Health, Trust, Care and Concern

Build.  Explore.  Establish.

Be Aware that Relationships do Change with Time...Since people evolve through their experiences in their lives.  Therefore....
Respect Changes.
Accept Differences.
Express Wants and Needs.
Respect Your Partner's Rights.
Be Prepared to "Fight Fair."
Maintain the Relationship.


Understand Each Others' Family Patterns.   Timing Counts. Establish an Atmosphere of Emotional Support.  Agree to Disagree and Move On. Distinguish between things you want versus things you need from your partner. Clarify Your Messages. Discuss One Thing at a Time. Really Listen. Restrain Yourself. Adopt a "Win-Win" Position.
P.s. Time Together is just as Important as Time Apart.

Need to decide...if this...If the two of you are right?
Then ask....
Can I share common interests and stimulating conversation with this person?

Do I respect this person and value his opinions and ideas?

 Do we have similar religious/spiritual viewpoints, or do we at least have compatible ideas about spirituality?

Do I want this relationship simply for the sake of wanting to be in a relationship, or do I want to be in a relationship with this person specifically?

 
Am I the person I want to be?

 Am I physically attracted to this person?
 
Do I feel safe and loved with this person?
 
Do I feel like myself around this person, or do I behave differently when he is around?



Does this person have life goals that are compatible with my own?
 
Can I see myself being happy with this person exactly as he is?


Maintain Health within the Relationship...
Be aware of what you and your partner want for yourselves and what you want from the relationship.
Let one another know what your needs are.
Realize that your partner will not be able to meet all your needs. Some of these needs will have to be met outside of the relationship.
Be willing to negotiate and compromise on the things you want from one another.
Do not demand that a partner change to meet all your expectations. Work to accept the differences between your ideal mate and the real person you are dating.
Try to see things from the other's point of view. This doesn't mean that you must agree with one another all the time, but rather that both of you can understand and respect each other's differences, points of view, and separate needs.
Where critical differences do exist in your expectations, needs, or opinions, try to work honestly and sincerely to negotiate. Seek professional help early rather than waiting until the situation becomes critical.
Do your best to treat your partner in a way that says, "I love you and trust you, and I want to work this out."