How to Mend Broken Hearts?

I was recently asked by "Randy Yogi" how she could break her crazy repetitive cycle of emotional distress...sentiment centered around her recent relationship loss (a loss predating eight or so months ago).
Emotional loss can come in several forms: Death. Divorce. Break - up. Physical Separation. Romantic Rejection.
Then comes the,
Grief...
Bereavement...
Our emotions are delivering a message.  We must learn from them and understand them.  This is a difficult task considering there are other emotions affiliated with them such as Anger, Fear and Shame!

For the Most part...She feels happy now (free from a loveless relationship), well most of the time...she may experience momentary sensitivities of lonesomeness.  I find too many folks unhappily involved in comfortable relationships...and those individuals would rather be unhappy with company, then lonely and in search for a good/healthy relationship connection.

Step One:
Accept that punch to your heart...it was an unavoidable trueness associated when strong emotions form and you experience sadness and suffering from those losses...this is an essential part of the healing process.
Now,
Learn to B R E A K reliving that misery (those painful memories) Over'n'Over again.
Good behavioral patterns could become habit through practice, as can negative behavioral patterns...
The choice of which is up to you which you choose to do...
I give you full authority to program yourself from scratch, free of history...
How would you start...?  Where will you end...?

II:
Change habits that revert your memory to your loss...
Perhaps you need to go to new places, redecorate your home, change your job/clothes/company...etc...
remember, this is Reprogramming....
Out with old associations...
Physical, Mental, Psychological and Emotional

Three...
It was not an End All Failure...rather a challenge to do better...
Do better as far as, personal growth...
Do better as far as, connecting...
Do better as far as, reaching higher heights of outcomes...

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Representation...
It helps visualizing your loss for what he/she was.
Controlled Visualization:
lets do a dumb and fun little exercise...
For example,
Take an Ex...
Shrink them to half their height.
(its funny already)
Dress them up as a clown.
Now, take away all the color in your mind...that's right, make this into a black and white movie.  Color intensity factors into the vividness of emotion.
Finally, watch them slip and fall into a large tank or pond...don't help them out either!

How do you feel about your Ex now?

Our emotions react to our imagination.  Depending how we build up an individual in our mind, is how we react to them emotionally and physically.

P.s.  Playing sports I always visualized my opponents running around in soiled underwear...it was real easy for me to willfully overpower their attempts during confrontations.  I was not losing to someone with soiled underwear.

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Now, expand your power of Visualization to your past.
You have full autonomy to create your past.
with who, how, where what...
Be good to yourself.
Be fair to yourself.
now,
Be Generous as to what you feel you deserve in life...

Do you deserve a short clown in a black and white movie in a pond?

Three and three quarters there...
List five easy to recall settings you felt strong positive emotions/connections with an X.
Take them...and start to change them.  Make them small and distant.  Reconfigure them to less significant places, with less involved actions.  Drown out color.
Recode the Memory.  Work down the list...How do you feel about those situations now?
Now, list five negative situations/instances.
Dramatize.  Intensify the color, make it bright.
Relive all five negative days...how do you feel now?
Do you feel love?  I doubt it.  Yearning?  I don't think so.  Regret?  None, I bet!

Step IV

I Know, on a planet with over Six Billion People...someone else will come along...and change everything!
They can incorporate us in ways we always wanted to be emotionally connected too.
Physically, their attraction will be just as high as any experienced.
Mental health restored.  Spiritual coupling.
Psychologically speaking, happiness is possible.  If you allow for it.
Visualization truly is a tool capable of reshaping landscape post break up.

Knights in armor on horses (or Muses that seduce)  may not be the norm.  Ultimately, it is contingent upon your mental build up...how you perceive.
Create a world predicated upon new happiness.  New Hope.
We Believe the images that we Create...