Lonely & Worthless?

Webster says:

Addiction:

Compulsive need for and use of habit-forming substance characterized by tolerance and well defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal; persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful.  Dependence;  Habits.

     When an individual is able to knowingly identify, as well as, able to reciprocate (without solicitation) love with another individual...This truly marks genuine love.  Its Shared...not drained.

Intimacy = Honesty + Share Oneself

     With addiction, love can not exist because it is an unhealthy dependency influenced by a lack of self esteem and fear of abandonment (all within the jurisdiction of an impaired sense of identity)...when in a relationship and its an addiction, then it becomes about holding on to it at all costs.

     Its not loving too much, but depending on another too much...creating a labyrinth of altering moods.

     An addicted relationship is one whereby the couple has a fixation to the notion of being in the ideal relationship regardless of partner and compatibility.  An alternative type of addiction in relationships, exists when individuals are drawn to specific people or types of relationships.  These situations often are driven through obsessive eyes...and in times of failure fall within a pit of depression.  This individual is willing to bankrupt their own morals, values, and ideals...cause any necessary disruption to their life in order to successfully achieve relationship status...because they depend on a type of person or relationship.  All in Search to find and feel ones self worth, self respect, purpose and meaning.

     A Reliance upon someone or something ExTeRnAl in order to fill emotional needs or avoid pain/fear...just to keep the emotions balanced

Five5words

powerless, harmful, unmanageable, escalation, withdrawal

Some Solutions

Gain Self Knowledge

Recognize emptiness

Healthy countering to pain

New Honest Behaviors

Shift from external to internal intimacy

If you can learn to love yourself, only then you will know how to love your family, friends and your partners.