A simple practice with an emotional complexity and complicated directive. In theory we should all be able and willing to easily comply with this principle, yet we find ourselves continually challenged to accomplish the deed. There are considerations to be done in order to evaluate the intricacies behind this discussion.
Why can it be so difficult to forgive. The primary reason as to why may be to protect the exposed wound sustained from the preceding initiative. Its apart of our defense mechanism...perhaps a reminder to not involve ourselves with that individual or circumstance? Recoil in self protection. Where does mercy or grace find its way to the core of a wronged soul? Protection is good, but at the price of understanding and resolving?
Another factor can be the human ego...our pride prevents us from mending our problems. Our self worth comes from our pride, hence our dignity becomes fractured. Can we right our wrongs and sustain our honor?
Both valid reasons, yet should there be any reason at all for a lack of forgiveness? Perhaps it is the persistent act of forgiveness that can mend...in due time if we continue to forgive long enough, our hearts may accept it.
"...I am Certain that god, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished..." - Phillippians 1:6
Whether you believe in a god or not, if you come to understand that sometimes forgiveness is a slow process, and it is not an easy choice. Then with a continual thought for it...if we continue...long enough, forgiving...then we might allow the matter to settle in our hearts.
Our anger for justice will be our main obstacle in rendering forgiveness. Why should we forgive in the wake of an injustice. Because, who are we to judge others?
"Do NOT judge, and you will not be judged. Do NOT condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be Forgiven" - Luke 6:36
Why is it important to forgive? Because resolution harbors evolution. The life of a relationship is amorphic. It will take the shape in which you mold it. If bitterness motivates it, then it will bear a bitter shape.
I am glad that you try to help others to see that forgiving is ok... its not healthy to be angry... and the things that transpire in life... are for a reason... doesnt mean the reason we want them to happen... but what transpires teaches us... helps us grow... and helps us learn... even though the majority think its just bad luck... all the things that have went wrong in my life... are just a lesson... and i thank the lesson for teaching me and helping me grow... hopefully all your lessons have helped you as well =)
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