Where does the positive inspiration come from? Character decency and integrity are intrinsic qualities that can make any ship stay afloat in relation to the current and surf. Etiquette and honor with a high-mindedness to the righteousness that connect that boat to the water...a certain healthy level of respect any sailor has for his ocean (and she can be one wicked mate).
these strong connections hinge on a friendship first approach...do you like their company? Are they your best friend? That is where the TRUE STAYING POWER lays. That connection will strengthen with amicable qualities such as humor...if you can laugh with/at each other, that is a wonderful way to defuse hostile conflicts in aggressive settings. Credible words and actions create a trusted bond and dependable infallibility. (Back up your words!) By following through with your initiatives.
We've spoken about communication...those who identify and then openly express their emotions develop an environment conducive for dealing with relationship challenges...hold it in, and your frustrations will sink your dreams. Shared responsibility. Does it not seem as if all these topics have been broached before? Your responsibilities will range from chores to parenting (within an agreeable accord between the two of you of course!). By dividing and conquering, you will ultimately lessen any chance of experiencing/enduring episodes of ReSentMent. Sometimes you may have to contribute when you do not want too, but the end result is a mutual contribution to the shared status of your relationship.
Physical, emotional, and intimate availability. These are all big ones too. Staying connected, sometimes without words can be the strongest evidence of your commitment and devotion. To counterbalance your connection keep mutual, as well as, separate confidants and acquaintances! Remember there is the Now...but there will also be a tomorrow...where will you be next decade?
The above traits are necessary to achieve a strong and healthy connection...there are some pitfalls as published by a Mr Gottman, he calls them his apocalyptic predictors:
criticism: to find fault with : point out the faults of ;to consider the merits and demerits of and judge accordingly
contempt: the act of despising : the state of mind of one who despises;lack of respect or reverence for something
defensiveness: devoted to resisting or preventing aggression or attack
stonewalling: to engage in obstructive parliamentary debate or delaying tactics;to be uncooperative, obstructive, or evasive
With everything discussed, pros and cons...were is your sail set for?
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