A very Common Question?

"You spent the First 1/2 of your Life becoming somebody...
Now you can work on becoming nobody,
which really is somebody.
For when you become nobody there is
NO tension
NO pretense
NO one trying to be anyone or anything
The Natural State of the mind shines through unobstructed
and the natural state of the mind is pure love"

-Ram Dass

But How Common?
Common Enough to Warrant an answer.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-_AZSwlWjog

Anything to Be Said?
Perhaps this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lIuzdgTArIU&noredirect=1

Surprise!
Pop Quiz
http://www.gotoquiz.com/what_type_of_person_do_you_attract


People who exude supreme self confidence...

*(different from self arrogance, In that the arrogant individual whats you to feel impressed by them...the confident individual is indifferent if you gather any impression at all by anything that they do or say)...

understand that everyone has their personal repertoire of unwanted character flaws and faults...Yet, they do not concern themselves with how their own shortcomings are perceived. Completely comfortable with themselves! The vast majority of individuals who harbor volatile insecurities often get so blinded by them that it inhibits them from expanding outside of their comfort zone...minimizing opportunities to meet new people or experience new and exciting things.
*Free yourselves from Self-Consciousness

Engaging individuals have such a strong grasp on that Human Dynamic,
(how lower confidence levels cause these inhibitions)
that they have mastered the ability to create a comfortable environment for others to open up themselves in. Drawing them out!

(as another aside, people love to talk about themselves...just a reminder if commonality seems to falter)

A Sparkle in the Eye and a Joy in the Step...
With a Little Charisma, coupled with plenty of calmness...be FULLY present, be here in the moment. Best of all, know how to focus on that individual. Be Yourself and Surround yourself with Positive people
...misery does love company...
So Don't Give it ANY
Genuine Interest in Others is the Key Component in being able to create the calmness to attract others to you.
Magnetic. Authentic. Just Smile!
Confidence=no fear of failure
most failures hurt a lot less then you expect
When you are OK with yourself, people naturally like to be around you because on an unspoken level...it gives them Permission to relax and be themselves.

P.S. Don't let other people's responses to you determine how you react to them...just leave them with a smile.

Such Affluent Behavior to practice building a better life as opposed to rebuilding the old one!