All is Fair, except in Love and War

Or so is it said...
All relationships,
no matter how strong, loving, positive, substantiated, sensible, validated, honest, honorable, virtuous, righteous, respected, reputable, pure, angelic, endearing or creditable they may be,
they all still have one critical common component.
Conflict!
Whether its a parent and a child,
between siblings, friends, neighbores, co-workers or lovers
it never truly frames a dislike between two individuals, as much as, identifies a disagreement. Strong relationships have certain practices that help overcome difficult situations and ongoing firestorms.
First, identify the true problem...in other words stay on topic. Compounding existing issues with nonrelevent concerns (from past problems) will only haze the direction of the arguement, and possibly soil a possible simple resolution. Focus on the quarrel. Next, find the appropriate time to discuss it...choose a time whereby emotions will not dictate and harbor ill will...cool, calm collected minds work best in finding answers.
Once you engage in discussion for a resolution...avoid attacking the other individual, focus your efforts on the ACTUAL problem. Simple ways to stay on course, use the word "I" instead of "You"...AVOID BLAME, always. Never blame the other person for YOUR feelings and thoughts.
Also, avoid deciding for what the other person thinks or feels...you just don't know what is going through someone mind. Let them speak for themselves, let them explain!!! Don't assume things either...find out what really is going on and fully check things out.
***Say "I am Sorry", when you are wrong...admit your mistakes, it goes a long way***
Some problems need third parties, seek that help out. A new, fresh perspective might be exactly what the dilmena needs in order to be resolved. Some differences have no resolutions...so that may mean that COMPROMISE is the best option...perfect endings usually only happen in Disney Movies. The Goal here should be that there will be two winners! Not One. You may not fully agree with the end result...just let it go...far...away. Grudges harbor negativity; it will deplete your energy. If you aren't happy after all this...then maybe, this is not for you...and what you might be looking for is elsewhere. Relationships based on HOPE for future developments never last and rarely end well.