sort out this outrageously ridiculous scenerio is infantile, as well as idiotic. Maybe she is looking for Weapons of Mass Destruction? I probably have those tooWMD's
I have given her ample opportunities to discuss this misunderstanding...Uninterested!NO!
Her favorite phrase. Why exactly? I wonder, at the end of the day, if and when that day comes and the dust settles, and she sorts through the facts would she actually be big enough to admit it? I understand why she's created her distance...she feels its best to cut her losses now, after a potentially mischievous situation. I have repeatedly stated that has been a gross misrepresentation of facts here.Communication. The common factor why all relationships succeed or fail...Communication. So where are they? You know, the WMD's? Right?
I figured that Kathryn could (or i should say would be) a better, or stronger communicator. She has it in her. Luckily for her i have patience, the perfect compliment to Impulsive behavior. I'm still scratching my heading wondering how and why this all wound up so out of control. Maybe I'll email the liaison.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Pegasus of Love
The most evasive chase during the pursuit of personal happiness might just very well be that search for your ideal mate...most people do not even know what their "ideal" mate will be like or where to find them. We look for signs directing us on our paths. Take cues from our surroundings. We all eventually find someone...unfortunately, the majority of the world's relationships end in one way...
www.divorcemag.com/articles/Relationships/staymarried.html
I was at a position where i wasn't so certain...better yet...irrelevant of my feelings, willing to test to see if what i was feeling was legitimate. My conclusion is simple at this point, and i am not merely stating this as a means to wave a white flag...my personality is not one that gives up...but rather, more of a regretful vent. I met a quirky woman, who has a list of oddities as vast as a volume of encyclopedias. She is set in her ways, in constant search of worldly enlightenment. Her endearing curiosity of how the world turns is always a sweet (she would call me sweet) outlook on worldly matters. She takes care of her family, friends, pets and clients with the utmost precision and respect...coupled with a tremendous amount of caring love. Her preference is to quietly sit at home, to read...or sweat...or even watch HBO. A long story short, i found someone whom fit like a puzzle piece with me...could it be that simple? Many people can go en entire lifetime in search for what fell in my lap. If she were sick, i would immediately tend to her care. If she was stuck somewhere, i would be the first to be concerned and willing to make any arrangement necessary to accommodate her well being. Did this make me vulnerable? Maybe just enough to unnecessarily stir the pot! Is this why i sabotaged a budding garden, poisoning it with a vengeful spite of stupidity?
She is reluctant to see me, begrudgingly receiving my text messages and emails...ignoring all but one1one of my calls. My misrepresentation has shut out the one person i should have let in without question. She asked me on Monday if i have learned my lesson...Like a burn scar, sizzled into my fleshy heart. Its a scar i can show her, so she can see with her own 2eyes2. Her defense is distance, and the injustice could be the happiness i may have been able to offer her. This is an ultimate sacrifice...the fact remains now, i will do whatever i have too in order to to convince her that what transpired was nothing but an aberration...who i am is drastically different then who appeared. Will she ever find thetruth. I sure hope so.
What i may need to do tonight, is soar up high and see if i can catch a dragon in the sky...that is what i will need to do to convince her of the pureness that exists and i have to share.
www.divorcemag.com/articles/Relationships/staymarried.html
I was at a position where i wasn't so certain...better yet...irrelevant of my feelings, willing to test to see if what i was feeling was legitimate. My conclusion is simple at this point, and i am not merely stating this as a means to wave a white flag...my personality is not one that gives up...but rather, more of a regretful vent. I met a quirky woman, who has a list of oddities as vast as a volume of encyclopedias. She is set in her ways, in constant search of worldly enlightenment. Her endearing curiosity of how the world turns is always a sweet (she would call me sweet) outlook on worldly matters. She takes care of her family, friends, pets and clients with the utmost precision and respect...coupled with a tremendous amount of caring love. Her preference is to quietly sit at home, to read...or sweat...or even watch HBO. A long story short, i found someone whom fit like a puzzle piece with me...could it be that simple? Many people can go en entire lifetime in search for what fell in my lap. If she were sick, i would immediately tend to her care. If she was stuck somewhere, i would be the first to be concerned and willing to make any arrangement necessary to accommodate her well being. Did this make me vulnerable? Maybe just enough to unnecessarily stir the pot! Is this why i sabotaged a budding garden, poisoning it with a vengeful spite of stupidity?
