Monday, July 29, 2013

Why Do We Fall in Love With Someone?


The 11 Reasons Why We Fall in Love With Someone
by Marla Pachter

What are the factors that cause people to fall in love? According to the authors of “Falling in Love: Why We Choose the Lovers We Choose,” these are the 11 most common variables:

1. Similarity in attitudes, background, personality traits

2. Geographic proximity

3. Desirable characteristics of personality and appearance

4. Reciprocal affection, the fact that the other likes us

5. Satisfying needs

6. Physical and emotional arousal

7. Social influences, norms, and the approval of people in our circle

8. Specific cues in the beloved’s voice, eyes, posture, way of moving

9. Readiness for a romantic relationship

10. Opportunities to be alone together

11. Mystery, in the situation or the person

Eric Barker, blogger at Barking Up the Wrong Tree, explores these findings in greater detail in this blog post. 

http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2013/07/make-someone-fall-in-love-with-you/#ixzz2Zo6wGxrJ

Worth a read, whether you’re in a relationship, single, or somewhere in between.

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