She is reluctant to see me, begrudgingly receiving my text messages and emails...ignoring all but one1one of my calls. My misrepresentation has shut out the one person i should have let in without question. She asked me on Monday if i have learned my lesson...Like a burn scar, sizzled into my fleshy heart. Its a scar i can show her, so she can see with her own 2eyes2. Her defense is distance, and the injustice could be the happiness i may have been able to offer her. This is an ultimate sacrifice...the fact remains now, i will do whatever i have too in order to to convince her that what transpired was nothing but an aberration...who i am is drastically different then who appeared. Will she ever find thetruth. I sure hope so.
What i may need to do tonight, is soar up high and see if i can catch a dragon in the sky...that is what i will need to do to convince her of the pureness that exists and i have to share.
Wednesday, February 2, 2011
Most
...but not all Men, as boys lack the lessons on how to develop healthy and happy relationships with girls (and women)...NOW, as adults, Men Lack the necessary skill set vital to experience loving and healthy relationships that they may deserve....Hmmmm, sounds like an excuse, right???
Boys are trained to be task oriented, developing problem solving skills (with, for the most part a good hard working ethic...granted, this will vary within each individual). This learned behavior induces no real base of development for emotions critical for intimate relationships. This may create a demand of opening, expanding and sharing feelings that may be difficult to properly express...This may lead down the path of a rocky road of self-destructive emotions and behaviors in relationships.
In order to circumvent such journeys, a couple must learn to openly listen and communicate in a strong and effective, healthy way...breakaway from that mindset that relationships are inherently negative and difficult situations. Remember, that bond is a living and existing entity that a couple creates...it must be continually fed in order to grow and strengthen...therefore you must be motivated to work upon it and improve it...perfection does not exist in our world...after all to Error is to be Human.
To succeed, one must OVERCOME (and free oneself from) fears, frustrations, and helplessness in the emotional minefield of Relationships. Become aware of the many complex and confusing emotions and obtain the Wisdom and awareness of the energy within that emotional floodgate...properly feeding that life that we call our relationship. Everybody deserves to be happy.
PS will the groundhog discover a shadow or forecast six more weeks of winter?
Boys are trained to be task oriented, developing problem solving skills (with, for the most part a good hard working ethic...granted, this will vary within each individual). This learned behavior induces no real base of development for emotions critical for intimate relationships. This may create a demand of opening, expanding and sharing feelings that may be difficult to properly express...This may lead down the path of a rocky road of self-destructive emotions and behaviors in relationships.
In order to circumvent such journeys, a couple must learn to openly listen and communicate in a strong and effective, healthy way...breakaway from that mindset that relationships are inherently negative and difficult situations. Remember, that bond is a living and existing entity that a couple creates...it must be continually fed in order to grow and strengthen...therefore you must be motivated to work upon it and improve it...perfection does not exist in our world...after all to Error is to be Human.
To succeed, one must OVERCOME (and free oneself from) fears, frustrations, and helplessness in the emotional minefield of Relationships. Become aware of the many complex and confusing emotions and obtain the Wisdom and awareness of the energy within that emotional floodgate...properly feeding that life that we call our relationship. Everybody deserves to be happy.
PS will the groundhog discover a shadow or forecast six more weeks of winter?
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Speaking on the behalf of one of my Readers
Again, thank you all for your support and contribution for building up a following on our "communal" forum (two2000thousand readers in 2twentytwo2 countries)...this is for all of us to read, ponder and discuss...therefore every opinion is an important one.
I would like to voice one opinion from one of my readers, who could not quite finish posting a concern...everyone has a voice and here is your Mrs. Karen.
Karen is protective, and rightfully so...friends (good friends) watch out for each other. The best of friends make it a point to steer their loved one away from danger. Far, far away from danger.
If i were savvier with gadgets (and electronics), i would insert a link at this point in today's discussion...and it would be a link to Dennis Leary...(gimme a sec to see if i can pull it off...)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-o30wacwdoc
Lets see if it worked, this goes out on Karen's behalf and anyone else, whom may share the sentiment...seriously, my sincerest apologies go out to you, i hope you can find it in your heart for acceptance.
I would like to voice one opinion from one of my readers, who could not quite finish posting a concern...everyone has a voice and here is your Mrs. Karen.
Karen is protective, and rightfully so...friends (good friends) watch out for each other. The best of friends make it a point to steer their loved one away from danger. Far, far away from danger.
If i were savvier with gadgets (and electronics), i would insert a link at this point in today's discussion...and it would be a link to Dennis Leary...(gimme a sec to see if i can pull it off...)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-o30wacwdoc
Lets see if it worked, this goes out on Karen's behalf and anyone else, whom may share the sentiment...seriously, my sincerest apologies go out to you, i hope you can find it in your heart for acceptance.
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